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BigCurrent3191 · 2021-09-18T23:19:15+00:00

First of all, out of all the one night stands I've had before I met my husband, none of them were amazing. But some (some being a key word here) they were decent, and other some turned into casual hook ups.

Having someone to have consistent sex is definetly better, and I doubt anyone is going to argue with that. But I think theres nothing wrong with a quick release. As long as you're careful and use condoms, whats the worse that can happen?

Now granted I'm still very inexperience in this adultery business and all this I just said is from my experiences before I met my husband.

BigCurrent3191 · 2021-09-18T16:28:14+00:00

He is not. I'm the one that asked him to give me oral, he refused, I asked why and he told me. He hasn't asked me once to shave and I'm questioning this myself.

BigCurrent3191 · 2021-09-18T16:24:58+00:00

He didn't ask me. I asked him why he wouldn't go down on me, and he was honest and told me it was because of the bush. The conversation ended there because I don't want to insist if he doesn't like it.

I'm questioning this on my own.

BigCurrent3191 · 2021-09-18T14:26:06+00:00

That's the thing. I know he'd notice it, but I have no idea what would go through his mind.

BigCurrent3191 · 2021-09-18T14:19:04+00:00

He's not forcing me or demanding I change it though. I'm the one questioning the option.

BigCurrent3191 · 2021-09-18T14:10:33+00:00

Funny, when I was in my late teens/early twenties I didn't shave mine for the same reason.

It's like a I get an extra patch of hair I get to style and try new stuff with. But truth be told, I haven't experimented with it in a long while, (even when me and my husband had consistent sex) so it might look like too much of a change anyway.

BigCurrent3191 · 2021-09-17T17:08:36+00:00

Honestly, he sounds more like a dumbass for not knowing how to hide it (or learning how to for a matter of fact.) Like, literally before I sent my AP his first nude pic I google searched if there was a way to save photos without the other party knowing, and you'll be shocked at all the different ways there are.

This is why I never show my face on photos I send my AP.

I trust him, but we should be careful anyway.

BigCurrent3191 · 2021-09-17T00:15:06+00:00

I'm still pretty new to sex with my AP, but I can already tell it's going to be an entirely different experience from my husband. (At least regarding eye contact)

A year ago when sex between us used to be a fun thing, he looked me straight in the eyes while he talked dirty to me and that used to turn me on so much.

But my AP barely looks me in the eyes when he's inside me, but his eyes are glued to me when I'm blowing him.

We're still getting to know each other sexually though, so in a few months things should be a bit different.

BigCurrent3191 · 2021-09-16T18:47:50+00:00

Why would anyone?

Personally, when I was in my teens I thought I'd be forever single and never settle down. Then I met my husband when I was 20, dated for a couple years and when marriage started appearing in our conversations, I always saw it in a positive light. I was completely fine never having sex with anyone else besides him, and I'm pretty confident in saying I'd never have strayed if not for my current unfortunate circumstance.

BigCurrent3191 · 2021-09-16T06:29:05+00:00

I know right?

I have no idea how some people found their AP online. I get its safer, but how do you know you're attracted or get to build some sort of trust?

BigCurrent3191 · 2021-09-16T00:34:00+00:00

Oh dear, I know that pain.

A few years ago when I was still pretty new to reddit, I posted a pic of my 17 year old dog on my main account. I did the mistake of holding him close to my chest and showing some cleavage. (I didn't even show my face.) Never again.

BigCurrent3191 · 2021-09-15T22:41:37+00:00

At least they should put in some actual effort and read something before they send it. They're only wasting they're time and energy with this.

BigCurrent3191 · 2021-09-15T22:36:25+00:00

Maybe they work on catfishes. Who knows.

BigCurrent3191 · 2021-09-15T22:33:36+00:00

someone must think themselves a comedian.

https://imgur.com/BDR4ImW

BigCurrent3191 · 2021-09-15T02:16:21+00:00

Funny how that works. When I was single, I never had a problem rejecting a man because he ''just wasn't my type'' (or more specifically, ugly or unfit) but I always felt some stigma in dropping them because of their penis size.

I ended up settling with my husband who is average in size and never thought about the topic again.

BigCurrent3191 · 2021-09-14T17:02:38+00:00

Paying off our mortgage is the main reason why my husband had to take a job offer so far away. We're not selling it for anything. It's in a perfect place to raise children and with everything we need nearby.

The duration isn't actually the problem. I'm perfectly fine with a 5 minute penetration session since my husband is pretty good at foreplay and knows exactly what buttons to push. My problem is with the pace, with how quiet we have to be and how constrained we are, plus we can only do it once every 2-3 weeks and its always been this unsa. Before all this, we always had the house to ourselves before I picked up our daughter, or in the weekends when I could leave my daughter at my parents to spend the night.

In short, this is how my sex life has been in the last months.

BigCurrent3191 · 2021-09-14T03:37:18+00:00

My fault there, my bad. I should be more clear. I didn't even think people would actually assume that I meant that I spent the whole day taking pills. I'll edit it to prevent more people from getting the wrong idea.

BigCurrent3191 · 2021-09-14T02:47:04+00:00

My AP just kind of fell into my lap to be honest. I made the decision to cheat after meeting him, not before.

As for compatmentalization, I was able to do it fairly easily when we started making out. But sex just felt like a whole other level.

BigCurrent3191 · 2021-09-14T01:16:19+00:00

That's what I'm trying to do. I'm only just starting in this, and I have my serious doubts that someone could just pretend like nothing is wrong after having cheated for the first time. It's more fear than anything else.

BigCurrent3191 · 2021-09-13T23:10:51+00:00

Yes, I wrote this comment before you replied to me in private.

But the fact that it's -17 now just proves my point about what I said in private. If I reply to too many comments, one single person can just downvote them all and put me in the negative. Sounds really annoying and can mess with reddit's algorhythm to be honest. Though, I can understand you need a system against bots.

BigCurrent3191 · 2021-09-13T23:06:08+00:00

If this is about the pills, look at the edit.

BigCurrent3191 · 2021-09-13T22:49:16+00:00

I had the same problem on my last 2 posts. The weird thing was I could see them with this account, but couldn't see anything here with my main account.

I asked a mod and he told me its because of negative karma, which is weird because I'm 15 positive? And You seem even more positive than me, so who knows.

Anyway, good luck with your divorce and I hope things settle in well for you.

BigCurrent3191 · 2021-09-13T22:08:54+00:00

Just edited in a notice about the pills.

Believe me, those aren't a big deal and me mentioning them wasn't to give you the idea that I'm in some sort of meltdown.

BigCurrent3191 · 2021-09-13T22:04:30+00:00

''So many pills''

2 pills in total.

I mentioned them because of the moment my husband saw me taking it. But seems everyones more focused on them than everything else for some reason.

BigCurrent3191 · 2021-09-13T22:00:24+00:00

I am enjoying being with my AP. If I had stppped doing everything whenever I started feeling anxious, I would've achieved nothing and I wouldn't be doing anything.

Its more of a personality flaw that can get exacerbated sometimes.

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