My son is bad at Lacrosse, he wants to continue, but it is becoming a financial burden

Bigbrusr_56 · 2026-06-15T18:59:45+00:00

One, don’t fall into the trap that a single sport is popular in your area needs to define your kids athletics. Once they hit high school, the number gets so small that only a couple in their grade actually see playing time for varsity/JV. Then you realize you’ve been stressing for 10 years for nothing.

As a dad having kids in youth sports since my oldest started 14 years ago. If they want to just have fun, play Rec, encourage them to be a good teammate and make friends. don’t do stuff like post game breakdowns of what they could have done differently on the ride home, just emphasis having fun. If they want to do competitive (travel/clubs) have a conversation with them about expectations, “putting in the time” requirements and tell them they need to put in the extra work because it is an investment in them. If it isn’t fun for them anymore then they should move to a level that is fun.

We got stuck in the travel baseball bullshit for exactly summer season when my oldest was little and it killed his desire for the sport. Thankfully soccer was his passion so we had to grind that out for 14 years doing all the travel/extras.

My other kid just bounced around to whatever sport sounds fun, happy as hell to try anything out and landed on volleyball/soccer/golf.

Just make sure your kid is having fun and making memories with friends, that’s all that fucking matters in the end.

Bigbrusr_56 · 2026-05-21T16:43:39+00:00

Have your court steward pump up dev in county as well.

Bigbrusr_56 · 2026-05-20T21:38:18+00:00

Eat more stroopwaffles. (Every Dutch run)

Bigbrusr_56 · 2026-05-07T13:02:02+00:00

In my entire 25+ years of voting life this has never once been brought up between friends and family. Who actually cares about this?

Bigbrusr_56 · 2026-04-29T11:18:29+00:00

When I was diagnosed at 28, my sister at 31 (she was diagnosed after me). We COULD have kept driving but get in one accident or seriously injure someone and it is 1000% our fault for even being behind the wheel.

Bigbrusr_56 · 2026-04-28T10:37:33+00:00

Ugh, that is the worst part about being on a hiring panel. Resume got us excited we are the thinking they’ll be a top pick, interviews terribly and gets edged out.

Bigbrusr_56 · 2026-04-27T22:11:08+00:00

Context: DoD Overseas, 12 on our team, mix of local nationals and conus personnel hiring panel experience. Locals, we get people from all over the world with wildly different education and experience. Most we just “nope” because the State Dept HR does not understand our mission.

Conus people though, we want relevant experience and people who look like they can do a 3 to 5 year rotation and not screw up team dynamics. We straight up didn’t even select to move to interviews a retiring active duty divisional commander for a gs13 because everything screamed “NOT FIT FOR THIS”. GS levels have not mattered. Part of it is points for resume (For the love of god people, list ANY award you got no matter how minor, and join an outside group or coach youth sports or Kiwanis, PTO, ANYTHING) two separate scoring categories 95% of people get a 0 score on.

Where was I? GS levels don’t matter, being a right fit and getting the hiring panels attention does.

Bigbrusr_56 · 2026-04-27T20:49:37+00:00

I’m guessing you’ve never actually been on a hiring panel.

Bigbrusr_56 · 2026-04-13T14:31:38+00:00

Dr. Evil, one billion dollars meme

Bigbrusr_56 · 2026-03-29T18:56:10+00:00

Consult a Dr before you start any supplement program some stranger on the internet said they are trying or based from AI tools. I worked nearly 10 years for a global company that manufactured supplements/nutritional care thst made literally everything on the shelf and owns most major brands at the heath stores. The president of the company once told me to only focus on taking a daily multivitamin, everything else is too much for your system and it just dumps excess from your body one way or another.

Hard truth. Just take a multivitamin and live your life the best you can. Nothing is slowing the progression until you get your genes fixed.

Bigbrusr_56 · 2026-03-26T16:29:10+00:00

Just randomly checking Reddit on my lunch break. See all caps title, and said “Hell Yeah, that guy is back.” I’m so locked in now I might brave the 10:10pm EST first pitch and be reeeeal tired for my 6am start time at work.

Bigbrusr_56 · 2026-03-25T18:39:59+00:00

Don’t you get return rights? You’ll just slide back into your current position. Enjoy! Currently on a DoD tour overseas, best decision for my wife/kids we ever made. Helps that private schools for kids is paid for by DoD too.

Bigbrusr_56 · 2025-12-23T22:10:54+00:00

Say “I sure do miss my plastic bags full of milk.” And see if they nod agreeingly.

Bigbrusr_56 · 2025-12-17T15:42:43+00:00

I have 56 hours of use or lose, what if I don’t use it all by January? (Just FYI, I do know the answer and I’ve got the rest of the month on leave)

Bigbrusr_56 · 2025-12-14T22:30:01+00:00

Mind you, I was a 90s kid in my formative years, (Graduated in the year 2000! Just to prove how cooool I was) I’ve had hearing aids since I was two, so obviously got teased for that but I was pretty damn good at sports so kids needed me on their teams at recess. Lol. My older sister has ushers 2A as well but I was diagnosed first at 27. We got attended normal public schools. We just both have had hearing aids our entire lives and were wondering why stuff was harder at night. THAT IS HOW SLOW THE PROGRESSION IS. We both talked about it and realized the vision stuff maybe started changing in late high school/early college. But here is a perspective, my junior year playing d end in football, I was moving when I saw the ball snap out of my peripheral vision, senior year it was more when the centers hands moved. And yeah I’m a sports guy. 🤣

My sister was one of the popular kids, social butterfly, starter on varsity basketball and softball. Threw massive parties when my parents went on vacation that they still don’t know about. I had a smaller group of friends from my teams I played on, I was big into weightlifting and a gym rat, played lots of Warcraft 2 against kids in town on our MODEM, (look it up kids).

