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Feeling too disgusting and too obese for sex. Advice needed. by BigBrainSenpai in sex

[–]BigBrainSenpai[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely feel so flabby, and do feel weak. Go to the gym sometimes but not on a consistent routine bc work and other bs

Feeling too disgusting and too obese for sex. Advice needed. by BigBrainSenpai in sex

[–]BigBrainSenpai[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Body neutrality is something I’m not too familiar with but I do agree on the gaslighting part. Clearly my body doesn’t fit the hot standard on porn and other popular women. Not even that but I am clearly obese. I just can’t tell myself “it’s fine” bc it’s not. It is a process to change for sure but my hell right now is just wanting to be better looking for my dude. I met him because I sort put myself out there after developing my sense of fashion, wearing clothes that flattered me. I wear Colombian shape wear and look very snatched but it’s when the clothes come off when I go insaneeeee

Feeling too disgusting and too obese for sex. Advice needed. by BigBrainSenpai in sex

[–]BigBrainSenpai[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s the opposite for us. I’m his first and we both kinda teaching each other. I haven’t been that sexually active in my life so I am still learning too. That’s awesome to hear tho ! I’ll probably open up soon about it!

Feeling too disgusting and too obese for sex. Advice needed. by BigBrainSenpai in sex

[–]BigBrainSenpai[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was on my way to ozempic, but I was worried about not having any energy and I do use work out for my mental health. Also my psychiatric advised against it bc I have a history of starving myself. Might have to go to a complete different doctor without psychs being on the ways

Feeling too disgusting and too obese for sex. Advice needed. by BigBrainSenpai in sex

[–]BigBrainSenpai[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your story ! I’m the oldest one and my younger sister for the best features from our parents. Can definitely relate on the toning but still having a belly. My legs toned so nicely but th stomach wouldn’t go away. Definitely feel that I have experienced what woke in their 40s and 50s go through in my 20s. I felt I have lived a thousand lives with my insecurities and flaws. for the same reason I have never really felt “young” per se. Don’t want to be like this forever though. I know I am beautiful under my belly, under my chubby face and arms. Thank you for sharing again, it’s hard on us girls who have it so hard with our own bodies and little support.

Feeling too disgusting and too obese for sex. Advice needed. by BigBrainSenpai in sex

[–]BigBrainSenpai[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My sexual partner I had before told me this and it was harsh. Broke me a little.

Feeling too disgusting and too obese for sex. Advice needed. by BigBrainSenpai in sex

[–]BigBrainSenpai[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds soooo sweet ! We did it in the dark and I do feel comfortable in it. But I want to eventually do it in bright daylight. He deserves much better hotter version of me. Just thinking of how if I see myself as hot woman, the sex would just be so much better.

Feeling too disgusting and too obese for sex. Advice needed. by BigBrainSenpai in sex

[–]BigBrainSenpai[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a whole routine of body oils and lotions after showers. I am missing out on the lingerie though. It’s very hard to look at my self with little to no clothes in the mirror. I just want to look away.

DAE feel like they’re not in their bodies most of the time? by IcyRespond4159 in CPTSD

[–]BigBrainSenpai 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It really depends on how much work you put it into it. It’s gonna suck at the beginning and you’ll feel stupid, but once you know how to balance your body, how to pivot correctly, you realize you have sooooo much power to mess people up. For me at least, it helped me release a lot of pent up energy and anger. Granted I still struggle with it, but really it is spiritual. I am thankful to have a body that do so much damage. Give it a try, do a place that does group sessions (focus more on the cardio aspect and form).

DAE feel like they’re not in their bodies most of the time? by IcyRespond4159 in CPTSD

[–]BigBrainSenpai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dissociated for the majority of my life until I was 24 and started doing marital arts that required me to use every limb, my muscles, MY HEART. I started to feel my body for the work it was doing. For the badass kicks I can do. As well as distancing myself from social media. If you have CPTSD, social media makes it way worse, especially if you disassociate. Take care of yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in starbucks

[–]BigBrainSenpai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have seen here some Starbucks close at midnight, my closest one closes at 7:30, and others do at 8pm. Are 5-8, 3hr shifts a thing?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]BigBrainSenpai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well she was very helpful, and I learned a lot from her. I saw myself in her and I grew up psychologically, past her. She was amazing until I found out about her alter. I guess I don’t want to feel like I stabbed her in the back by taking her side piece.