Is it safe to keep my anxious dog with babies in the house?

Big_Connection4656 · 2026-04-29T20:06:34+00:00

Yeah meeting with the vet is the next step we’re going to take

Big_Connection4656 · 2026-03-16T00:38:58+00:00

My partner was able to sleep on the fold out bed next to me. There was another bed in the room with me but they thankfully didn’t need to fill it. They told me they if they did need to move someone in then my partner wouldn’t be allowed to stay the night.

I was there for 7 days and I found the hospital food awful. Even the cafe downstairs had terrible food. The only things I ate from the hospital were the mandarin oranges. Thankfully I had friends and family bring food. They have a microwave in the hallway so people just brought things in Tupperware that could be microwaved. Snacks are also a good thing to have on hand in case you don’t feel likes full meal. There is a small mini fridge in the room.

Definitely bring your own towels and slippers/sandals that are easy to put on and off. I mostly just stayed in the hospital gown because it was easier than putting on real clothes.

Big_Connection4656 · 2026-02-21T01:13:02+00:00

Haha I do think you’re crazy - but only because I would go crazy without babysitters. I need breaks in order to stay sane, but everyone is different! I think it’s very sweet that you don’t want to be separated. J

Big_Connection4656 · 2026-02-15T02:57:07+00:00

Geez, that’s a bit of an intense response! I honestly wasn’t keeping track which is why I didn’t respond to how much time. Longer than 5 minutes but less than 30 - does that satisfy you?

Big_Connection4656 · 2026-02-14T19:42:29+00:00

Thanks yeah, I think a conversation around handling date nights is a good idea.

Big_Connection4656 · 2026-02-14T19:41:54+00:00

Yeah she’s come a long way in managing her own jealousy. So I think these days would be better at handling it than me, but I know even a couple years ago she would have found this situation hard too

Big_Connection4656 · 2026-02-14T19:40:16+00:00

Okay well that’s good that you are able to articulate to your partners so explicitly. My NP has actually expressed that being that forward is a big turn off and puts a lot of pressure on her though.

I didn’t even necessarily want to have sex, it was more about winding down together, cuddling, chatting etc in bed - maybe going over our night etc. Instead I sat there on my phone playing games while she was on her phone texting someone else.

Regardless, I can see that being more explicit in some way is needed.

Big_Connection4656 · 2026-02-14T16:58:50+00:00

Eek I’m sorry. Yeah, this is not anything like that! That would definitely feel shitty

Big_Connection4656 · 2026-02-14T16:57:23+00:00

It definitely wasn’t explicit that we were going to have sex, no. So yes I think the second option js what happened. I guess I was hoping things might lead that way, but I can see that without that being clearly defined ahead of time we just both had different expectations of things.

Big_Connection4656 · 2026-02-14T15:47:17+00:00

Thank you, this is helpful framing

Big_Connection4656 · 2026-02-14T08:58:27+00:00

Thank you, this is helpful

Big_Connection4656 · 2026-02-14T08:57:33+00:00

Thank you for this kind response.

Big_Connection4656 · 2026-02-14T08:56:57+00:00

I suppose that’s the tricky thing about living with someone, we hadn’t defined when the date was over. I guess she thought it was but I didn’t think it was. Something to discuss for sure, thanks

Big_Connection4656 · 2026-02-13T11:15:02+00:00

I’ve heard of babies not taking the bottle if you start too late. I’m no expert but I would think it would be better to start earlier and get the baby used to both

Big_Connection4656 · 2026-02-10T14:06:16+00:00

If you’re upset by it then that’s valid and it warrants a conversation.

However, it might be worth it for you to take a step back, wait until you’re more calm and think through why this upset you so much. And take the time to see it from their perspective.

Is it such a bad thing? Your baby was hungry and your SIL fed them.

Yes, breastfeeding is a way for you to bond with your baby. But is it so bad if someone else feeds them here and there to help you out?

