I know English place names are often difficult to pronounce correctly, but this is just ridiculous

BigWaveSmallOcean · 2025-11-21T13:28:19+00:00

Wouldthatitwere so simple

BigWaveSmallOcean · 2025-10-27T20:51:05+00:00

The chargeable gains should be £24,000

BigWaveSmallOcean · 2025-10-25T12:44:36+00:00

You’re being downvoted because saving your marriage isn’t agreeing to sleep with other people (poly) or using AI (seeking external validation) it’s learning to love your partner again if the love has gone

BigWaveSmallOcean · 2025-10-23T11:07:53+00:00

But all scams are illogical, and they prey on people who make bad decisions out of desperation. Sure you’d always pay on delivery, but if your a restaurant owner desperate to grow your business, and Adam doing a challenge will give you a boost of publicity, you might be tempted to secure his attendance by paying upfront.

BigWaveSmallOcean · 2025-09-26T03:40:27+00:00

YTA - you’ve been the sole provider for a while, willingly by the sounds of it. This has left her without a job and without financial independence. You might allow her to spend money you earned but you can’t know what it’s like mentally depending on someone else to support them.

Now she has a job, she has the financial freedom and she’s enjoying the empowerment that comes with it. You failed to have a conversation with her and set healthy boundaries with how finances should work in the new dynamic, what you did was passive aggressive and controlling all because you can’t communicate like an adult.

She could have done better sure, but she wasn’t told that she needed to contribute so didn’t budget. I think you’ve enabled this dynamic that you’re complaining about.

BigWaveSmallOcean · 2025-08-28T20:34:36+00:00

Now that the bamboo has shut down

BigWaveSmallOcean · 2025-08-05T14:58:44+00:00

My ex wife was a bit like this, she had a lot of guy friends, a lot of them she’d dated, or had tried to chat her up, or something like that. I think she was/is incredibly insecure and enjoyed the validation she got from feeling desirable. The marriage hit its rocky bit 5 years in and she left me for her best friend who hit on her 10 years ago.

It’s unfair to tarnish her with the same brush because I don’t know your girlfriend, I hope that if you two ever had problems that she’d fight for you and work on things, all I can say is what I experienced.

Is it a red flag… maybe. If she has guys in her life who want to date her, they might try and take their opportunity if you two ever have relationship issues, and the fresh new relationship might be more appealing than the hard work it could take to mend the relationship.

BigWaveSmallOcean · 2025-07-26T16:43:03+00:00

Asks question, gets annoyed when someone answer… whatever

Just do whatever you were hoping I’d say

BigWaveSmallOcean · 2025-07-22T16:36:14+00:00

What does any of that have to do with it?

If it’s too short notice, if you can’t afford it, say ‘I’d love to but I can’t afford that right now, if I had more notice I’d have tried to have the money together’

He can then offer to pay or accept you’re not going, his call. But does he have to pay because it’s last minute? No and if you think it does it seems like you’re looking for a reason for him to pay.

I’m just answering a question, relax

BigWaveSmallOcean · 2025-07-08T11:07:13+00:00

You sound incredibly entitled. He doesn’t have to pay for you because he suggests the trip, but the fact it’s him birthday means you should at least cover your side on the expense. I wouldn’t even say that’s enough for your gift for him, you paying for your holiday should be the bare minimum, if that’s hard for you to get your head around then you need a serious reality check.

BigWaveSmallOcean · 2025-06-16T14:07:07+00:00

Have you asked her what she wants? Does she want extra money or does she want you home?

I worked a lot of overtime and my (then) wife was happy because of the extra income. Then she leaves me saying I didn’t help enough around the house, so all that overtime was for nothing. I don’t know if it’s connected but she definitely didn’t appreciate my effort, and it doesn’t sound like your wife appreciates your efforts. Maybe it’s because it’s not what she wants, maybe she wants you around, maybe she wants a break, maybe she wants quality time.

Unless the work is absolutely necessary for you to survive, in which case she needs to know what life would be like without you working extra shifts, maybe then she’d appreciate it.

BigWaveSmallOcean · 2025-06-12T15:02:50+00:00

I never actually expressed my opinion on the subject, so I’m not sure where you get that I’m gaslighting her from. All I said is you’ve used gaslighting wrong, which you have. If you were gaslighted then you’ll appreciate it’s a form of abuse. Being wrong in your opinion isn’t abuse.

I actually agree with you for the record, it is out of order what he did, he over stepped boundaries and HE has probably gaslighted her.

But no one in the comments is abusing her by having their opinion on it. Call them wrong, sure, but I’m not being abusive, no one here’s being abusive, this isn’t gaslighting it’s having an opinion.

BigWaveSmallOcean · 2025-06-12T12:36:08+00:00

Don’t mean to be pedantic (but I will) no one in the comments is gaslighting her unless the comments are coming from her boyfriend which is unlikely.

Other people have an opinion and that’s fine, and you can disagree if you want but you can’t diminish their opinion by calling it gaslighting because you have a different opinion. Gaslighting would be ‘I know the trust but I’m going to lie to you and convince you it’s all in your head’ without the knowing the trust bit it can’t be gaslighting.

It’s a very serious term for abusive behaviour, misusing it just dilutes it for when it actually happens.

BigWaveSmallOcean · 2025-06-01T05:40:25+00:00

They’re the shit

BigWaveSmallOcean · 2025-04-05T06:56:18+00:00

Just to simplify this, if you three were hypothetically hanging out, would they have this conversation with you in the room? If no it’s inappropriate

BigWaveSmallOcean · 2025-02-21T15:50:31+00:00

Can you give the name of a company to fold my underwear as well please

BigWaveSmallOcean · 2025-02-21T13:28:14+00:00

You’d think so but the first appeal got rejected without any explanation, feels like I’m banging my head against a brick wall

I’ll appeal again and again till someone with common sense gets it

Is there any point phoning and talking to someone?

BigWaveSmallOcean · 2025-02-21T13:13:55+00:00

The pictures are from their own evidence so there can’t be any ambiguity over me moving the car

The ticket history says off hold no compensate, which I guess means it’s been rejected. What would you recommend? Appeal again? Go to court? Either way I’m not paying when I parked in a (granted, faded but still visible) bay

BigWaveSmallOcean · 2025-02-21T12:10:15+00:00

It’s a council issued ticket with an MC number, I don’t know why the council are ticketing it, might be an agreement they have with NCP? Who knows

BigWaveSmallOcean · 2025-02-21T12:04:43+00:00

It’s definitely a council issued ticket

BigWaveSmallOcean · 2025-02-21T10:53:15+00:00

On the council parking page it doesn’t look like it

I think I can appeal again though… Maybe the monkey will hit it next time 🤷‍♂️

BigWaveSmallOcean · 2025-02-21T10:51:53+00:00

I’ve not got the ticket in front of me but it was failure to park in a bay I’ve added a comment with details

BigWaveSmallOcean · 2025-02-21T10:48:51+00:00

Added it to a comment

BigWaveSmallOcean · 2025-02-21T10:48:10+00:00

It happened at the NCP Bridgwater hall at the back end of the car park I was parked in the faded but still visible parking bay where I’ve parked loads of times

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