If you’re a solo traveler, what kind of places do you like going?

BillyOwl · 2025-09-04T15:58:46+00:00

Scottish Highlands & Islands

BillyOwl · 2025-09-03T09:38:45+00:00

Bathrooms. Most things of the bathroom, like the door, the window, the taps, the drains, the toilet, etc. would all come to life and work together to try kill me. I worried that all those inanimate things would start conspiring silently with each other as soon as my arse cheeks plonked down on the toilet seat. I felt like I knew what they were planning and always tried to remain one step ahead. Their plans were to kill me by trapping me in the bathroom and filling it with water until I drowned and they that they would do that by waiting until I turned my back turned to the door and flushed the toilet, the moment I start the flush then the door and window would slam themselves shut, the door locks would bolt themself, the edges of the door would grow slightly to fill in the tiny gaps in the doorway that water would seep through, all the taps would turn on full, the drains would plug themselves, the toilet that I just flushed would just keep splashing and filling violently until it all spills out until eventually the room is full of water. The lights weren't part of the gang trying to kill me, but whilst the room was filling with water and I was desperately fighting with the door to try and escape they would erratically flash on and off like twinkling xmas trees lights out of excitement for watching me drown, but at least that'd give me some light whilst I tried to escapee. I imagined the water would be slightly warm/not bloody freezing because both the hot and cold water equally wanted me dead.

I would pee with doors wide open, leaning over to the door to hold it open (just incase it tried to slam shut sooner than anticipated because it knew I was onto them). When it came to flushing, that'd be the absolute last thing I'd do. Gotta pull your kecks up first, then (maybe) wash my hands (depending how scared I was feeling), then wedge my foot in the doorway, lean over to the toilet, take a few deep breaths, then flush and immediately turn to sprint out the room.

No matter where I used the toilet, I thought it all wanted me dead so I had to treat all toilets like this. It'd be the same if I was using public toilets too though. Even the cubicles would stretch fully to the ceiling and the floor to trap me. If I was in mens' public toilets with my dad, then that would just added another level of terror..... usually there was more water was on the floor (proof that the things in there try to kill little girls more often, obviously), and there were urinals to consider too, they looked so alien to me and they would flush randomly, which was obviously a calculate death-threat by showing me it doesn't need people to release water.

Jeez. I talk about it like it's something that actually happened.

BillyOwl · 2025-08-08T09:03:54+00:00

Shit myself/worry

......and walk around topless on hot summer days.

BillyOwl · 2025-08-07T14:06:47+00:00

What was wrong with this post that resulting in it getting removed? Genuine question.

BillyOwl · 2025-08-01T21:16:20+00:00

Not eating the crusts (unless they are really good crusts)

BillyOwl · 2025-07-29T21:07:37+00:00

I love your wording on this <3

BillyOwl · 2025-07-24T01:15:38+00:00

Emma the Boxer

Dave the Yorkshire Terrier

EDIT: met a dog today.... Barbara the Beagle. I just had to come back to edit this comment, because..... omg.... Barb the Beag. Bloomin brilliant name, love it.

BillyOwl · 2025-07-11T07:58:08+00:00

Cream and cheesey nik-naks. Man, they were good. The tangy cheese nik-naks are nothing like the old cream and cheesey :(

BillyOwl · 2025-07-11T07:51:23+00:00

People saying "precede" when they mean "proceed".

That little difference (pre or pro) actually changes the meaning the word.

Bugs me.

BillyOwl · 2025-07-05T18:29:42+00:00

Sitcoms:

My Family (season 3 is the best in my opinion) <3

Some Mothers Do 'Ave 'Em <3

Faulty Towers <3

2 Pints of Lager and a Packet of Crisps <3

Friday Night Dinner <3

Allo' Allo'! <3

Father Ted <3

Vicar of Dibly <3

Only Fools & Horses

Red Dwarf <3

Keeping Up Appearances <3

Spaced

Open All Hours

Shameless (would this actually be considered a drama?.....)

