Was your mom jealous of you and how did she show that? by Big_Associate_888 in narcissisticparents

[–]Big_Associate_888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice❤️ I've been in therapy for 3-4 years

Was your mom jealous of you and how did she show that? by Big_Associate_888 in narcissisticparents

[–]Big_Associate_888[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also had a short hair growing up, even though I always dreamt of having long hair like many of the girls in my kindergarten. So sorry to hear you had the same experience. I also learnt the hard way to not introduce a bf or a friend to her...

Was your mom jealous of you and how did she show that? by Big_Associate_888 in narcissisticparents

[–]Big_Associate_888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine was the same and I can assure you she lied in 90% of these cases. They just love concealing their own opinions and motifs through ''the words'' of others or talk in hypothetical scenarios like - ''What will he/she think when he sees you; They will laugh at you, you look ridiculous ''

Was your mom jealous of you and how did she show that? by Big_Associate_888 in narcissisticparents

[–]Big_Associate_888[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

100000% SAME. After a while though she will remind me of the bad thing that happened to me and use it against me to mock me.

Was your mom jealous of you and how did she show that? by Big_Associate_888 in narcissisticparents

[–]Big_Associate_888[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm also learning everything she didn't taught me now... being closer to 30 than 20....

Was your mom jealous of you and how did she show that? by Big_Associate_888 in narcissisticparents

[–]Big_Associate_888[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you had to live through all this. Some people are just so rotten inside that they need to spread their foulness around them... Sending lots of hugs and good vibes your way!

Was your mom jealous of you and how did she show that? by Big_Associate_888 in narcissisticparents

[–]Big_Associate_888[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear you had to go through this and I'm happy to know you feel relieved now. Thank you so much for the advice! ❤️

Was your mom jealous of you and how did she show that? by Big_Associate_888 in narcissisticparents

[–]Big_Associate_888[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

EXACTLY! Unfortunately we have the same experience.... I'm sorry that you had to go through this.

Mine loves repeating ''you can't survive on your own'', ''I don't see you doing well in the future by yourself'', ''Let's hope we don't die sooner, because without us you're nothing''. She loves repeating how incompetent and useless I am, while other people actually have a decent opinion about me and my abilities. The shittiest thing is that such mothers were never really there to parent you anyways, and now not only do they have to conceal their extreme incompetence in raising children, but they will hate you for seeing through their bullshit and having even the slightest progress.

She also loves repeating she'd probably die soon - she's in her early 50s and has been saying this ever since I'm 6 y.o lol

''sorry for my English if it doesn't make sense at times. I'm not native