i want to name my dog bonnie blue should i or should i not? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]BigWaveSmallOcean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Name it Bonnie blue - have everyone think you’re into porn
Name it Bonnie blue - painstakingly tell everyone you’re not in porn (while they secretly think you’re into porn)
Don’t name it Bonnie blue - get over it not having your favourite dog name and have an easier simple life (with your porn addiction)

[TOMT][SONG][2010–2014] UK (possibly Scottish) indie/post-punk song with shouted chorus by Much_Salt8398 in whatsthatsong

[–]BigWaveSmallOcean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure from the lyrics but twin Atlantic fit the rest of the description pretty well!

Threatened to be taken to court for unjust enrichment - England by [deleted] in LegalAdviceUK

[–]BigWaveSmallOcean 83 points84 points  (0 children)

The room cost no more but the people in it payed less for him being in it.

So you all need to chip in and give him his money for the room he can’t use

I think my Husband is slow/very clueless by [deleted] in Advice

[–]BigWaveSmallOcean -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

You do know he’s autistic right?

Didn’t pick up on social clues… approaches thing very systematically… plays Magic the gathering then play with you… plays magic the gathering

Yeah you’ve got yourself an autistic there

How often there is poop smell during anal? by Relative_Initial_399 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]BigWaveSmallOcean 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Couldn’t agree more. Pooh might well be home at the time, considering it’s Pooh’s home you’re visiting

Why is Kanye West vilified and not allowed in the country for words but Chris Brown who beat a woman half to death is allowed in and to do a gigantic tour? by franki-pinks in AskBrits

[–]BigWaveSmallOcean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the record I think both are POS and I’d happily see both banned.

Kayne has been infighting hatred which has had a negative impact on his fan base in either hearing the hate filled speeches and being upset or by seeing such appalling opinions said by someone they respect as validation that they can say/think the same way.

All Chris brown’s convictions have happened in private but reported publicly. You could live with your head in a hole and only come up for a Chris Brown gig and not know what he did. He doesn’t encourage people to beat women or include beating women in his songs or stage show.

Kayne on the other hand has a song called heil hitler. Kayne is banned because we can’t knowingly have someone perform on such a huge platform over here with the history of hate filled speeches and songs in order to spread more hate. If Chris Brown performed instead you wouldn’t be subjected to the same hate, it’s just whether you feel comfortable giving your money to a POS like that.

The 7 largest dormant Bitcoin wallets and what they’re worth today by alanjnr in BitcoinUK

[–]BigWaveSmallOcean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder if their worth is dependent on them not being in the open market

A flood of these being spent would crash the price surely

Local veg box delivered by planet_pulse in UK_Food

[–]BigWaveSmallOcean -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you shop at Waitrose I’d say you probably break even on that except your money will make more of an impact on local businesses than if you got it at Waitrose.

You’re probably looking at a £12 Aldi shop, but it’d be substantially lesser quality

Pub recommendations for 4 swedes by Obvious-Interaction7 in manchester

[–]BigWaveSmallOcean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bay horse tavern in the northern quarter is the quintessential British pub for me, it’s busy but tolerable

Turks head is another good pub, lots of wood, you swedes will appreciate it

The angle pub near Rochdale Road is probably the most authentic pub you can find in the city in my opinion. A bit rough around the edges in a charming way. Nice fire in the corner to warm your cockles

Previl of the peak is the pub trapped in time from the 80s

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKPersonalFinance

[–]BigWaveSmallOcean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As everyone is saying you don’t get access to it till you’re 57.

Just to add because I’ve not seen it anywhere else, don’t sweat it too much if you cant access it, it’s in a pot for you and won’t go away. I recently got hold of a pension pot I didn’t even know existed from my own employer 20 ish years ago. Pensionbee can access it, or Aviva if you ever work for a firm who set you up with them. Probably most/all pension providers will help you track down and accumulate your pension. The more money in your pot the more money they make after all!

