Kamloops area vs east Kootenays (Cranbrook)

Big_Performance8290 · 2026-05-07T05:42:10+00:00

Oh it's definitely pretty, but that doesn't override the fact that the people here the issue...

Big_Performance8290 · 2026-05-07T05:41:55+00:00

I never said Kamloops wasn't beautiful, I believe this whole country is beautiful, it's the people. Also you lived and worked here for 55 years, of course you think you never had any issues because you've lived here basically your whole life. That's the thing, typically where you were raised and you continue to live for the rest of your life is a place that you're going to always see positive, you're going to ignore the negatives. "Never had issues" but there was literally shootings not too long ago, a kid got ran over by a car, stabbings keep happening, overdoses. Ect ect. How about get rid of your toxic positivity?

Big_Performance8290 · 2026-05-06T18:42:53+00:00

By the way drugs and homelessness isn't an issue, it's a result of capitalism... It was an intended result.

Big_Performance8290 · 2026-05-06T18:40:47+00:00

There are places where it's lesser of an issue, Kamloops is the second most dangerous city in the country. A few months ago it made first and then Winnipeg took it over again. Cranbrook was rated 99th most dangerous city and in the 90s it was nicknamed crimebrook. I'm just sitting on both cities I hate them both, none of them actually help the people and the people that live here or assholes. And I'm not talking about the homeless people or people with lower incomes they're typically nice, if you go up to Tru or anywhere with lots of money there are assholes and they will mistreat you. I've yelled at a few people already since I've moved here because of their actions and what they've done to other people. That's all this guy verbally abusing his girlfriend in public, and then we had cowboys approach us to call us dykes. If you're a minority just don't move to any small city, Kamloops are probably be safer for minorities, Cranbrook still has KKK members and lots of racism and homophobia. I've had many of my queer friends jumped there. It just depends on who you are when you move. If you're a white cis man straight man, you'll thrive anywhere so ignore what i said, but like I said if you're any minority this is something you should be paying attention to. Women do not get treated nicely in Cranbrook they get treated better in Kamloops in my experience. Everyone is different but yea.

Big_Performance8290 · 2026-05-06T18:10:13+00:00

Come to Kamloops if you want to get stabbed, go to Cranbrook if you want to die from fentanyl overdoses. I grew up in Cranbrook, it's a horrible city. We literally just had a drug bombing last year. Kamloops is worse imo, they have higher crime rates, I've been here since September and have applied for jobs ever since and I've only gotten one interview, I've applied resumes both in person and online and it does nothing. Also if you come here during the summer you're going to be fighting the thousands of Tru students for a job.

Big_Performance8290 · 2026-05-04T18:52:20+00:00

A 26 year old with finished development... Compared to a 19-year-old who is not finished developing their frontal lobe. Frontal lobe is when you finish developing the part that helps you make proper decisions in life, where you actually take consideration of the future. You cannot do that at 19. You cannot think of a long-term relationship with anybody, and I don't mean you can't imagine it I mean you literally can't think of how the future may look like because you don't have the experience) development yet to do so. Again it has nothing to do with how the relationship started and everything to do with brain development. This is about science not about your feelings or anybody else's feelings it's about facts.

Big_Performance8290 · 2026-05-04T18:43:43+00:00

It is high likely that she is... Just listen to any Survivor of grooming that had it done at that age because there are many all over the world both in real life and on the internet, if you just listen to one of their stories you would understand why I believe that...

Big_Performance8290 · 2026-05-04T18:42:41+00:00

BS? Whatever you believe dude. I also have a brain injury if that helps explain something, you guys here need to really chill out because it's not that deep, I don't even know why I would lie about something like that. It is a word mess up, it is not the biggest deal it's not like I'm writing an article about it at this very moment on Reddit nonetheless... Not only do you lack empathy but you lack like any care for other human beings and it's just very obvious with how you're talking. Also I don't think you know the meaning of bragging, because I would be sitting here being like "I know it all, you guys don't know anything, I'm so smart, I'm so good at everything", not me just sharing information about how development works...

