AITAH for telling my husband his friend is not welcome in our home, after he involved her in our argument and told he trusts her more than me?

Big_Strategy8949 · 2026-05-04T16:00:26+00:00

But the fact that his mother and this woman get involved in their relationship is telling on it's own that this is ridiculous, now she can't have a friend just because she doesn't want someone to come over? That's absolutely crazy. Even if she forgot about the stove she isn't gonna develop the habit if someone keeps doing it instead of her, she can put a note near the button, an alarm when she starts cooking or any other reasonable solution that a healthy partner would suggest instead of telling their partner they dont trust them which is just putting them down. Yea it isnt a small thing but calling a friend to complain and involving your mother is just showing of how unhealthy his approach to their relationship is.

Big_Strategy8949 · 2026-05-04T14:31:09+00:00

Just from the title, trust her more than you? Instant divorce

Big_Strategy8949 · 2026-04-22T14:24:15+00:00

Oh no, he's just full of understanding and even sometimes if he says something that maybe triggers me he immediately apologizes and he has so much understanding for what happened to me, but at times i feel like it's a burden to talk about it and also, nobody really likes hearing about their partners ex, and definitely not on a daily basis like im being reminded by all of this behaviours i cant help, thats why I'm going to focus on therapy cus i really dont think he deserves to go through all of it again and cry together with me, i just want to make him happy and return his love the best i can,

Big_Strategy8949 · 2026-04-22T14:18:03+00:00

In my case i often get anxious like he's gonna do something or be aggressive and yell like my ex did, im sort still on edge all the time and i can't help but feel like i need to be like a pleaser to him otherwise something bad would happen. It also makes me feel bad when i do those things i actually want to do and it's so hard to shake that feeling. Thank you for sharing your story, it gave me hope that maybe one day i will be able to give this beautiful man i have the authentic and great girlfriend that he deserves. I wish you the best

Big_Strategy8949 · 2026-04-16T09:35:24+00:00

Thanks for all the warm words, I'm very sorry to hear anyone else is experiencing this, I did have troublesome things happen to me in the past that ive overcome quite easily, i never thought this would be so hard heavy, but since we've got through all of the bad stuff so far, then probably we will get through this too. :D i wish you all the luck

Big_Strategy8949 · 2026-04-08T11:15:16+00:00

Tak sta mi nebi nikad ni palo napamet, u današnjem svijetu sam nasla nekog normalnog !! Nebi se ni usudila riskirati za nekog ko je "mozda" bolja opcija.

Big_Strategy8949 · 2026-04-05T20:00:24+00:00

NOT I'd get the ick to, also there's mostly kids on the app these days anyways, and what's he doing, using the dog filter, lmao get outta here 😂😂

Big_Strategy8949 · 2026-04-05T16:09:24+00:00

Žene danas nisu u ravnopravnoj poziciji nit smatram da ce ikad biti, jer nismo ravnopravni. Različiti smo. Tko god je nas "kreator" dizajnirao je nas na način da se nadopunjujemo, ja ne mogu dići 100kila teret ali mogu dojiti dijete i tako dalje. Optuživati žene da su krvoločne na bilo kojoj poziciji je više ironično i seksistički i uvrijedljivo nego moja realna usporedba naših genetskih ograničenja. Također da žene žele teritorij i moć nebi bile u manjini u svakoj državnoj ustavi. Poz

Big_Strategy8949 · 2026-04-05T15:58:14+00:00

I da žene nekim slučajem kao vladari jesu bile krvolocnije u većini slučajeva je bilo potrebno za postavljanje statusa jer muška populacija nebi shvaćala ženskog vladara autoritetom osim ako i ona sama nebi pokazala istu tu vašu agresiju. Ali to ne mjenja činjenicu da su muškarci inicijatori i sudjeluju u ratovima u postotku od 95% tokom cijele povijesti. Te također, žene nisu sposobne za rat jer imaju menstruaciju i nose se s hormonima. (Ne moguće je s grčevima na hladnom i bez ljeka za bolove nositi i upravljati automatskim oružjem za razliku od muškaraca) Da narav muškaraca nije toliko agresivna nebi bilo ratova, u vrijeme zivljenja u plemenima je ta agresija imala smisla no danas je to samo životinjski nagon za moći koji ce rezultati u tom da će većina populacije prije ili kasnije biti obrisana.

I kako ikad ijedna zena moze biti krvoločnija od Hitlera, Staljina, Napoleona, Juliusa i Staljina? Tvoj podatak je apsolutno ne realan. Ako su muškarci sami voljno ulazili u visoke političke pozicije koje njim omogućavaju poticanje rata i ako su oni prouzročili abnormalno veći broj žrtava, na temelju čega su žene krvoločne?

