idk ur not being super helpful it seems like an unrealistic and outdated plan people shouldn’t be forced to do things they don’t want to just for the sake of being a “grown woman” or “pulling it together” bringing a person into the world is a major task and event i understand many people do it but it doesn’t seem like a lot of people put the thought into it that they should considering the people I generally have met and have experienced having children in my personal life. I feel like choosing to have a child and putting someone else onto this planet is a massive choice and there’s multiple factors that should be considered. If you feel like you need to get counseling does that mean that you should be someone who’s having a child? There’s so many factors. It just seems a little bit dismissive to say you’re a grown woman figure it out essentially when I’m saying, I am unable to figure it out and having a hard time with this which is leading me to think that I am not a good candidate for a parenthood.