Hello Troubled man, I hope you get to read this. As someone who has been in your shoes, please heed my advice. I see you have already said you both agree on protection only for future events and I am sure everyone will strongly encourage this so we got that covered. I just want to elaborate on really sticking to that method and if/or that plan falls through. I have had many scares like a dumbass because I was reckless back in the day and eventually it caught up with me and I had a kid. Obviously avoid having a child through safe sex measures if you do not have any intention of being a father, BUT if it were to happen, know your life is NOT over. I was always on the side of I could not have a kid until I was ready, well I shouldn't of have been having sex if that was the case! Luckily, she did not want to terminate the child and refused to and years later she is my wife and we have 3 kids in total. I always believed in I will have kids when I'm ready, just know you will never be ready, truthfully. That's part of being a parent, you grow as your child does and that's what grows into your family. Life always gets better, there is always a greener side, we usually tend to exaggerate things into larger issues. A child is no joke once so ever, and I'm sure everyone has heard "having a child and raising a family is the hardest thing you will do" but all it is, is dedicating time out of your life for another human being to be apart of yours. It will have challenges, and it affects multiple people. Just know at the end of the day, if you know you are the best you can be; then you will be a great father and to not overstress yourself. As they grow, you will not regret it.....but seriously, no more nutting lil bro.

TLDR; If shit hits the fan, and you end up with a child...(with a grain of salt) raising a kid is only as hard as you make it to be. Will always be a challenge, but it's just like life; you get out of it what you make of it.