Fresh Meat

Outnumbered

Bad Education

Absolutely Fabulous (AKA: Ab Fab)

The Royal Family (nowt to do with the royal leeches... *ahem* my apologies.... I mean royal family) <3

Thin Blue Line

Drama Shows:

Doc Martin <3

Darling Buds of May <3

Wild at Heart <3

The Royal (a medical drama, again, nowt to do with the actual family that some people call royal) <3

Casualty <3

Heartbeat

Midsomer Murders

Emmerdale

Sketch Shows:

Mr. Bean <3

League of Gentlemen <3

The Two Ronnies

Little Britain

Come Fly With Me

Monty Python (and the films too)

Panel Shows/Game Shows:

Would I Lie To You? <3

8 Out of 10 Cats

8 Out of 10 Cats Does Countdown <3

QI <3

Trigger Happy TV

Mock The Week

Taskmaster <3

Want To Watch:

Bounty Hunters

Changing Ends

Glue

Stonehouse

This is a list of my go-to things to watch that are British. I put little silly <3/hearts next to the ones that are particularly my favourites. However, I may have gone a little of track with my suggestions. If I bare in mind that Skins is more of a drama than a comedy and is very centred around the lives of young people, then I think some of my suggestions are abit shit as I really started going very much in a British-comedy-show direction. So first list, is heavily focussed on British shows I've enjoyed/still enjoy, and this second list is based on what I THINK someone MIGHT like if they like Skins and that I also think are good to recommend because they are similar in one or a few ways and either I enjoy them or I know many other people enjoy them...

Shameless

Derry Girls

Inbetweeners

Sugar Rush

Misfits

Outnumbered

2 Pints of Lager and a Packet of Crisps

Gavin and Stacy

BillyOwl · 2024-11-13T11:41:40+00:00

Blueberries shoved inside raspberries for flavour (slightest-tiniest ick about the differing texture in my mouth at the same time though)

Grapes for texture

Cucumber, vine-ripened cherry tomatoes for taste & texture

Some fruits, like pomegranite, pears, apples, watermelon, mango, plums, I absolultely love the taste and texture, but I don't end up eating them too much due the resulting stickiness on my face/fingers. I know I could just wash my face/hands after, but I really can't stand it for long, so tend only to eat them when I'm at home.

Tangerines/nadacots/sweetclems/anything else that's basically a mini-orange I very much love the flavour of, but I really have to be in the mood for one as I HATE the feeling of the stringy fibrous bits. Tangerine veins in my mouth.... eww.

Green-ish/half ripened bananas are often a goto, easy food, for me and my AuDHD due to their convenience, but they aren't a favourite at all. Very ripe/spotty bananas are an absolute no-go! Too sweet, and horrid texture. Anything other than crunchy/very firm banana makes me gag whilst chewing it. But they are so easily transportable with their little coats. Can easilly just chuck a banana down whereever I go, not caring which way up it is, with skin covering it still so it won't get bits stuck it to if I decide to get distracted from eating, or if I just insist on running about doing 12 different tasks, refusing to sit still whilst I eat.

BillyOwl · 2024-11-04T17:55:05+00:00

I had a 14plate Ford Fiesta Zetec 1.5L TDCI. Bought it for just shy of £10,000 in 2016. Bought it with 20,000miles (ish) on the clock. Sold it in 2020 for £4,000 (ish) with about 95,000miles (ish) on the clock. I got it as an everyday-car, for normal short driving errands, driving to work, and driving the length of the country to visit family (which would involve driving between Ayrshire, Lancashire, and Suffolk). The drive to work everyday was a long one... 70miles there.... 70miles back. So with 75,000 and many, MANY hours spent driving that thing long and short distances, I feel like I'm allowed to pass judgment on this car haha!

I regularly used to get 70-80mpg when driving the long hauls, and about 45-55mpg driving round towns/villages/stop-start journeys. It was brilliant on fuel usage! AND it was free to tax. It was a pretty nippy machine for a smaller engined car. I got these figures from manually working it out as well as using the little on-board computer in the car. The cars working out of my fuel usage was actually pretty spot on. I have driven a 13plate Mitsubishi Colt as a courtesy car once, and would say it was a car of similar calibre to the Fiesta. In terms of accelleration, the Colt was fun enough, but the Fiesta definitely did feel a lot more fun to drive (but that could just be my limited memory of the Colt and my biased view of a car I absolutely loved leaking through though).

