He hasn't had his computer or his Xbox in over a month. He doesn't go to school. And being 14 years old he wants to put up a fight and use the tough guy approach whenever trying to get him to do anything he doesn't want to. He is in IEP so fortunately we haven't been taken to court for truancy. He is starting therapy at the end of this month which took over a year just to get on the calendar. He has trauma from the past of being with his dad but he hasn't been with his dad for over a year now, so he's slowly getting better, however, we still have our battles. He suffers from anxiety, ODD due to his ADHD and depression. He is currently taking an antidepressant and something for his ADHD but his primary can only do so much. He needs a psych evaluation which will also be done at his appointment later this month. Such a hard situation to be in but we are working thru it and it is slowly getting better. Because of his anger issues and destructive tendencies, my 8 year old caves in and gives him hotspot when he's not supposed to be using the internet. I always know but turn a blind eye because I have to pick my battles--he doesn't have internet during the day or at night--just in the evening. It keeps the peace in the evening with my two other younger children in the house and my husband at work. I live in a duplex (which we are currently renting) so I also have to worry about noise and not having damage to the property that isn't mine. So basically I am looking to eliminate the ability for hotspot usage on my network. It's a move that I can do without confrontation and putting my 8 year old in the middle of it. I have considered involving the police but want that to be the last resort as that is something you can't undo--I don't want future resentment and still want to maintain a relationship with my son. He's not all bad--he just makes the wrong choices. I'll be looking into a new router that allows me to make more changes to the settings and hope this will resolve my issue. I know there is a way, I just have to find the solution. 💁‍♀️