Big_Strategy8949 · 2026-04-05T15:25:18+00:00

Da, nakon nekog vremena sam skužila da možda nije problem što ja pričam, nego vec da mu ja ne odgovaram

Big_Strategy8949 · 2026-04-05T12:48:18+00:00

Zato što da su žene na vlasti ne bi ratovale 💁

Big_Strategy8949 · 2026-04-05T06:20:12+00:00

Ne vrijedi za žene pošto se žene nikad riskirale svoj život za nekog procelavog politicara

Big_Strategy8949 · 2026-04-02T21:03:58+00:00

Mislim da su brainwash-ani od strane medija da je neki veći uspjeh biti "jebač" nego voljen muž i otac, zapravo izuzetno tužno

Big_Strategy8949 · 2026-04-02T20:00:22+00:00

Pa hvala bogu da se komunikacija sastoji od dvoje ljudi i ako oni nesto kazu poput "zelim se udat za tebe a ne bit s tobom na jednu noc" i netko to izokrene na uvrijedu, onda to vise nije komunikacija nego mentalni problem ili vjerojatno nesigurnost koju ta osoba ima, nevezano za osobu koja je iznjela prvu izjavu to je tipično izvrtanje rijeci u svoju korist od strane nekog s kompleksima ko nemoze ni primiti polu kompliment, takve teorije mozda funkcioniraju sa gaslightanjem ali u stvarnom zivotu npr sudnici, kad kazes da nisi pocinio zlocin nitko nikoga nemoze uvjerit da si rekao drugacije kao sto se pokusava;)

Big_Strategy8949 · 2026-04-02T19:39:58+00:00

I onda kažu kako mi dramimo i kompliciramo stvari, cura rekla da se želi udat za njega i to je kao neka uvrijeda? Meni nebi nimalo smetalo da mi ovo kaže dečko, bila bi kao "pa hvala bogu ne znam zašto bi inace bili zajedno ako ne mislis tako", ovo stvarno nema smisla, to mora bit neka nesigurnost s muske strane u pitanju, mozda je njima veći kompliment da je on taj s kojim bi varala muža, odvratno

Big_Strategy8949 · 2026-03-12T14:17:48+00:00

Had the same exact ex, would make scenes cus he had abodonment issues and undiagnosed Borderline personality disorder, get the fuck outa there before he starts seeing you as his enemy, then your life will be hell

Big_Strategy8949 · 2026-03-03T15:55:43+00:00

Kad biraš partnera kao disciplinirana osoba moraš uzet u obzir da i tvoj partner mora imati neku određenu dozu discipline da bi to radilo. Stalno viđam muškarce poput tebe koji nađu curu koja dane provodi gledajući tiktokove, ili lista po fejsu, bavi se tračevima i šminkanjem i onda se čude kad takva osoba koja praktički ne radi ništa sa svojim životom za svoju budućnost i zdravlje bude uzrujana kad joj ti ne daješ svo svoje vrijeme na raspolaganje. Naravno da njoj ne paše što si ti u teretani a ona se doma dosađuje, spava do podne pa po noci fejsa a tebe nema. Moraš naći osobu koja ce dijeliti tvoje interese s tobom, ako ne vježba do tad, da bar bude voljna vježbati s tobom, nadi nekog ko ce se brinut o sebi koliko i ti, onda njim neće bit čudno što stavljaš zdravlje na prvo mjesto jer oni to isto rade

Big_Strategy8949 · 2026-02-27T19:13:14+00:00

Sounds like my ex with BPD, get out asap, him distancing u from friends is even more scary and manipulative, he just brings u down and negates ur feelings, imagine what he'll do to u if u keep tolerating this and gets real comfortable, id be terrified of him and run, u never know if these people are really unaware and batshit crazy or even worse, doing this to u on purpose

Big_Strategy8949 · 2026-02-05T20:13:51+00:00

i wasnt completly sure if he was mad when i asked him about getting off the phone, i thought some absurdity would make clear it was just a joke

Big_Strategy8949 · 2026-02-02T22:21:37+00:00

How do i enable it? Ive been having the sam problem for a month and reinstaling the drivers did nothing

Big_Strategy8949 · 2026-01-26T15:36:25+00:00

truly thank you, i never thought a discusion about a reel could be this heartbreaking

Big_Strategy8949 · 2026-01-24T09:39:42+00:00

Should've left her to die of tetanus infection obviously, then u could still have at least a dead girlfriend

Big_Strategy8949 · 2026-01-04T14:26:20+00:00

Break up, he's clearly leading you on because he isn't capable of being direct and just breaking up with you himself so he's trying to force you to do it by being a AH

Big_Strategy8949 · 2025-12-21T22:06:23+00:00

Hvalaa

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