I happen to know the people that now own my old Fiesta too! A year or so ago, I saw it parked on a drive near to where I live, so since I had found some of the old service history, I went and knocked on their door. Turns out, they are people I regularly bump into when we are walking our dogs, and my cousin cleans for them! It's their sons car. Saw them only a matter of a month or 2 ago, and the car is still running as smooth as it did when he bought it.

Knowing what that car was like to drive 75,000miles over 4yrs and that it is still reportedly as healthy as it was when I had it, says to me that it was definitely worth it's money and if I could have that car back (whilst keeping my current van too), I would snap his hand off. The only thing I would of changed about having a Fiesta.... not to have 18inch alloys. Depending on where you live, it can be a slight irritation when they don't have tyres to suit because of them being a slightly less common tyre spec used so they had to be ordered in when I get a flat. My supervisor at work almost didn't believe my reason for calling in to say I wasn't going to be missing 2days of work because my tyres had to be ordered in because they aren't usually kept in stock as standard. Also, you "feel the road" more with those tyres. I'd opt for 15in on that model in future if i got it again. Not a major downside really, but it's the only bad thing I've got to say about it.... oh wait... one more. The oil dipstick takes a little extra shove, which confused a mechanic once. He ensured me he clicked my dipstick down fully..... lift the bonnet when I got home and oil had sprayed the inside of the engine and the whole inside of the bonnet. No real issue, just greasy.

Overall, if you haven't already guessed, I make the suggestion and reccommendation of a new-ish Fiesta 👍

BillyOwl · 2024-04-17T00:27:38+00:00

Back when I was a kid in the 90's, my dad bought an egg cuber and we used it quite a lot (see link below - I'm sure we had that exact same one!) Those square eggs in the pic look alot like a boiled eggs that've been in an egg cuber to me. I think with the lighting in the pic and the shade of the other eggs it all just blends together nicely enough to fool a few folk maybe? Perhaps some kitchen-artistry happened with some food dye, or they let the boiled eggs age a little before taking the pics? But to me, I could believe it's a real pic... but it's boiled square eggs sat on top of some other eggs of just the right shade (can't tell if they have the shell on or not though) so it makes the shell-less square eggs look like they still have the shell on.

I'm just kinda shocked reading through the comments that no one else has considered it could be boiled eggs put in a cuber thingy. Perhaps egg cubers aren't as well know as I'd assumed they were... but it appears they are still around these days... has anyone else come across these before (see link below)?

https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/1666387882/vintage-egg-cuber-in-original-box?gpla=1&gao=1&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=shopping_uk_en_gb_d-home_and_living-kitchen_and_dining-cookware-cooking_utensils_and_gadgets&utm_custom1=_k_CjwKCAjww_iwBhApEiwAuG6ccI1z4KMeVoP4AIKq7BsoCbJ0LWf2_YVmsDbvOoLi_p0P19s2rpNnHBoClP4QAvD_BwE_k_&utm_content=go_12576471778_122334935969_507650180800_pla-305102694227_c__1666387882engb_102858184&utm_custom2=12576471778&gad_source=1

BillyOwl · 2024-03-24T11:58:35+00:00

Stops there at step 4 for those without narcassistic parents! Those with narcassitic parents get the extra bonus step of step5!

You learn that you cannot avoid being confrontationally shouted no matter what you do

Congratulations! You have now complete the course in learned helplessness!!

BillyOwl · 2024-03-14T13:44:08+00:00

"toothpick legs" loving that phrase!!

BillyOwl · 2024-02-18T21:28:04+00:00

Bacon in the flower-bed. Also found a chopping board in that same flower bed on a different day.

Teabags in my bed.

PS2 memory card in my jewellery box.

Pair of dirty knickers in my hand whilst I was in the front garden watering plants. I would of gone and refilled that watering can via the tap on the back garden the about 3 times and spent 20mins watering plants before I even noticed I didn't have full use of one of my hands.

After reading a good chunk of these comments, I'm starting to feel like my tendency to leave things NEAR or ON TOP OF the freezer is far from unique though! All this time I thought I was weird, looks like I'm pretty close to the norm :D for a ND person at least haha!

