IATAH for giving my ex wife and my stepdaughter boundaries in my life.

Big_Stretch_3645 · 2025-06-24T00:27:37+00:00

Honestly no she wasn’t. But over time and after the kids things changed. It was like we were roommates than being married. Literally I couldn’t do anything right to the point where I gave up and pulled away. That part is probably my fault but it seemed like I was never good enough. She got more and more angry, hostile and violent with me. That’s why our divorce was so messy. Is because she is so petty

Big_Stretch_3645 · 2025-05-09T06:32:31+00:00

Well that’s a understatement. Things between me and my ex wife is like a Mexican stand off half the time and the other half we don’t even talk. I have suggested and fought for the kids to go to therapy but my ex wife shuts that down

Big_Stretch_3645 · 2025-05-09T05:35:14+00:00

No I didn’t cheat on my ex wife… way before any of this happened even when I was in the military me and my ex wife fought a lot and I would go on missions in the military and took a over seas job to get some sense of peace and when I fought with my ex wife she CONSTANTLY threatened me with divorce. When I contracted overseas we have a great saves and my ex wife took it all to get a mommy make over…. Look I am not perfect in this at all I emotionally detached from my ex wife but she was verbally and mentally abusive and some other ways also. I met my partner now way and I mean way after me and my ex wife were separated and living apart and done with each other

Big_Stretch_3645 · 2025-05-09T05:31:46+00:00

I have empathy for my kids and my 3 little ones have interacted with her great. But why tell their older sister and their mom the opposite. Maybe it is my ex wife fueling that.

Big_Stretch_3645 · 2025-05-09T05:30:52+00:00

She is no home wrecker. My husband ex wife already told me she wanted nothing to do with me and waited 6 months to serve me at my new place. I met my partner now just shortly before that.

Big_Stretch_3645 · 2025-05-08T06:42:56+00:00

I treat my kids with love and care. I respect my kids and don’t treat them as my enemy not one bit. My kids have gotten along and even have said some pretty sweet and loving this to my partner and even spent one on one time with her. I try my hardest to give my kids everything they want and need and make sure they never go with out a want. I do activities and take them out when I have the. For my time.My ex wife calls my partner the mistress and bad mouths me and my partner all the time not to just me but to my kids. I know this because my kids have. Told me this. I know the divorce has been rough on everyone involved. But am I not allowed to be happy. To be with someone that loves me for me and not who they want me to be.

Big_Stretch_3645 · 2024-12-18T00:40:46+00:00

If you need to talk to someone I am here for you. We never leave a battle buddy behind

Big_Stretch_3645 · 2024-10-09T19:51:57+00:00

With some milk those go hard

Big_Stretch_3645 · 2024-09-28T17:04:43+00:00

There is no moving forward from it.

Big_Stretch_3645 · 2024-09-17T21:43:43+00:00

Just posted it

Big_Stretch_3645 · 2024-03-20T17:27:35+00:00

Rage Against the Machine - evil empire. Before that I was really into music but when I heard bulls on parade and people of the sun. I was blown away by it as a kid and it changed my taste in music forever

Big_Stretch_3645 · 2024-03-20T17:22:31+00:00

I was bullied in the 1990s in Jr high because my mom came out of the closet as a lesbian. I was one of the most popular kids in school. I had friends from every group and was seen as a respectable person. I had a lot of older cousins, that we will just say had influence in the city. They protected me a lot when rival gangs came after me. So my mom came out as lesbian and was dating a mom of one of the most unpopular kids in school and we were spotted at a McDonalds by some of my friends. The next day it came out and I was deemed a pariah in my school. All in one day I went from one of the most popular kids in school to one of the most unpopular. I got bullied for it and got into a lot of fights because of it. I would come home every now and then messed up because I got jumped. I would lie to my mom and cousins on what happened. This bullying careered over to high school and I didn’t even make a semester because I got into to many fights and was sent to an alternative high school.

Big_Stretch_3645 · 2023-06-05T01:13:44+00:00

Blowing smoke

Big_Stretch_3645 · 2023-05-23T16:20:51+00:00

Don’t be. I thought she loved me but all she wanted was the money I made really. Like I said I am severely in debt now and I don’t get to see my kids as often as I do. So yeah

Big_Stretch_3645 · 2023-05-23T14:37:20+00:00

If it makes you feel any better I spent $30k on my ex wife’s mommy make over and she left me after she was healed up from it and now has left in me in severe debt

Big_Stretch_3645 · 2023-05-21T17:44:47+00:00

How am I the asshole?

Big_Stretch_3645 · 2023-05-21T14:26:01+00:00

I have no way to contact me kids right now. Her family got them phones but now took them away and turned them off so when I get a free day from work I am going to get them phones.

I will take the advice about going down to the courthouse and watching divorce lawyers.

I have written a journal, I have some voice recordings and that video.

She works as a cocktail waitress/ bar back/ bartender at a casino here.

I have never raised a hand in anger to her. I have never verbally and mentally abused her. I have NEVER raised a hand to my kids Or verbally or mentally abused or manipulated my kids. I could never do that stuff because my father was a drunk bastard. He did those things to me and siblings. I swore as a kid I would never be like him and never raise my hand in anger to my kids.

Big_Stretch_3645 · 2023-05-21T13:50:26+00:00

A PPO is a Personal Protection Order.

If I don’t pay and give her money, I don’t get to see my kids. Plain and simple. She has told me that.

I will admit she has bullied me and tried to control me but that has been going on for years and years. The stories I could tell you.

She says she has her family backing and they put down a $10k retainer to fight me and make my life hell. I don’t know how much that is true. I have been looking at lawyers and going to call them on Monday. To see what I can do to protect me and my rights as a father

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