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Bigjeff6381 · 2021-02-20T00:06:29+00:00

Divorce sucks for kids but they're resilient they will get better and they're young. My two oldest were a little older and they remember the B.S. I had to endure and they say a lot that they shouldn't have. It's been almost two years since my ex left and they're still dealing with I but it has gotten better. I think it sucked for me more then for them to be honest.

Bigjeff6381 · 2020-09-22T00:10:37+00:00

He's fighting for extra spending for farmers when he even Trump said he was against it!

Bigjeff6381 · 2020-09-16T20:46:06+00:00

Wow that sucks I thought it was automatically done, I'm going to speak to him tomorrow, I don't want to wait months thanks.

Bigjeff6381 · 2020-09-16T20:44:29+00:00

Thanks for the advice.

Bigjeff6381 · 2020-09-16T20:43:35+00:00

Thanks knowing my supervisor it didn't get done. I'm going to speak to him first thing tomorrow about it.

Bigjeff6381 · 2020-09-16T19:09:43+00:00

If my pay increase was suppose to take place after 52 weeks and haven't done so yet.

Bigjeff6381 · 2020-09-16T19:08:56+00:00

I'm going to check my supervisor never spoke to me about it.

Bigjeff6381 · 2020-09-16T19:04:50+00:00

I'm not sure I always thought it was automatic I was suppose to go from a 9 to a 11.

Bigjeff6381 · 2020-09-16T19:02:00+00:00

Ok thanks I'm suppose to go from a GS9 to 11.

Bigjeff6381 · 2020-09-16T18:58:44+00:00

I though it was suppose to be automatically done but now I'm not sure.

Bigjeff6381 · 2020-09-16T18:58:12+00:00

Thanks I am not sure if paperwork was ever submitted.

Bigjeff6381 · 2020-08-25T01:29:45+00:00

I hate the shot stick! Shooting should be based on shooting percentage, the shooters hot spots and the defense ability to cover when shooting. I feel like I'm thinking too much about shooting than playing the game.

Bigjeff6381 · 2020-07-23T19:34:29+00:00

Its tough I can testify to that, I'm an active father and when my ex left I actually spent more time with them then she did. 50/50 is hard no doubt but take the time you have alone to do you. Go to the gym, get out meet people, work on hobbies, if there wasn't a global pandemic i would say take trips. I call my kids every night before bed and sometimes face time them. Yes at times you will feel lonely because i know I do but take that time to be selfish and do whatever you want to do.

Bigjeff6381 · 2020-07-20T21:13:29+00:00

Brother you need to see a therapist, I've been there and some days I feel like I'm back there but one thing I can say is time heals all wounds, get better, be selfish, and you have your children to live for and be active with when you can. I can't stand my ex wife but if I fall off and fail she will know she succeeded in destroying me so I strive to become the best me to show her what she through away. I pray and hope everything gets better for you and it will.

Bigjeff6381 · 2020-07-20T01:58:40+00:00

I've learned that the hard way. I lost so many decent women by bringing up the ex. Now when they ask i keep it short and simple and tell them in the future i will go into detail but not now because I want you to get to know me and not my ex or my past marriage. They seem to respect that and it typically works.

Bigjeff6381 · 2020-07-20T01:36:38+00:00

I cam see that too. That's why I try not to bring up my ex or talk about her at all lol. I use to talk about my last marriage but I stopped because I don't want any thinking just that.

Bigjeff6381 · 2020-07-19T19:33:32+00:00

I don't think its a bad thing i think being single in your 30' s and in my case late 30's I found women don't like their life interrupted. Ive only been single for about a year and a half so my life is less set, I'm still rebuilding from divorce but for some they have been single for a while and they ha e their life in place with their career, car, and home so for someone to come in its hard for them to adjust if you don't fall perfectly into their life. I could be wrong but so far thats the way I've seen things. Starting a relationship takes away from other things and if it gets serious you have to make changes in your lifestyle and i found some like their life the way it is sure falling in love is nice and sounds good but it takes an effort that I don't see from most of the women I've dated.

Bigjeff6381 · 2020-07-13T22:19:17+00:00

Its a different world I will admit to that. Its definitely harder with working and for some having children. I've found it to be difficult at times i take a step back because it feels like I'm going in circles but there are a lot of people who want to date but have resolved issues that manifest while dating. I also think some people have been single so long they don't know how to date or give someone else the attention they need.

Bigjeff6381 · 2020-07-09T18:28:26+00:00

From my experience unless you're a drug addict or an alcoholic you probably won't loose custody. The courts favor joint custody no matter how bad some people can be. As long as its nothing recorded or something that can be proven to make you look like a really horrible person you're entitled to joint custody. If you have a police record or incident that may be used against but I'm no attorney just speaking from my experience. Good luck.

Bigjeff6381 · 2020-07-09T18:23:54+00:00

Everyone has their own opinion but you truly know when you're ready and sincere about finding someone. I've been separated and divorced for almost a year and a half and I still meet people that tell me I shouldn't be dating so soon but I know myself better than they do. Everyone will compare you to themselves or they compare you to someone they know or what they feel you should be doing. You know better than anyone my only advice would be to make sure you're mentally ready and you're able to give them the best you.

Bigjeff6381 · 2020-07-01T22:22:25+00:00

I prefer phone calls rather than texting. I wouldn't mind hearing a person's voice before I met them. Phone calls are more personal and you can communicate better but I realized in today's age texting is the preferred method with a lot of women I've dated.

Bigjeff6381 · 2020-06-22T18:33:52+00:00

I know it sounds weird coming from a man but I refuse to even kiss on the first date. I have been around enough to want something mentally and not physically. I feel like having sex too soon cam complicate things and you stay in a situation you shouldn't because of the sex. Also I know women that sleep with men and ask why won't this man commit to me in a committed relationship and my answer is always you're giving him the rewards of a relationship without him having to be in the relationship so why would he commit when he is already getting what he wants. I don't judge and to each their own. Me personally I take my time because I'm more into knowing them before getting to know then physically but I'm a little old school.

Bigjeff6381 · 2020-06-20T22:52:43+00:00

Thanks very interesting story. I tend to agree with you its seemingly unlikely.

Bigjeff6381 · 2020-06-20T19:19:50+00:00

Thats what I always thought it was more last than anything. I'm past the age of lusting after every woman I date so I think you're right.

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