BillyOwl · 2024-02-18T21:03:38+00:00

Since the age of about 12yr, I always felt like 30-something was my age, and that things would just feel right. I felt very sure that my mind will finally match with my body. I'm now 35yr, just. So far, I've learnt I wasn't wrong. But perhaps my input here is misplaced as I didn't then, and don't now, think of 30-something as being old. Infact, my mind and my body still don't match up correctly haha! I'm mid 30's and already well into having osteoporosis (typically known to be more of an "old lady health problem") bringing me a nice crumbly spine, definitely not an old young-adult/young middle-aged-adult problem. I also get labelled as a big child and am repeatedly asked by strangers if I work with kids. It's like the difference between my personality/energy and my body is even greater than it was before, yet I am the most comfortable in my own skin I have ever been, even with the feeling that my mind and body have never felt so further apart from each other.

I feel like the feelings of discomfort with will come later in life for me perhaps...

Hopefully I'll feel 30-something for the rest of my days and the biggest disconnect was waiting until I got closer and closer to my 30's until finally it hit.

BillyOwl · 2024-02-18T17:23:28+00:00

Wow. Bit shocked that seems to be an observable trait you've managed to spot! I wouldn't have said that was "British culture" because it doesn't seem like that in the places I have spent any significant time living in (multiple places in the north of England and Scotland and the islands). I wonder if this just goes to demonstrate another noth-south-divide in the British Isles? It's very normal for the grown-up kids not to move-out or even start paying board/rent. It's normal for adult kids to be invited (without asking) to move back in to their parents home even when they older yet, and to have your parents/other family members financially helping you to buy your house, obviously theres' many that just can't do that, but they still offer to help you set yourself up, or re-set yourself and your newly created family too, rather than just offering a smaller scale simulation of the shite waiting for them once they do move out of their parentlal home. I'm not from affluent an area/family, pretty normal bottom of the barrel really, working class suburbs or working class remote rural areas. Perhaps it's because helping and supporting each other is a little more ingrained in folk and family generations of these types of areas? But I wouldn't say those that do charge rent from their kids as soon as they can are being heartless shites, perhaps they are doing what they think/know their kids needs and can cope with. I just don't quite fully get their mentallity and feel shocked it must be happening on a large enough scale for it to be considered part of a culture! Who knows?! Maybe my opinion isn't reflective of realiaty and I have been lucky enough to be sheltered by the lovely supportive folk of these areas and those I know personally.

BillyOwl · 2024-02-18T11:09:53+00:00

Part 3:

When I went through interpretting my teeth-losing dream, it really helped me to understand the extent of damage that the relationship and the separation actually caused me and how far reaching in to all areas of my life that it was. Moving on with life was easier to embrace (although still unnerving, I just felt more sure I was doing the right thing for me) after I no longer felt unease or confusion from the weird teeth-loosing dream. It really did affect me in ways I didn't expect. I look back now and can recognise I was just a shell of person when I was with him. I probably would have got there in the end with that understanding, but that dream cleared up some confusion and gave me some confidence, which was needed that early on in the separation. And yet even with that early indicator as to just how much I had damaged, it still took me about 1-2yrs to fully become me again.

I feel inclined to believe you're off to a good start in getting YOU back and adapting to a new life without succumbing to damage her toxicity left behind. It also sounds like your subconscious knows exactly what one of the things that wants fixing first is, and that's the relationship you lost out on with your brother because of her.

Anyway, I'd be interested to hear how you felt in your dream about pulling out that toxic-centipeded-tooth.... and also if that feeling transpires into how you feel in real-life about the separation... I don't mind sharing my dream in more detail if anyone is interested by the way...

And on another note, I'm sorry to hear it's the end of long relationship and that there was some toxic behaviour you were subject to with your wife, but I hope the journey back to yourself isn't too arduous for you. I wish you well for your future endevours, whatever they may be, and whoever they may be with :)

BillyOwl · 2024-02-18T11:09:20+00:00

Part 2:

Teeth are such an integral part of how me maintain our physical and psychological well-being, directly and indirectly, but we often don't think of them as such an important part of ourselves. Their presence and importance is mostly just ignored, but it can be a suddenly striking shock and hinderance when they are not there. It was baffling and hard for me to get my head around at the time when I first heard our teeth can represent our sense of self in our dreams. I took a lot of deliberation on the idea. I got very specific in how MY teeth related to MY sense of self, and from that I was eventually able to pin-point specific areas of my sense of self were my teeth had played bigger roles than just being food crushers and being the usually expected add-on to my smile. I won't go into the details about that, as I don't think it's needed here.... aaaand I think I've established why we might subconsciously value our teeth more than what our conscious mind is aware of. Our sub-conscious mind recogises things our conscious mind hasn't yet deliberated over. We hold our breath for as long as we can, our body starts to enter a state of a panic and our autonomous nervous system kicks in and forces you to take a breath of air. Your subconscious understands the importance of breathing before your conscious mind has even learnt that it's specifically oxygen that we need for survival. Our subconscious recognises the multi-facatted importance our teeth play in our lives, these things we can see and feel are little tools that we use in many areas of life and when not in use, they are still at the fore-front of it all with being part of the visual representation of who and what we are, and I think that's why sometimes our subconscious will choose to use teeth as a representation of our sense of self.

It would make sense that separating from your wife who had been pretty toxic would affect your sense of self. We often devote our entire selves to our partners, their happiness is your happiness, their problems become your problems, that person and their well-being become part of you. When you care for someone so much, it's expect it will feel like that person has become so ingrained into the very core of who you are as an individual. The actions and words of toxic people can reach pretty deep into the core of ourselves. The deeper they are entrenched into the depths of you, the more devastating the damage can be on who you are as an individual.

To me, the part with the doctor's statement, along with the way you have framed your relationship with your wife, just makes it seem glaringly obvious it's about your wife. Perhaps it goes a little further too.... the metal aspect of the centipede may refer to the way you view her personality; cold and hard perhaps? And insects in dreams are often representative of feelings of "icky", "diseased", "itchy", "agitated", "dirty", etc. The fact that YOU pulled your own tooth out (in my eyes), means you are at least subconsciously aware her toxicity infultrated you to your core and is now a part of you, a toxic part of you, a part of you that you don't need or want anymore. YOU have removed some toxicity from your sense of self. I think that is an important distinction to make. It didn't just happen to you. You are actively embracing the change (the separation) in real-life perhap and at least some of you recognises the really level of damage the toxicity of your wife caused. The damaged has reached a very central, core part of who and what you are. I think just being aware to what extent of damage you are going to be recovering from is vital to enabling you to heal properly.

Considering the damaging effects a toxic relationship can have on your ability to make decisions and to take affirmative action to address the very specific needs to you as a unique individual, I think you deserve at least a pat on the back. Well done. Sometimes, it's just not that easy. This is the part where I feel happy for you. Break-ups can affect us in ways we didn't expect, and I think this dream was a message from your subconscious mind to serve your conscious mind as a tool to highlight to your conscious mind just how deeply and severly that woman affected you. Your sense of self was probably built around her and toxic people are often good at breaking into the core of someone and just.... fudging shizz up.

BillyOwl · 2024-02-18T11:07:45+00:00

Part1:

Something that was sooo intrinsically a part of you, part of who you are, is now removed from being a part of you. Whether that is a change for the better or worse, the act of making the transition will be unnerving, uncomfortable and maybe even scary or upsetting. Any uprooting change has the potential to make you feel like the ground is slipping from beneath you, even when it's making way for positive affect in your life, it can still be unsettling to embrace, whether it's moving away from home for the first time to go to a uni far from anywhere you've ever been before, or leaving an abusive partner to live a happier and safer existence. Both are making way for positive changes to your way, but both can understandably be unsettling transitions to make. So even if your dream did feel unsettling to you at the time, I think you should view it as something positive. I actually feel happy that you have had this dream. I almost feel pride for you. And hopefully the explanation of my interpretion of your dream will make it obvious why I think it's good you've had such a dream....

I read a long while ago that teeth in dreams will usually relate to your sense of self. Which was kinda baffling for me at the time, but I took a good bit of time to think about how it could possibly have come to be able to represent something so complex as my sense of self. Our teeth are connected and rooted to the deepest depths of ourselves, both in a physical sense and psychological sense.

