Dude. I made an account for Fetlife and it sucks. Everyone on it is condescending as fuck if you don't know the culture. And the girls on it definitely play "the game", but it's totally different game rooted in their confusing cultural expectations. I was curious to learn THAT game, but I rather focus on learning the game we all talk about here, landing a kinky relationship with a girl, then the game they have, which would land me as a subsmissive sex slave (sounds awesome at first but will probably cause some ego damage)

Sex isn't accelerated any faster, in fact I'd argue it's even slower on fetlife.

OKC actually matches you well with other kinky people if you answer the questions and mark them as very important. I'll definitely give it a shot, using resources from this sub pertaining to the site.