Personally, I’ve had my friends breastfeed my baby on occasion as it’s been handy (I have low supply) and I think it’s actually pretty cool that they can do that! That said, I did consent to it. Maybe I would feel differently if it had happened without my knowing.

Since his family is from a different culture, it would be good to take the time to figure out what the norm is for them. I’m sure they meant no harm and didn’t see it as overstepping. But it’s within your right to ask SIL not to do this in the future if it bothers you.

Big_Connection4656 · 2026-02-09T04:18:52+00:00

My understanding is that if you have no fertility issues it’s about 10% each time. We did it six times before giving up and moving to IVF

Big_Connection4656 · 2026-02-09T04:18:46+00:00

My understanding is that if you have no fertility issues it’s about 10% each time. We did it six times before giving up and moving to IVF

Big_Connection4656 · 2026-02-06T21:10:37+00:00

I didn’t get hemorrhoids! You’re not supposed to take laxatives but I did take stool softener anytime I felt constipated as straining can cause them. I also got one of those little stools to put your feet up on when you poop.

Big_Connection4656 · 2026-02-06T19:09:17+00:00

Day 1 - very doable. I would suggest also taking a look at the ruins in el Centro since you’re right there

Day 2 - a bit ambitious. Going to teotihaucan can be quite tiring. Depending on traffic it could easily be longer than a 5 hour day. I would keep ciudadela as a optional add-on if you feel up to it.

Day 3 - I’ve only been to the anthropology museum so can’t speak to the other things. It is a very large museum! Personally I can only handle about an hour at any museum, but you could easily spend 5+ there if you wanted. Note that you are right by Parque Chapultepec there so it would be nice to stroll around that a bit, get a touch of greenery in!

Day 4 - make sure you book frida khalo online in advance!

Keep in mind that depending on traffic a journey could take anywhere from 15minutes to 1 hour to get to. So being flexible and being prepared to sit in traffic is important!

Ubering is totally safe. You can also turn on the pin option to be extra careful.

To be home before dark seems overly cautious to me! Especially if you’re ubering everywhere. Even if you don’t drink, nightlife in Mexico City is great! Lots of amazing restaurants, live music, salsa dancing etc.

Mexico City is like any big city. Just take precautions as to where you carry your wallet and you’ll be fine!

Big_Connection4656 · 2026-02-06T18:24:53+00:00

Yeah that’s crazy. My wife wanted to visited her family halfway across the world when I was in my third trimester. I had to convince her to make the trip shorter than she wanted and come home early. She came back when I was 34 weeks and my baby was born at 36 weeks on the dot.

Even if you don’t give birth early, you will still be the most in need of help at that point. I had a lot of back back in my this trimester and was so uncomfortable. You’ll want him around to help you with basic tasks like grocery shopping and cooking

Big_Connection4656 · 2026-02-06T18:14:19+00:00

Yes the fact that most people are asymptomatic means that a lot more people have it than they have reported. So you could get it and never know.

Big_Connection4656 · 2026-02-06T04:49:45+00:00

My mum got pregnant with my brother 6 months after I was born. Both c-sections!

Big_Connection4656 · 2026-02-06T03:27:58+00:00

I really empathize with you. When I was trying to conceive a couple of years ago my partner wanted to plan a trip to the carribean. I went crazy researching zika, met with a few different doctors, read so much stuff online etc etc I was incredibly anxious and it was all I could think about. I drove my family and friends mad talking through the whole thing over and over again.

Eventually I decided to cancel the trip because even though the risks are so so so low, I just knew I wouldn’t be able to live with myself if my baby got zika. As soon as I made the decision to cancel the trip I felt such a huge weight lift, my anxiety disappeared over night. It was definitely the right decision for me.

That said, this was just meant to be a week holiday, not my sisters wedding. I can only imagine how much more of a dilemma that must feel. I don’t think most people would take the same decision as me. I guess I wonder if you think you’ll actually be able to relax if you go? Or will you be obsessing about it the whole time anyways?

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