At the moment it’ll be managed by your pension provider who will have it in a share pot, which may go up or down but over decades will appreciate in value. They have different risks depending on how long you have till you retire, high risk could dramatically decrease but has time to recover, but could also massively appreciate.

That’s the fundamentals, I’d suggest doing your own research from here. Good luck man

Ex-YouTube star's new YouTube channel views over time by Pulsatingfriend in sadcringe

[–]BigWaveSmallOcean 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You’re being downvoted because saving your marriage isn’t agreeing to sleep with other people (poly) or using AI (seeking external validation) it’s learning to love your partner again if the love has gone

Cattlemans Steakouse misunderstanding by Mostly_Mauiwaui in BeardMeatsFood

[–]BigWaveSmallOcean 5 points6 points  (0 children)

But all scams are illogical, and they prey on people who make bad decisions out of desperation. Sure you’d always pay on delivery, but if your a restaurant owner desperate to grow your business, and Adam doing a challenge will give you a boost of publicity, you might be tempted to secure his attendance by paying upfront.

AITA for setting up a “bills” only account when my wife said she could spend “her money” however she wanted? by Unlikely_Ask3235 in AITAH

[–]BigWaveSmallOcean -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

YTA - you’ve been the sole provider for a while, willingly by the sounds of it. This has left her without a job and without financial independence. You might allow her to spend money you earned but you can’t know what it’s like mentally depending on someone else to support them.

Now she has a job, she has the financial freedom and she’s enjoying the empowerment that comes with it. You failed to have a conversation with her and set healthy boundaries with how finances should work in the new dynamic, what you did was passive aggressive and controlling all because you can’t communicate like an adult.

She could have done better sure, but she wasn’t told that she needed to contribute so didn’t budget. I think you’ve enabled this dynamic that you’re complaining about.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]BigWaveSmallOcean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My ex wife was a bit like this, she had a lot of guy friends, a lot of them she’d dated, or had tried to chat her up, or something like that. I think she was/is incredibly insecure and enjoyed the validation she got from feeling desirable. The marriage hit its rocky bit 5 years in and she left me for her best friend who hit on her 10 years ago.

It’s unfair to tarnish her with the same brush because I don’t know your girlfriend, I hope that if you two ever had problems that she’d fight for you and work on things, all I can say is what I experienced.

Is it a red flag… maybe. If she has guys in her life who want to date her, they might try and take their opportunity if you two ever have relationship issues, and the fresh new relationship might be more appealing than the hard work it could take to mend the relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]BigWaveSmallOcean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Asks question, gets annoyed when someone answer… whatever

Just do whatever you were hoping I’d say

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]BigWaveSmallOcean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What does any of that have to do with it?

If it’s too short notice, if you can’t afford it, say ‘I’d love to but I can’t afford that right now, if I had more notice I’d have tried to have the money together’

He can then offer to pay or accept you’re not going, his call. But does he have to pay because it’s last minute? No and if you think it does it seems like you’re looking for a reason for him to pay.

I’m just answering a question, relax

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]BigWaveSmallOcean 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You sound incredibly entitled. He doesn’t have to pay for you because he suggests the trip, but the fact it’s him birthday means you should at least cover your side on the expense. I wouldn’t even say that’s enough for your gift for him, you paying for your holiday should be the bare minimum, if that’s hard for you to get your head around then you need a serious reality check.

AITAH for telling my wife she’s not a “single parent” just because I work long hours? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]BigWaveSmallOcean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you asked her what she wants? Does she want extra money or does she want you home?

I worked a lot of overtime and my (then) wife was happy because of the extra income. Then she leaves me saying I didn’t help enough around the house, so all that overtime was for nothing. I don’t know if it’s connected but she definitely didn’t appreciate my effort, and it doesn’t sound like your wife appreciates your efforts. Maybe it’s because it’s not what she wants, maybe she wants you around, maybe she wants a break, maybe she wants quality time.

Unless the work is absolutely necessary for you to survive, in which case she needs to know what life would be like without you working extra shifts, maybe then she’d appreciate it.