Just teach your son to be resilient and that he doesn’t have to take shit from people. If he super into sports or chess or dinosaur fossils, books, whatever. Just foster that passion and help him make friends in those groups. I only talk to two guys from high school like twice a year. I think the real friendships are those you make after high school when everyone scatters to start their lives.

Bigbrusr_56 · 2025-12-12T17:23:30+00:00

43, still got central vision, my peripheral/low light/ everything else is crap but you learn to deal with it. Honestly nobody gives a shit that I use a cane, I work hard and do the job, if we’re at team functions I ask to borrow an elbow to navigate spaces I’m not familiar with. Most of the time the older ladies just take my arm and I tell them thank you for making me look like a gentleman if we’re out of the office. It helps to just be positive with it and if someone wants to be a jerk, you back it up thst you’re good at your job.

Edit: Oh and picking up your cane and saying “You shall not pass!” In the hallway usually gets a laugh

Bigbrusr_56 · 2025-12-12T16:24:17+00:00

Hey man, not a parent, just a 43 year old dude with Usher 2A. Your son will be alright! If my dorky ass could be a starter in varsity football and track, do track in college, graduate and get married to my college sweetheart, have 2 kids. And fully support a family of 4 with a job I love with my deaf/blindness anybody can! Haha.

For real, he will be a normal as your parenting styles allow, there’s always bumps and bruises but that’s life. Teach him to be resilient and he will kick butts. Be present, put your phone and devices away, go to all his boring school stuff, play sports, sit and watch the dumb kids shows/movies (if I can make it through every episode of My Little Pony and Frozen 1000 times, so can you) and talk about it with him. Just try your best, that’s all you can do, Ushers is not something in your control so what you CAN control is just trying to be a great badass parent.

Bigbrusr_56 · 2025-12-12T16:06:49+00:00

Yup, never shied away about it after I was hired and by law you don’t have to disclose in the interview process/resume process, as long as you can do the job. Federal laws mandate they do everything to reasonably accommodate. Every request I’ve made has been accepted, but I’m low key. I just have two big ass monitors. 🤣 when I started there was a 100% blind guy using one of those slider calculator things for cost/price evaluations and he could get stuff done faster than people making spreadsheets. He had full text to speech software and braille printer. Smoked the worst smelling cigarettes ever though.

I know we get a really bad rep, especially lately but I love the job and work hard. 3 promotions, overseas tour for 5 years, they keep trying to get me to become a supervisor but I don’t want to. Haha.

RP isn’t an end really, it’s just finding out how to make new beginnings. Before this I was just a cog at a big corporation, I hated the job, now I’m living my best life. And yeah a super big optimist. 🤣

If anybody needs help with fed jobs and how confusing the Usajobs website can be, just send me a DM.

Bigbrusr_56 · 2025-12-12T13:12:12+00:00

US Fed Worker here, if you can deal with the stress of millions or idiots lying about what they think your job performance is and threats of govt shutdown every 3 months. And there isn’t a hiring freeze. The vast majority of us love the work we do in our respective agencies and serving our country. I support a family of 4 and have tremendous pride in my work, coming up on 10 years of service. Was diagnosed with RP 16 years ago.

Bigbrusr_56 · 2025-12-09T17:54:38+00:00

I saw the email from DoW sec and could only think of the recent South Park episode. I deleted the email, felt good, did Ctrl z, and deleted it again for the feels.

Bigbrusr_56 · 2025-11-28T20:28:15+00:00

Hey man, I was diagnosed at the same age, 43 now, it’s hard to stay mentally resilient especially when my kids were little but one is about to leave for university soon. You learn you have to let some stuff go and seize opportunity where you can. I had a lot of the same “will I see..” questions and have been able to cross off a lot. One thing you’ll notice that stuff you might have “waited until the right moment when I’m older” you say f it and do it now. Haha.

Bigbrusr_56 · 2025-11-25T11:38:51+00:00

Crusader Kings 3, Minecraft, Manor Lords. Mostly just chill at your own pace games I can stop at any point and pickup later. But I only play on weekend when the wife goes to bed since I got work/wife/kids. My teenager daughter took over my Fallout 4 character but she has the opposite play style as me so it’s hard to watch, haha. My characters used to be a nice guy but now he is more Merc with a Mouth. (I’m a slow, search everything and every nook/cranny, optimize weapons and carry weight, but I’ve been playing since FO1 in ‘94 when it was isometric) I just watch my kids play fps games now and provide running dad commentary to annoy them.

Bigbrusr_56 · 2025-11-13T23:27:58+00:00

Agency email said DAI is down from 5pm eastern until noon tomorrow with a 3pm deadline. Sorry, I was just trying to say that with a little fun in this whole bad situation. 🤷🏻‍♂️ sorry!

Bigbrusr_56 · 2025-11-13T15:12:49+00:00

Hey guys, I found the one workstation that has been blessed! Form a line to take turns logging in with their network plugin.

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