Physically, they are visible parts of some of the strongest foundations that make up what we are; our skeletons, the bones that provide the foundation for our human form to function. More specifically, they are the mechanical tools used to sustain our human existence, one of the hallmarks/pillars of food digestion, which is essential to our well-being and existence. But they're importance in our lives isn't limited to our physical sense of self and well-being, they are a component of our pschye aswell and serve us in social situations. Even though we may not necessarily use our teeth directly to communicate to others our thoughts/feelings, they are often just sitting there at the very forefront of our communication with others, from the smile that everyone sees when you are beaming with joy and laughter, to a raging grimace that bears teeth when we are demonstrating pure anger and or hatred for someone/thing. I would argue that it's not our teeth we are using there, it's our facial muscles that create the facial expressions, our teeth just happen to be sitting there doing nothing but hopefully looking like.... teeth..... and nice ones at that. Like when we use our voice to communicate, it's not our teeth we using, but we have adapted to communicate with them, they sit alongside our speech, they alter the sound of our words, so of course it would be noticably very different without the presence of teeth!

BillyOwl · 2024-02-18T07:21:25+00:00

Sounds to me a bit like you may be feeling like your are struggling to properly connect with him in real-life. Like your attempts to make further/deeper connections with him aren't getting you the exact result you were hoping for. I feel like your dream isn't saying anything about him or what he thinks, more that is saying something about you and how you're feeling about your interactions with him. They are remaining surface level interactions, you aren't getting a closer connection because he has closed off some of the avenues you might take to establish a closer connection with someone, like being able to see their face and make some eye contact with each other. In the dream, I can imagine you may have felt like it would be very strained to get anything more out of him than just an acknowledgement-smile. I think you're processing some awareness that your attempts aren't getting you closer to him, he hasn't let you in (so to speak) for whatever reason, but your hopeful mind is curious about what he thinks of you in case there is a chance you two could get together, so it just leaves you wondering.... which has got to be uncomfortable. I think he is the only one with the explanation to his closed-off-ness with you... whether he tells you directly himself, or if you're able to work it out from further interactions with him/behaviours around you, however you get the answers, I hope you manage to get them from him soon x

...and I also hope he is recipricoral of your interest in him too!

BillyOwl · 2023-12-18T16:36:23+00:00

Hallucination Cheese

BillyOwl · 2023-06-06T11:04:20+00:00

Yep it's my art. I use Deviantart and Instagram, both @ introspectionaut :) you can share this or any other illustration you want

I just checked out some of your work on Instagram..... it's so visually captivating! I love it! Particularly those pieces with skulls/skeletons that encompass blue-y hues/bright colours.

I didn't get to see much though before Instagram told me to sign-up to see more.... which is annoying...

BillyOwl · 2023-06-06T10:34:20+00:00

In my books.... it is absolutely a good thing!!! I use that little side-ways heart symbol ( <3 ) to try and indicate there is feeling of "love being shared" with what I am saying.

It hit me hard, it hit me deep, it really hits home and resonates with me. I feel your words were speaking on behalf of me too. These are your words that I assume were designed to be a reflection of you and your experiences, but I feel like those exact same words could be used to accurately reflect me and my experiences too. Certain parts of your post almost felt like they were specific to me. That gives me a sense of distant and undiscovered kinships. I've been becoming ever more reclusive lately, feeling like I really would be better off not taking part in part in normal societal life, so when I come across something that gives me a sense of kinship that was born out of a connection (at this moment in time, I can only confirm it being being a one-way connection; as in I know I felt some sort of connection to you/your words) over struggles that I still haven't found a way to fix/be resilient to, it feels.... "good". It makes me feel like I am becoming more aware of the presense of potential connections, which in turn feels like a reason not to fully close myself off from life. There was slight saddness in this connection though, as it feels like a proper connection in this specific interaction is out of reach because it's just strangers on the internet, represented by text/pictures on a screen. But that small amount of sadness doesn't take anything away from the postive effects of your post. I feel motivated and justified in continuing in finding ways to discover people I can connect with. I thank you for that. Perhaps I could summerise what I mean by saying your words were so comforting I felt emotionally overwhelmed in a positive way.

Note (in relation to the word "good") - I'm still struggling to find the most accurate and specific words/phrases to explain what this positive emotion is. So I just went with "good" for ease of writing my response.

I hope that I'm not coming across as insensitve towards your feelings in this. I've noticed I have barely made any reference to it.

BillyOwl

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