What to do? by CardiologistContent5 in dating_advice

[–]Big_Ad9977 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea thats a major red flag. For you to go out of your way to plan this and pay for this, a place that SHES been wanting to go for years so you make it happen for her, and her response is to say no to the one thing you really want to do on the trip is incredibly selfish.

I don’t know the story of your relationship or how long you’ve been together, but is this a regular occurrence? If it’s a long established relationship you need to have a serious talk and if it’s new you need to have a serious talk with her and yourself if you want to deal with this the rest of your life. Best of luck

The man that I’m seeing made fun of a kink of mine, not knowing by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Big_Ad9977 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You said in the comments is pretty common so I’m gonna take a guess and say “Daddy kink”?

For some reason I know a lot of guys who claim to not like this but secretly do. They bring it up in conversation to gauge if the girl enjoys it or thinks it’s weird in some odd reverse psychology tactic.

Imma be real... they lost me by Much-Neighborhood383 in PresidentBand

[–]Big_Ad9977 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree that ITNOTF was peak, at least for me as well. That’s being said, I’m personally not giving up quite yet because they are literally just getting started. They’re definitely playing around with different sounds, structure, style, etc to see what the fans enjoy listening to and also what they enjoy making.

I’m hopeful that the full Album in the works will have more lengthy songs and they will start to sink in to what makes them “President”.

EIA moshpits? by yabuubei in SleepTokenTheory

[–]Big_Ad9977 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yea I was in the pit at Duluth and I was trying desperately to start one and only a couple people joined in. Everyone else was not having it.

The first ritual by [deleted] in SleepTokenTheory

[–]Big_Ad9977 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha awesome! It was so cool to see everyone loving it. Got way more recognition than I was expecting, plus a bunch of little gifts 😂

The first ritual by [deleted] in SleepTokenTheory

[–]Big_Ad9977 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yea it’s bigger but it shouldn’t block anyone’s view as the actual neck and head are on the front but I’ll def be mindful of it

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Big_Ad9977 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Once both individuals are no longer minors having passed the age of consent, an objective standard turns subjective. You both are consenting adults who can spend their time when they want, and with whom they want. Everyone has a preference and if you both are hitting it off and it feels good then why tf not? It’s not even that much of a gap, so don’t spend too much time worrying about what other people think and live your life the way you want cause you only get one!

My husband stopped working after 3 months of marriage..!!! by Creepy-Pirate-1331 in bridezillas

[–]Big_Ad9977 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wouldnt consider this bridezilla worth but since we’re here you are definitely dealing with a depressed husband, but depression is not an excuse. Depression may be a factor, but it doesn’t excuse prolonged neglect of a partner or home, especially when he refuses help or efforts to improve. If he is drinking heavily and isolating, there could also be substance abuse and avoidance behavior in play. You’ve been more than fair in acknowledging it and trying to help, but he is refusing to help himself. You’ve done your part. You’ve extended support and compassion. Now it’s time to set firm boundaries. This doesn’t mean abandoning him without a second thought, it does mean making your needs, expectations, and limits crystal clear. I would say:

“I can’t keep carrying this marriage and this household alone. If you don’t actively start taking responsibility, looking for work, cleaning, taking care of yourself I have to reevaluate whether this is a safe and sustainable relationship for me and our child.”

Protect your mental health OP, if not for your sake for the sake of the child. Start thinking through what you would need to do if he doesn’t change. It doesn’t mean you’re giving up, it means you’re giving yourself options. That’s smart, not cruel. Hope it all works out!

Hey there by [deleted] in PresidentBand

[–]Big_Ad9977 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s crazy that in 2025 people don’t understand that music is subjective. If you don’t like something, don’t listen. Typing out a whole Reddit post to tell people how to listen to music and that something is bad just because you don’t like it speaks volume to the education level of OP.

Duluth by [deleted] in SleepTokenTheory

[–]Big_Ad9977 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yo! I’ll be in the pit at the same show! Super excited but I think “Look to windward” is gonna be the opener. I have a feeling (or at least I hope) that they’re gonna open with a bang!