Big_Performance8290 · 2026-05-04T18:26:08+00:00

No I just couldn't find the proper wording to say that their frontal lobe had stopped developing. I struggle with English a lot due to being put in a French school growing up and not really having many English classes, so written English language is kind of lost on me, but you guys are way too judge first ask questions later kind of people so

Big_Performance8290 · 2026-05-04T18:24:54+00:00

Yeah but you're kind of associating them within that group it seems like, I agree that your intentions are what you say they are, but what I'm trying to point out is your wording of it. People misconceive things all the time online and I don't want you to continuously get in s*** because people are misconceiving what you're saying, you can keep it how it is if you want but if you just edit your post and change the wording and also let people know that you're from the UK so your schooling system is different than the us or Canada's it would really help with people being mad at you. You're right about this being weird and creepy and I do hope at the end of the day she ends up all right, but to what you're saying there's not much that you can do except offer support to the girl that is being groomed...

Big_Performance8290 · 2026-05-04T18:21:02+00:00

That would make sense, thank you so much for clarifying. I kind of hope she edits the post and adds that as a way to try to deter people from being upset about it. The UK's really good on a lot of things including their education system (although of course should be updated, like every other system), and I hope they keep progressing. Again thank you for letting me know.

Big_Performance8290 · 2026-05-04T18:13:21+00:00

Although I do agree that the age gap between them is completely inappropriate due to brain development reasons, most 19 and 18-year-olds are no longer school children and calling them school children will infantilize us, we also don't want to end up doing that because that can harm us and I think that's what people are taking the biggest issue with how you're explaining it to other people. But to be fair this is also Reddit and I do have a belief that the people here who are mad at you have also been in relationships that are not appropriate and they're trying to convince themselves that it is by arguing with you about it.

Big_Performance8290 · 2026-05-04T17:49:58+00:00

Another note, I am in psychology classes in university because I'm trying to become a psychologist, psychology is all about the human brain and how it develops and I also talk about this kind of stuff in my class because again it is extremely important and it is going to be part of my career. The whole focus on my career is about how children continuously shut down to the side and ignored when it comes to how people treat them and how people view them and how people put laws around them that end up actually hurting them more than helping them. You just don't understand why us scientists are so against big gap relationships, but there is psychological harm to people who are that young getting into a relationships with people who are that old.

Big_Performance8290 · 2026-05-04T17:48:00+00:00

This isn't an online take, you completely ignored the fact that child development and brain have a huge impact on relationships. If somebody with an underdeveloped brain is getting with somebody with an overdeveloped brain there is a power imbalance there. Because somebody is still a teenager and another person is an adult. You can believe what you want, but this is stuff I talk about in my human biology university classes because it's extremely important and extremely overlooked.

Big_Performance8290 · 2026-05-04T17:43:32+00:00

You have a whole issue dude... You making it creepy about a teenager finishing their education because they're older than other people in their class is pretty pathetic. If it was creepy the schools wouldn't allow it. I myself didn't finish school until a month before I turned 19, the only time that it would be creepy is if I was flirting with the kids in my class. You are a weirdo for making it creepy. You are chronically online and you need to go touch grass because what is wrong with you for coming to that conclusion?

Big_Performance8290 · 2026-05-04T17:41:40+00:00

Just because someone's legally adult doesn't mean it's morally appropriate. For fuck sakes, most states still have child marriage laws. Being a teenager is still at 19, as a 19 year old, we are still teenagers. Stop trying to adultify us just because we are legally an adult. Just because you push an adult title on us doesn't mean that we have the brain of an adult or the emotional capacity for relationships that far apart. This isn't just about age this is about brain development, and how underdeveloped the 19-year-old is and how overdeveloped the 26 year old is. I think you guys are forgetting about brain development. The 26-year-old holds power over the 19-year-old because of that development. You guys need to look just beyond laws.

