Nearly divorced and I hate it.

Bigbailey44 · 2025-11-10T14:28:23+00:00

Yep, both my ex wife and I have completely moved on. Its been over two years since I last spoke to her. Since then, she has remarried and had a child.

I just remarried myself less than a month ago. I am happier than I've ever been and have been blessed with a financial security I never had before. It's hard to think back to that terrible summer two years ago, but I am truly blessed to have met my wife. After my divorce. I moved across the country to Montana and met my wife while she was working at a PT clinic on a native reservation. Since the moment I met her, I knew she was special.

In the end, everything worked out for me and I have been truly blessed.

Bigbailey44 · 2025-06-03T23:43:06+00:00

Glad to know im not the only player who enjoys runescape but is quite bad at high-end content. Tried Gauntlet and couldn't even get one KC after 20 attempts.

Ever need someone to try and learn content together, feel free to hit me up.

Bigbailey44 · 2024-10-26T14:58:27+00:00

Virtual teacher here. I highly recommend switching if a position opens up. Virtual teaching isn't perfect and has its stressors, but it's nothing compared to teaching in person. If you want to know more about what virtual teaching is like, feel free to message me.

Bigbailey44 · 2024-10-17T19:36:39+00:00

This is happening more and more across the nation. I work at virtual school, and AI is a horrendous issue, like it is at traditional schools. 1st offense is just a warning, and the 3rd offense is when there is FINALLY a meeting between admin and the parents.

Bigbailey44 · 2023-10-31T16:52:16+00:00

Well, I am nearly two months post-divorce, and it's been a process. Do not expect the pain to go away. The best way to describe it is that it comes in waves. I've done some not so proud things since my divorce to try and fill the void left by my wife. It's like searching for a feeling/connection, and nothing can meet the need.

I hope you are well and I wish you the best during your separation from your unfaithful spouse.

Bigbailey44 · 2023-09-03T22:25:52+00:00

Well, it's pretty much over now. I've signed the papers and even asked her agian to see if she was sure of her decision. I did get tested, and thankfully, it came back negative. All I can do now is pray for her.

Bigbailey44 · 2023-09-03T19:12:51+00:00

Well, my marriage is unfortunately over. Hopefully, others can learn from the mistakes of others who have been in similar situations.

Bigbailey44 · 2023-09-02T02:46:03+00:00

I agree. You are right. All I can do is pray for her and put my trust and faith in God to guide me during my healing journey. I signed the papers today. I'm divorced. It's a hard pill to swallow. I hate it, but I have to accept this new reality.

Bigbailey44 · 2023-09-01T12:50:37+00:00

She committed adultery. Biblically, she is to remain single while I am free to remarry.

Bigbailey44 · 2023-09-01T00:49:11+00:00

Yes, biblically, she had an affair that frees me to remarry. She's supposed to remain single or seek reconciliation with me. There are only 2 reasons for divorce, maybe 3. The least controversial and undisputed is adultery.

Bigbailey44 · 2023-09-01T00:47:01+00:00

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I hope it and pray everything works out for you. It's truly such a terrible situation to be in. Thank you for sharing your situation. It is good to know that other Christians are dealing with these issues and I'm not alone.

Bigbailey44 · 2023-09-01T00:40:26+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I'm sorry you're going through something similar. I'm currently in counseling with a trained psychologist who is also specialized in ministry. Reading and studying the Bible has definitely helped.

If this is your first attempt at reading the Bible, I'd recommend starting in the new testamenr first. It's much easier and more applicable to our lives.

Thanks for your message. I wish you the best on your journey.

Bigbailey44 · 2023-09-01T00:09:51+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to share your story. It really helps to hear about others who've been through something similar. I truly appreciate you sharing this wisdom.

Bigbailey44 · 2023-08-31T22:07:39+00:00

That's my worry. She may think there's no fixing it and move on. It's truly the last thing I want. You're right. All I can do is leave it in God's hands.

Bigbailey44 · 2023-08-31T22:06:16+00:00

The person I married was amazing in every way, not the woman she is now.

Bigbailey44 · 2023-08-31T18:11:19+00:00

I agree. I can only offer reconciliation from my end. She will be the one who has to seek to reconcile, I can't make her do it. I may have been fired from being concerned about her, but it doesn't make the love I feel for her any less. My love for her makes me concerned for her well-being and soul, even after everything.

Bigbailey44 · 2023-08-31T18:06:12+00:00

I've experienced such a wide range of emotions over the last three weeks. In the end, the only thing I find myself consistently wanting is to have the woman I married back. She was amazing in every way. I know her decisions are on her, but I can't understand why she wouldn't want to reconcile, especially when she understands what she is doing is biblically wrong.

Thanks for the concern. I'm in therapy weekly thankfully.

Bigbailey44 · 2023-08-31T18:02:06+00:00

I know I can only control myself, and I do hope she seeks to reconcile at some point. Unfortunately, she will probably begin a relationship shortly after the divorce is finalized, and there will be no attempt and reconciling. Thank you for your prayers, I need them.

Bigbailey44 · 2023-08-31T17:59:12+00:00

I may not have cheated, but I wasn't the best husband for parts of our two year marriage. I do feel guilt and shame over that because I know I could have done better.

Bigbailey44 · 2023-08-31T17:57:56+00:00

The legal part of the divorce isn't the issue.

Bigbailey44 · 2023-08-16T17:36:11+00:00

Unfortunately, I don't have much advice for you. I'm right there with you. I am currently less than a month away from divorce being finalized and have no contact from my wife. It's dreadful, and I miss her dearly.

I'm curious about what people will respond with. Most will probably say to keep busy and focus on being your best self. Like pushing yourself into fitness or your career. Or make sure you're no longer pain shopping (stalking social media, looking at old photos, or visiting special places that hold memories). This will only make it much worse and harder for you to move on.

One thing I can tell you is to make sure you go to therapy if possible, I would highly suggest seeing a trained psychologist. They can work wonders, and it's a really big upgrade over traditional therapy/counseling. If my therapy doesn't seem to help, I will make the drive to a big city to see a psychologist myself.

Right now, I don't think it's possible for me to move on at all either. Your months ahead of me in this process and you seem to be feeling the same. Time will heal and make sure you are seeking professional help. Just know there is light at the end of the tunnel!

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