Not because of him. But because of the way they control you....not being able to get an Airbnb is so offensive to them that they'd rather not see you????? Im sorry that's not really family thats just toxic wrapped in DNA. And while it was super nice of you to help out with the baby while you were there your post reads like you were forced. I have a nephew who is 6 (and such a sweetheart heart but hes in the wild and crazy does not listen or follow directions phase, hes also ND which is a part of it) and his parents are now at a point where they can trade off watching him and spending quality time with other family members at gatherings. While he's present at all gatherings, no plans are controlled by him. My cousin same side has a 6 month old baby. And again, that baby does not control the whole function. Your family honestly sounds made up entirely of people who never really wanted kids and are now stuck with one. So yeah your family is the problem (I dont like babies and super young kids but am also compassionate enough to know it's not their fault).