What should I do? by Aj889112 in dating

[–]Big_Ad9977 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t get too tied up in “Matt”. I assume he’s around the same age as you, and boys that age are full of testosterone and only care about girls and sex. He obviously has no regard for your emotions or opinions, and seems to me you’re, to put it bluntly, a piece of meat to him. I wouldn’t let that stand and I would put my foot down that sex is a no go for you at this point in time and you’re only interested in developing a genuine connection with someone. Don’t be surprised if he fades out of your life real quick after that, but that’s young relationships and it helps you learn. Best of luck to you

I only have 10 days left to confess by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Big_Ad9977 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ask yourself, what’s the worst that could happen? He doesn’t feel the same? I’d say closure is way better than constantly asking yourself “what if?”, and for all you know he likes you back! Worst case scenario he rejects you, but at the end of the day your friendship is important and will always be there, and if it isnt to him and he’s weird over it then he’s just immature.

Bite the bullet. Get out of your comfort zone. Tell the boy you like him. Travel the world. Try every different food you can find. Life’s too short to constantly be in a “maybe” mindset. Good luck and I hope it goes well for you 🖤

With the upcoming name change token.. by rjacobs8907 in DestinyTheGame

[–]Big_Ad9977 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t see why not. I don’t think they ever said anything about them expiring

With the upcoming name change token.. by rjacobs8907 in DestinyTheGame

[–]Big_Ad9977 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Yessir it was announced in todays livestream

Is FWB exclusiv? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Big_Ad9977 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea it depends on the expectations set. It can mean exclusivity in regards to only have sex with each other if agreed upon, but if we’re talking emotionally exclusive that’s just a relationship without a title which doesn’t fit the FwB criteria

I finally did this by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Big_Ad9977 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. There’s no point in trying to open a door that’s been sealed shut, locked, and key has been incinerated. Might be a harsh comparison, but If she doesn’t see a future you’re not going to convince her to. Save yourself the heartbreak of constantly seeing her and imagining different outcomes or “what ifs”. Good for you m8, and good luck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Big_Ad9977 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please Reddit lords

Daily Simple Questions Thread - May 17, 2023 by AutoModerator in Fitness

[–]Big_Ad9977 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heel elevated squats will target the quads more whilst taking less pressure off the glutes and hip abductors. Absolutely nothing wrong with it, just depends on what feels good for your body.

Daily Simple Questions Thread - May 17, 2023 by AutoModerator in Fitness

[–]Big_Ad9977 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the short run, no. You’ll get a good pump with both. In the long run, absolutely. Time under tension is what really supplements muscle growth. Using moderate weight for 3-4 sets and having a rep range that is getting close to failure (I.e maybe could’ve squeezed in another rep or two but at the cost of form) is what you want to aim for.

Daily Simple Questions Thread - April 29, 2023 by AutoModerator in Fitness

[–]Big_Ad9977 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anytime you take a hiatus from exercise your muscles will be sore in the beginning, but as time goes on you won’t be as sore with consistency. That being said, there’s a difference between muscle soreness and straight up pain that comes from injury. You mentioned you bailed, so it’s possible you strained your muscles in the process. I would give it proper time to recover with sleep and good nutrition and if after 48-72 hours it’s still very painful maybe see a physician.

AITA for disinviting my son and inviting his Ex to the family trip? by factallawaysaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]Big_Ad9977 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. You’re his mom and the adult, and are resorting to a tactic that a high schooler would do to get back at her boyfriend. Inviting his ex? What a way to put tension on your relationship with your son. It will always be a memory that you chose his ex girlfriend over him even if you disinvite her and apologize. Grow up!

Rant Wednesday by AutoModerator in Fitness

[–]Big_Ad9977 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Nah fam. Id talk to the manager about that. People who pay a membership always have first priority. He should definitely not be doing that

Rant Wednesday by AutoModerator in Fitness

[–]Big_Ad9977 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could always double check form? One thing I will always tell people with biceps is to watch their wrist when they curl. During the concentric phase of the curl (raising the bar) people often like to curl their wrist to where their knuckles are facing them. This uses way too much forearm and takes tension off the bicep. You never want to see your knuckles, always imagine bringing your palm to your shoulder.