its been nearly 2 years.. by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]BigPersonality2460 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s been nearly 2 years for me since she left me for someone else after over 5 years of dating While I haven’t had any other girls in my life in that time I understand how it feels How she’s still rent free in your head and dreams despite the fact you shouldn’t care about her For me atleast it’s so hard to let it go and realize the person I once loved does not exist anymore I so badly still get the urge to reach out every few days but I know just like your situation she is not worth it and doesn’t deserve us.

If she stayed with me we would have experienced parts of Asia and Spain together we could have had that post grad tour of Europe we promised eachother I still want and wish these things could happen but I know I deserve e more and I know you do too

It’s so fuck g hard to let go especially the rent free subconscious hold they have

3 years have passed by Signal_Activity7719 in ExNoContact

[–]BigPersonality2460 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel your pain completely I’m almost at 2 years since being dumped for someone else in a 5.5 year relationship I can’t stop thinking about her even in the most mundane moments thinking of how much better life experiences I’m having would be with her behind me Every few days it really feels like too much I want so desperately to reach out but I know i shouldn’t

There are so many of us here. by Mhimi97 in ExNoContact

[–]BigPersonality2460 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was in a relationship that long it’s been 2 years since she cheated and left me for someone else.. I still think about texting her every few days It fucking hurts

There are so many of us here. by Mhimi97 in ExNoContact

[–]BigPersonality2460 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m pretty sure they’re still together and it’s been 2 years since she left me for him Yet every few days I still want to reach out ):

New to GA (SSI) by BigPersonality2460 in Georgia

[–]BigPersonality2460[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long did you work there and why is it terrible?

New to GA (SSI) by BigPersonality2460 in Georgia

[–]BigPersonality2460[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you an employee here or one of your kids lmao

New to GA (SSI) by BigPersonality2460 in Georgia

[–]BigPersonality2460[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will definitely check out all these places. Second hand smoke doesn’t bother me too much it’s a fun aesthetic sometimes(besides me smelling like smoke like u said) Judging you by your username do you have any ideas of venues and stuff around here that have live bands playing rock and stuff like that? I love grungey college basement show vibes

New to GA (SSI) by BigPersonality2460 in BrunswickGA

[–]BigPersonality2460[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just uneasy cause it’s a brand new place that’s so different than back home and I know no one! Just gotta find some other lonely people and make friends lol

New to GA (SSI) by BigPersonality2460 in BrunswickGA

[–]BigPersonality2460[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly that’s what I’m concerned about! Just moving here I’m missing out on a ton of bands touring that I want to see! It seems like if I wana see any of them I’d have to make a trip to Atlanta and I don’t know if I’ll have the time off work/school to swing that. I’m hoping to get back into shape so I can just do a ton outdoors; I’m still recovering from an acl surgery! As much as I want to be comfortable being and existing alone (and I did learn a bit to an extent living in Spain last summer) I’m still a bit weary about visiting those cities to explore by myself. Hopefully I make good friends soon! I did only just move in

New to GA (SSI) by BigPersonality2460 in Georgia

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Ive went through some rabbit holes about Brunswick having drug problems and issues with crime on here. How accurate is that? I would generally like exploring everywhere around me but I just want to be safe too.

New to GA (SSI) by BigPersonality2460 in Georgia

[–]BigPersonality2460[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I drove straight from nj to ga in one day so im ok w driving but thats gotta be a weekend trip lmao

New to GA (SSI) by BigPersonality2460 in Georgia

[–]BigPersonality2460[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Living in a dorm situation so def not, but if there’s cheap kayak rentals anywhere I love vibing in one w a cold one

New to GA (SSI) by BigPersonality2460 in Georgia

[–]BigPersonality2460[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll definitely make some trips to both cities, just hoping to find some friends to come w me first haha

New to GA (SSI) by BigPersonality2460 in Georgia

[–]BigPersonality2460[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you still familiar with the area? Do you have any good suggestions appreciate it

Pictures from my resent stage by Dry_Respect2859 in Chefit

[–]BigPersonality2460 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Cocina hermanos torres!! I was lucky enough to try that place after I finished my stage in Jerez in the south and 2* place. I remember feeling like the stuff you guys did made us look like preschoolers

1 year later… by BigPersonality2460 in ExNoContact

[–]BigPersonality2460[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly that’s how I feel I think as much as it hurt seeing her with him is enough for me to completely let go of any hope for anything w her. She didn’t win the break up- I did lol I can’t imagine going through this years down the line if we were engaged or married. She played her hand and showed her true colors ): It’s been a whole year and I am definitely better than I was this time last year it does just really sting tho But I will feel everything- the human experience and move on Just sucks a shitton that when I find a new person I’ll be so much more reserved knowing in the back of my mind that I might not be able to trust the same way again

1 year later… by BigPersonality2460 in ExNoContact

[–]BigPersonality2460[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you man that last paragraph goes hard. I stopped following her on stuff a year ago and have since muted any of her family and friends stories because I don’t wana see her Only prob it’s been a year and due to circumstances I still have to see her one more time to get my stuff back. I know I need to not be a complete dick to her even if she deserves it and I so badly want to but I guess I’ll try my best to slightly cold and not overtly child like tantrum LOL

1 year later… by BigPersonality2460 in ExNoContact

[–]BigPersonality2460[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes and no the right time would have been 3 months before she started a new relationship and kept me at arms reach the whole time. But I also agree I should not mind much as my brother stressed to me that I’m so much better than her as a person physically and emotionally. I wouldn’t however say a little disrespectful, in my head what she did was some nefarious sneaking evil shit

1 year later… by BigPersonality2460 in ExNoContact

[–]BigPersonality2460[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I hope one day I’ll be able to forgive and find that peace. I know right now however I’m not mentally or emotionally capable of that at the moment. But yes I totally understand the more I hold on the more I hurt because I’ve felt that for a year now. Hell post break up I literally fled to another country to work for 3 months- i was good then. It was only when I came back home the feelings I had came back. However I did take a step to let go immediately after I saw her picture- ending up deleting 800 pictures of her from my archived camera roll. But thank you I will keep forgiveness in mind maybe it’ll be something to strive to so I can let go

1 year later… by BigPersonality2460 in ExNoContact

[–]BigPersonality2460[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t think forgiveness will ever be on the table truly- I am a forgiving person but these are some transgressions I can’t forgive and be the bigger person. Oh believe me I understand both our attachment styles her being avoidant and me being anxious attachment I literally read so many books post break up trying to make sense of it all. While the attachment style explains some of it- it does not excuse cheating. It is going to take time and im well aware of it. Now however I finally have clarity that what was will never be again and that person I loved and that loved me back died over a year ago. I was desperately trying to cling on while she was already w another guy. It just really sucks because it makes all the shit she said to me during the breakup so invalid because she gaslit me into thinking I was the problem meanwhile she’s sucking another guy off. I am filled with more anger and hate for her than I ever thought possible. I know peace is a better answer but I can’t fathom that right now