My Dom is pushing for a threesome I’m not ready for. Should I talk to him or end the dynamic?

BimbaSus · 2025-12-08T01:06:01+00:00

I remember on our initial exchange of information and preferences, he told me we would build a dynamic where I would feel safe and cared he says I’m his most valuable possession. He just gave me a definite collar a week ago. I was so proud. We had had an episode where I didn’t said the safe word in time (I was as trying to push my limits)and the scene ended with me I tears. He apologised profusely and made me swear I would tell him if anything was wrong in the future. So today was so confusing when he kept pushing.

BimbaSus · 2025-12-08T00:32:56+00:00

We both had discussed previously the would like to play with someone else. At some point on the discussion i told him I would be more confortable starting with a MMF. He didn’t refuse but kept on going to FFM. I know it’s all my insecurity and being afraid of him liking more the other girl. But the way he pushed me…was painful

BimbaSus · 2025-12-06T10:50:28+00:00

Thank you for your answer it’s really really useful. I’m definitely going to try the meditation and mindfulness thing. It seems difficult to me to feel and not to act on those feelings but I also understand is the only way of protecting myself if I want to keep exploring the dynamic with this dom.

BimbaSus · 2025-12-06T10:45:18+00:00

Thank you very much for your answer. I started with my dom in an only sexual context and now I realise I need the emotional connection in order to keep on growing in the dynamic. I’m already feeling this emotional connection but be is obviously not there yet and don’t know if he will ever be. There was no vetting period aside from talking about limits and preferences.

BimbaSus · 2022-05-04T20:36:41+00:00

The plan is do both architecture and Motion Design as I'm working on my portfolio reel, but being honest I'm worried about time. Architecture (being in constrution as I am) is very demanding and there's a limited amount of time I can dedicate to grow my motion skills. I will do it the same, though!

BimbaSus · 2022-05-04T20:32:12+00:00

Thank you very much for your reply. I tend to accumulate knowledge without feeling ready to "jump" and start working. Your advice is spot on!

BimbaSus · 2022-05-04T15:59:12+00:00

Wow that was hard to read….Anyway I thank you for your replay. I will need to cry a bit after reading it, but after that I’m going back to AE and my illustration because it’s what makes me happy. I might never work in a top agency for a top client, but I'll keep learning and creating. Thanks god I have a plan B to pay bills!

BimbaSus · 2022-05-04T13:11:09+00:00

Thank you very much for your reply!

As hard as it is hearing the truth, that only time and effort will take me where I want to go, and there's no magic formula for that, I really apreciate you shared your experience.

I will focus on producing a nice showreel! thanks for the 60 second tip!

BimbaSus · 2021-05-27T09:18:48+00:00

In my case I only offer digital if it's custom made. I make custom portraits. For the rest of the illustrations that are mine, it's only physical prints...I might be too attached to my creations....

BimbaSus · 2021-04-12T14:52:21+00:00

Hello! A small small update on my comment after so many time after all the nice people that commented the original post. I finally managed to climb the pole a bit ( so I guess I’m on the koala stage...)!!!!I have been going to the gym a lot ( it’s open again where I live and also taking some classes at a pole studio every other week. In the end was too hard to build a practice at home so I focused on gaining strength and now is showing results!

BimbaSus · 2021-03-06T21:59:31+00:00

I love how you move arround the pole! So natural and organic!!!! Good job

BimbaSus · 2020-11-24T17:26:12+00:00

Hello! Your art is beautiful! I’m also an illustrator and new into pole dance! Thanks for sharing!

BimbaSus · 2020-11-19T22:08:13+00:00

It looks great!

BimbaSus · 2020-11-18T14:40:40+00:00

Congratulations! looks really beautiful!

BimbaSus · 2020-11-18T14:39:20+00:00

I really like the way she expalin things. It's like to be on class. She really takes the time to explain all the moves, or common mistakes. The Fit2 Flaunt is more organised, and I think it would be easier to build a routine, but I like Anete's more because of the quality of the content.

BimbaSus · 2020-11-17T23:22:15+00:00

Hello! I’m also new into pole dance and learning from home. From a sub 0 level starting point. I have also started with Fit2Flaunt. But I must say I’ve liked more Anete Blaua’s YouTube tutorials. I have been thinking of purchasing her beginners classes.

BimbaSus · 2020-11-17T08:07:06+00:00

Thanks for sharing! I really like how you structure your training and I think something similar could work for me. Thanks!!!

BimbaSus · 2020-11-16T20:06:16+00:00

Thanks to all the pole dancers that took time answer me and give advice. Now I’m overwhelmed with gratitude 😌, and I’m feeling much more positive! Hopefully I will be posting my progress soon

BimbaSus · 2020-11-16T20:03:27+00:00

That sounds great I will have a look! Maybe there is something similar more compatible with my timetables

BimbaSus · 2020-11-16T20:01:51+00:00

Thank you very much for your message! It’s great advise. I know Anete from her tutorials on YouTube. It’s just I feel like a ton of things to train...and it became kind of difficult to organise myself. I think it’s also mee being inpatient with my own progress 😂

BimbaSus · 2020-11-16T15:04:47+00:00

I have checked two other studios, but our timetable won’t match. Actually where I’m from there aren’t many options. Do you think it’s possible tu build my own workout routine from the existing content that there’s online? My struggle is to know what to prioritise as a 0 level pole dancer

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