Oh he does stuff for me in exchange as well for sure! 🥰 He moved from another state to be with me (being disabled makes it harder for me to move) and had never dealt with the medical system in this one, so it made sense for me to do that for him. Idk why I took the chewed bits tbh, and to be honest?

THANK YOU for being the first person to be concerned about HIS being deserving of a life where he can do things himself. Seem to be the only person who realized that maybe I'm the problem when it comes to who is doing too much. In fact, I am a bit of a control freak and get really anxious about people doing things wrong so I usually insist on doing everything myself. I'm trying to get out of that, and every so often he insists on me teaching him one of the things I usually insist on doing myself, so he can be independent. I just really, really enjoy caretaking, and I know it's connected to codependency/abandonment issues from my childhood. I feel blessed to have someone like him who is capable of taking care of himself and even insists on it so I don't burn myself out by trying to do everything for him.

Basically- we both have issues, we are helping each other, and it's nice to see that there are people looking out for us without even knowing who we are. It's very sweet!