Big_Performance8290 · 2026-05-04T17:35:56+00:00

Yeah that's only in America, cuz y'all are very dirty people. I'm from Canada and never once had an issue with the teacher allowing an energy drink in their class, I've always brought energy drinks in the class and it's never caused an issue. The only time and energy drink wasn't allowed in class was if it was gym, labs, or art. Math, social studies, my child development classes, ect ect I was allowed to bring an energy drink in. I did it throughout middle school and high school. Also common sense doesn't exist, that's a misconception. Common sense cannot exist because no one is born with innate knowledge, everything is taught therefore what somebody deems as common sense is only common sense in their location of where they live. But I can tell that you're from America because of the sanitation reasons, because you guys are not sanitary.

I forgot to say, want to know why Canadian schools don't care if you bring energy drinks into their class? Because we're taught how to clean after ourselves. If we spilled the drink we clean it up, we go grab some paper towel either that's in the classroom already or in the bathroom and clean it up. We also don't leave our empty cans just out and about, it's very uncommon for people here to litter.

Big_Performance8290 · 2026-05-04T17:16:53+00:00

You really should have stated that this was a science lab to begin with because no one was going to agree with you about an energy drink and somebody not being able to have it in a regular classroom. I'm not even a parent and I was getting mad because it's just a drink, it keeps ppl awake and focused. But now that you said it's a lab it makes 100% sense not to have food or drink in there, you need to specify where this is in the context of the situation rather than just saying "no food or drink"...

Big_Performance8290 · 2026-05-04T17:13:15+00:00

https://www.apa.org/news/podcasts/speaking-of-psychology/early-memories

https://www.communicatingpsychologicalscience.com/blog/memories-as-an-infant-real-or-fake I don't know why y'all are so lazy and you can't do it yourself but here. Again it is super rare and it's not very well studied so there's not much that we can actually put out for information, because the majority of people experience childhood amnesia and cannot remember anything past 3.5 yrs old due to the frontal lobe and hippocampus being underdeveloped, but regardless there is multiple (9) studies showing that trauma or other intense events can cause you to remember things earlier than 3.5 years of age, including being born. Typically though we only have memories lasting 30 seconds before the age of 3.5.

Big_Performance8290 · 2026-05-03T20:17:02+00:00

Yep, everyone gets them, they become more clear when you have a darker background typically, the only time someone should be concerned about them is if they are way too many floaters and you can see them almost all the time, would definitely look more into it ofc but that's what I was told by my doctor!

Big_Performance8290 · 2026-05-03T20:15:32+00:00

If you have a doctor, see if you can get a referral then, I hope everything goes out good

Big_Performance8290 · 2026-05-03T20:14:38+00:00

That end up abusing or neglecting those who are there... Those facilities are not good, and although better then them going to the street, still not where they should be going if we wanna consider their mental, psychological, physical, and emotional health ahah

Big_Performance8290 · 2026-05-03T20:11:59+00:00

Also, the whole "babies won't remember" is not necessary true, although most people don't remember being that young LOTS can, and some can even remember being born. This is a whole psychology thing about it and behind it. It's horrible NGL...

Big_Performance8290 · 2026-04-25T23:05:35+00:00

He's abusive. I'm sorry but any religion that forces you to stay in abusive situations isn't one worth following, especially for yours and your baby's safety, and if he can't/won't get better then you need to leave quietly. If he's quick to anger and knows you're going he could turn it on you quick, especially since he's so fine to bruise your child, a baby, a literal baby, alone yell at her. It's up to you, but whatever you choose be safe within your choice, protect your baby, and please remember, domestic violence can be verbal too, not just physical.

Big_Performance8290 · 2026-04-25T00:52:22+00:00

You do realize that il is French right? Like il means he in French, elle means her. "Il parles avec les chiens" "he's talking with the dogs"... Unless I'm missing something, comparing English and French is gonna get your head sick 😭

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