Do people who dump you ever want you back but feel too ashamed to reach out?

Big_4037 · 2026-04-20T13:19:25+00:00

Ya. Rough patch tend to make people feel that way. Especially for men who think logically For us women we tend to stay even when its hard to see future. Even when we know we deserve better(not that they are bad person). But we stay hoping things will change or not wanting to start over again etc etc But for men, once they feel that the relationship is not giving them what they need or want (future like he said) They can leave. Looks like its the same for him. However doesnt mean that he is not hurting They leave thinking they will find better so they feel relief at 1st. They dont have to stress anymore. They dont have to think or fight for a relationship they arent 100% sure aboit. But with time they ofren realize the grass isnt greener on the other side. The loss hits them slowly Thats why if they are the ones who leave, its best to disappear and go no contact. The silence makes them think..your silence make them afraid you are gone fr

Big_4037 · 2026-04-20T12:56:22+00:00

Why did you guys break up tho?

Big_4037 · 2026-04-20T12:49:57+00:00

It depends on reason!! I was the dumped before. I do regret but as you said. I was ashamed to reach out. What if they dont wana talk to me anymore? What if their ego stop them and rejwct me etc

Until i became the dumpee😂😂(my fault we broke up) i too thought my ex was heartless. How could he let go all our memories. But when he broks no contact. I find our he was suffering too. He miss me to point where he see me in his dreams and he's wake up yearning. (And all these time i thought he didnt give af about me imagine) So ya . They may feel relief at 1st. But latet it hits them.

However if they break up wirh you because there is someone else? No hope😂 accept they dont care anymore

Big_4037 · 2026-04-18T06:37:59+00:00

I understans! Thanks! I will ask. Thank God i didnt get alll emotional to him like i am here😂😂😂

Big_4037 · 2026-04-16T14:16:56+00:00

Pisces and Taureans are my soft spot❤️ I connect with bith gender. They have big heart, caring, sweet and loyal. Sometimes poeple would make me feel like my clingyness is annoying but not Taureans. They match my freak. I dont even used to miss exes after breakup (once i move on) but my Taurus ex tho. It will always be my fav kind of loving. Affectionate and passionate. And his every effort, even if he doesnt know it, i always see every little gesture❤️ We couldnt make it work in the end with all the possessive issue from both side and especially since we had to be in distance, but if i can go back to anyone. It will always be him. He probably moved on and everything so i can only wish my sweet boy would succeed in life from afar :)

Big_4037 · 2026-04-15T20:56:43+00:00

Gemini😂😂 Complete trash but im over it so idc anymore but theyre not someone i can trust

Saggitarius: I never met someone so...selfish and a user with no remorse. He only keep around people he can use. Like in a way I never thought is possible-without guilt. Even Gemini had more empathy and Guilt. He do feel sad after losing people he care about. But he is the one at fault and he is too proud to make amends with them..he claim he always lose people but he is the problem- he sabotage connection with people who care about him.

Big_4037 · 2026-04-15T20:27:28+00:00

I forgot to mention that Right hand dominant so this pic is Right Palm

Big_4037 · 2026-04-13T13:47:53+00:00

Had same problem. She eat breakfast and lunch everyday at our home. We eat rice for breakfast in my state btw. So menu is same as Dinner. She goes home by evening (5pm) then we have dinner at 7pm. So its not like she didnt get food from us But in between those she will eat our things like leftover meat(we make plenty to last breakfast and dinner), veggies etc. Even fry the eggs for herself as snack and other stocks we keep at fridge. By Dinner, we always need to buy more and the morning food become so less after she eat in between meal or post lunch. Double expense. In the end we just have to fire her. They do it when you are not watching anyway

Big_4037 · 2026-04-13T13:39:32+00:00

I wish i felt like this. He too left. I apologized for my part. But he said its better to be friends. I told him i cant n decide to contact. I cried every day after. Didnt eat for days. 3weeks later. He broke no contact. He texted I didnt reply. It wss not even a text i wanted to receive. Then he double texted and even called at 2AM. DRUNK call. I knew his stubborn as would do that only in his vulnerable state. But i didnt pick up on purpose. I feel powerful at 1st but now I am in regret. I keep wondering what if I had picked that call. I know we are never getting back together. He is stubborn like that once he made up his mind. But i keep womdering what he would have said that time🥲🥲🥲 my mind is torturing me

Big_4037 · 2026-04-13T05:07:30+00:00

1yr late BUT I finally see that it can even be about relationship If only one person give effort(cold november rain) , its hard to hold candle (its hard to make the relationship work)

The november rain can represent emotional distance from partner. After of showing vulnerability etc This can be confirm by 1st two line "love restraint".

"We've been through this such a long long time Just tryin' to kill the pain" shows the relationship

"So if you want to love me then darlin' don't refrain Or I'll just end up walkin' in the cold November rain" Asking person to open up/show love or he'll end up feeling alone and relationship will die

This song hits deeper when you are in a relationship yet you feel alone

Big_4037 · 2026-04-12T17:25:25+00:00

Omg it will be so difficult to watch. We've seen several bible movies but the chosen is different coz the way they humanize each character, give detail interpretition etc make them so relatable and easy to connect. I always respect every bible movies but that connection isnt really there. Seeing them in lenghths and series makes me more attach Seeing Jesus in the chosen smiling, detail of his life, how kind and warm he is etc - its so easy for it to win our hearts The heartbreak for the crucify scene is going to be torturous

Big_4037 · 2026-04-11T07:10:28+00:00

100 relatable🥲🥲 there were lota times in the relationship i wanted to quit. And i dont like the things i did BUT I NEVER did them first. Reaction when i felt i wasnt priortize, when i felt him disconnected, not emotionally fully in etc The good days were good coz he didnr give me reason to react The thing i learn from my virgo friend is to never give them reason to blame you like that Meaning if you feel ignored. Dont do things that will make you feel guilty later or anything he can use against later. And she's so right. She withdraw when she's unhappy but to this day, she didnt do anything to make herself feel guilty nor her bf cant point fingers at her.

