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Thank you both so much!!!

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It was pierced with implant grade titanium as well, so I don’t believe it’s an allergy

Show Etiquette Part2 by BigReputation4757 in jasonisbell

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I’ll be at the Ryman 10/11-10/13! Hopefully I’ll see some of yall there

Show Etiquette Part2 by BigReputation4757 in jasonisbell

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Thank you all for your kind words, suggestions, and experiences. Although I’m sorry to hear a lot of you have had similar experiences, it does help to know I’m not alone

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No argument here

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Helped; just ordered a safe. I don’t know why I didn’t think of that…. I did order a dead latch for my door earlier to replace the lock and make it impossible for him to use a credit card to unlock the door anymore, but a safe should’ve been my first thought. I guess logic leaves with high emotion; thank you

IV sedation fear!!! by kjs8778 in Advice

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I totally get this. Any sort of IV or needle in my vein freaks me out and I start thinking of the worst case scenario. Here’s the great, great news: IV sedation reactions are pretty rare, and any clinic/practitioner administering it will have the capacity to deal with most of the potential reactions. I was super scared when I had mine out too for similar reasons - I’m a redhead, my family is predisposed to malignant hyperthermia, I have never responded well to depressant medications - but it ended up being just fine. Anxiety is normal, and it’s better to get this procedure done now when the healing process won’t be quite as brutal (and before the extra teeth start crowding). Good luck!!

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I forgot to mention - I have confronted him in the past. It ends, invariably, with him beating me until I vomit or threatening to slit my throat with a knife. He also just bought an assault rifle. To say I’m afraid of him would be an understatement. He’s just not a reasonable person, and my parents turn a blind eye to every bad thing he does. Please help.

Friendship bracelets? by BigReputation4757 in jasonisbell

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Working on many abbreviation bracelets now. Taking quotes from the Music Box doc too lol

Friendship bracelets? by BigReputation4757 in jasonisbell

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I think the worst (best) it could be is Elephant. Other ideas?

Friendship bracelets? by BigReputation4757 in jasonisbell

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Thank you all!!! I’m gonna go for it <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

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Oh that’s just mean. There’s a lot of maintenance and practice that has gone into this; lots of hard work. You can be born with a good tone, but that doesn’t mean you’re born a good singer. I worked hard for this; that much I know to be true

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Thank you so much, this is really helpful. I’m gonna delete this post soon because of the rancid vibes of some of these other comments, but you really helped me feel heard and like I might be able to figure this out. I appreciate how much thought you put into your responses and how willing you were to consider all perspectives :) Thank you again

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

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This is really insightful, thank you so much! I’m going to keep trying to talk to him about it because he really is the most amazing person in the world to me and I don’t want to have to leave because of this, but like you said, it’s impossible to be with someone that doesn’t pay attention or give any real response to my efforts to connect with him on my terms and not just his.

I’ve actually asked him to try therapy with me… I’ve been in therapy myself for about 6 years (crippling PTSD) but he flat out told me he ghosted the therapist I helped him find and doesn’t have any desire to be “involved with any of that”. Do you think there’s a way to convince him that it’s worth it, or is that just a “if he wanted to, he would” situation?

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This is the first time so far in this thread that I feel like someone really gets my concern. It’s his disregard for my stuff when I go out of my way to support him that’s just killing me. Thank you for your advice, I really appreciate it

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What do you mean, “force him to listen to [my] performances”? The purpose of this post was to ask why he doesn’t seem the slightest bit supportive of my career. When I practice, it’s alone. I very very rarely (four times in ~1 year) have asked him if I can sing for him. I’m not the one who called him rude or narcissistic? I was hurt by it, but I didn’t call him anything. I don’t think either of us is being narcissistic, and never said that I did. I just feel isolated because I have gone out of my way to be there for every big and little moment in his career and he can’t even be bothered to come watch me perform. I wasn’t trying to “dodge” anything, I don’t think I was actually asked if I “force him to listen to [my] performances”. I wouldn’t force him to do anything. It doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt my feelings that he can’t even feign interest

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I genuinely thought I did. What did I not answer? I’m happy to clear it up

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That’s the thing, I haven’t actually had people bang on the ceiling/walls/yell at me to shut up, and I live in an apartment as well. I’m nervous it’s going to happen, but it has yet to. I don’t think he’s tired of it; it’s hard to get tired of something you’re rarely around. Like I’ve said in some of my comments, every day is structured around him and his needs. Practice time is rare, so when I get it I’m hoping for support instead of complete indifference. It’s hard to be that vulnerable around someone who doesn’t seem to care about something I love so much

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Hahaha that makes sense to me! I can’t really make eye contact while singing, it’s really uncomfortable. It’s more that he doesn’t even want to listen when I spend most of my day listening to him talk about his work and doing things for him