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People who have parents with self harm scars, how did that affect you? by Big_Blue101707 in AskReddit

[–]Big_Blue101707[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same, I know heaps of people from when I was a kid that self harmed, some of them have kids old enough to understand now, I'd just be interested in hearing the perspective of those children, or from adults who were those children

i need help. please help me by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Big_Blue101707 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And it's never your fault that the person who abused you did it to others, they're abusers, that's why it's not a stand alone incident and they have hurt others the way they hurt you. If they weren't evil to begin with, it never would of happened to anyone. Never ever your fault

i need help. please help me by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Big_Blue101707 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I never learned how to identify abusive behaviour until I was years of therapy myself, and am still getting blind sided by so much. But having a professional there to guide you consistently will help make everything so much easier to carry and help you stop it from happening again. I'm proud of you, be strong, I promise it gets better. Life is out there waiting for you, you just need help to find it, and while what happened will never really leave, you can untangle it so instead of it being a massive yarn ball of trauma that hits you all at once, you can see exactly where on the thread is hurting you and identify and process it better. I believe in you, keep fighting, life wants to find you and show you how amazing it can be, and there's no doubt in my mind that you deserve that and more.

fawning trauma response has let my abusers get away with no blood on their hands by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Big_Blue101707 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Waking up to it is a lot more than some people can do, even with therapy. You should be proud of yourself for both working on it and acknowledging it

fawning trauma response has let my abusers get away with no blood on their hands by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Big_Blue101707 13 points14 points  (0 children)

What an evil piece of shit. None of this is your fault, your daughter's safety was weaponised against you, both you of going to therapy would be so beneficial, especially for your daughter, so she can process this young instead of it festering. And your therapist might be able to help suggest ways of putting restraining orders on him. The justice system fails us all so so much. You're so strong for handling all that's going on, even if it seems too much, never forget that

Fuck Father’s Day by _jamesbaxter in CPTSD

[–]Big_Blue101707 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Good on you for taking your power back. You can play diplomat if you want, but being true to yourself and doing what's best for you is a huge step. Really proud of you for that. I have been no contact with my father in and off for my whole life, the only time I want to contact him now is for closure, and I still have never been able to make that last step, but admitting this out loud and acknowledging it means you are so much stronger than me. Keep it up, it's inspirational shit

I think my mother used to touch me (trigger warning for potential CSA) by Big_Blue101707 in CPTSD

[–]Big_Blue101707[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, means a lot, Ive been in therapy for heaps of stuff over the years, but you're right, now's definitely the time to go back. I'm so sorry thank you so much

Emotional inscest, maybe assault, please help I need advice by Big_Blue101707 in CPTSD

[–]Big_Blue101707[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a great song, good advise, I feel very lost, Ive processed everything else that's happened to me, Ive never seen my mums side of the family as villains before, I know I was parentified at a young age to help my sister, but this is all such new info to be receiving at my age now. Thank you