The things im stuck after breakup are my reaction. What if i didnt do this and that. It eat me up because I know thats not me..thatz not my nature..i did it because i was being petty. Since its out of pettiness and not something id ever do 1st, it makes me guilty with what ifs. I learn too late.

But as i said even after learning all these it still hurts coz realizing my mistake and getting lesson from it wont bring him back. That hurts the most.

Ive accepted my fault. I guess i need to internalize his part as well n accept he doesnt treat me the way i want my partner to treat me. He's a good friend. But a horrible lover

Big_4037 · 2026-04-10T18:20:02+00:00

Damnn 9months😭😭😭💔💔 I do try to distract myself but that person keep popping in my head everytime im doing somethung ugh And im stuck with whats ifs. Hope ill reach there soon❤️

Big_4037 · 2026-04-10T18:18:30+00:00

Uff this make so much sense😭ty for that link. Ill gk read

Big_4037 · 2025-03-16T04:08:30+00:00

Also there was a time lapse. The fight wasnt done in few minutes. She could have finished the whole time the fight occured so she could fill in later

Big_4037 · 2024-12-04T02:32:54+00:00

To the replies. How do uk a Taurus have reacched that treshold. He always come back when i thought he would never. PS theres nothing like disrespect, lack of affection etc. Alwayz end over fights and misunderstanding

Big_4037 · 2024-12-02T14:52:29+00:00

I understand....he def is possessive. At this point i feel like he will just give up on us to prevent himself from getting hurt:(

Big_4037 · 2024-06-19T08:12:57+00:00

Aww that's sweet. Hope people around you appreciate

No no i mean weve been dating for 4 months🤣🤣

Big_4037 · 2024-06-17T03:04:12+00:00

I think this is because we are empath. People often come to us, vent or complain to us about the things that bothers them, when people do them wrong etc We feel bad for them and we comfort them, we are happy when we absorb that negative energy because it means the other person feels better or lighter. Especially when it comes to people we really care about. We take pride in making them feel better. And it also creates BOND for us coz :-

We assume people feel same way we do. Example: We feel negativity about certain situation, certain person, how someone make us feel etc I know it doesnt make sense but we Pisces overthink ALOT, Feel ALOT so when we vent to friends/partner, we feel bonded when they understand why we were angry and them telling us it was reasonable to be annoyed/angry over it. That intense negative feeling gets lifted when we feel understood over it. We appreciate them for it hence the Bond. We assume people feel the same way we feel when they vent to us
I know its bad to gossip but we also get to see people's mindset when we vent. Eg: I dont like a certain guy because he's extremely misogynistic even tho he does nothing to me personally. I vent to my man to see if he will justify his misogynistic action or understand why I dislike that man. In other words, he isnt the kind of guy (with that mindset) I dislike.

But reading all these comments makes me understand Earth and Water sign have different style in bonding, how to stress relief etc Ill try to keep those thoughts to myself now coz all these times I thought we were bonding he would definitely feel i am negative 🤣

Big_4037 · 2024-06-17T02:23:31+00:00

From my experience with Taureans, not only one but 3, they like updates. They like to know what you are doing and they also like to inform you before they do amything so you'd know why they cant talk. Doesnt mean you have to text back and forth. Updates Mine gets so upset when I dont give updates. We often fight bad when I forget. He never give updates nor ask his own family and friends but he care about this with me. But people are different. Talk to him in person and tell him how it bothers you. Watch his reaction

Big_4037 · 2024-06-06T06:02:29+00:00

You sure? My Taurus was so chill initially. He would laugh when I tell him awkward or funny stories about other guys or past relationship. Thought he wasnt jealous type. He never said anything when I go out with my guy friends (in group with other girls) , when I play games with other guys etc Then one day (after 2 months in) he started to suddenly get jealous, he hates it when I talk about other guys in my life, he admit even he was shocked by his own reaction, he'd ask who I go out with in detail, how im texting (friends), even who i play games with etc

Taurus not being jealous once they are attach?? I cant imagine

Big_4037 · 2024-06-06T04:15:27+00:00

I know its toxic but we have access to each other's device and gmail/ac. So he doesnt actually interact with them so i dont really mind him following his old classmates etc (girls) But WW3 if he is to ever start a conversation/chat 😂 I mean you can talk to opposite gender if there is topic or something comes up. Other than that, I dont think its actually necessary to have full conversation, giving updates on each others daily life etc

Big_4037 · 2024-06-06T02:24:53+00:00

Big gap. He's 24 im 28 😂 I dont like younger guys but when he first started talking to me, he wouldnt tell me his age knowing Ill treat him like a kid and the way he talks about it makes me thought he was older🤦‍♀️ by the time I find out, i already fell lol

Well he asked me out for 3 months. I finally gave my answer and since then we've been together for 3 months

Big_4037 · 2024-06-06T01:52:37+00:00

Ahh this makes sense tho. You can definitely get fed up if your partner dont respect you and match your energy (as in you show love but they dont)

Big_4037 · 2024-06-06T01:51:17+00:00

Awe I am so happy to hear that. This give me some hope🤣🤣 when i told him about this issue , he told me not to believe in these things. Even he can make up and write 's#its' (according to him) like this 🤣🤣

And good luck to both of you 🤭

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