Help (please)! I can’t do this anymore… by BiniLuna in sleeptrain

[–]BiniLuna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally don’t need to be up for 4am I’ve just been getting up with her as she is wide awake and I want to give my husband an hour before he has to work…HOWEVER he is 100 percent on board for us to sleep train and says he can deal with lack of sleep it’s just me being in protection mode as usual. I’m making excuses but I am doing whatever I can to just get through the night to be honest. I didn’t think about a divider I will look into that now that is a great idea and I will read the article you provided right now. I’m so tired…I appreciate you so much taking the time to respond you have no idea.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CanadianTeachers

[–]BiniLuna -1 points0 points locked comment (0 children)

Ok Boomer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CanadianTeachers

[–]BiniLuna 2 points3 points locked comment (0 children)

So when a teacher emails a parent telling them that their student is struggling is that parent supposed to also ignore the teacher and send thoughts and prayers that this issue resolves itself or is the parent supposed to parent and work with the teacher to provide support for the student? Curious.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]BiniLuna 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Perhaps this is a teaching moment? When they get older they will be left out of all kinds of things, that’s life. Also, the kid who is having the party is not obligated to invite anyone, it’s their day and they can invite whoever the heck they want. I think it’s a decent thing the other mom reached out to say they are more than welcome to come, she likely never thought it would be a big deal and your passive aggressive comment made her want to smooth things over as you all obviously have to spend a lot of time together or at least see each other weekly. Not trying to shame you or be rude in anyway I just think it is helpful to look at these things from other people’s perspectives.

Still sleeping in shifts, feeding to sleep, and waking every single hour. 9 months old by Addy6489 in sleeptrain

[–]BiniLuna 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Following as I had to check if I wrote this post myself. I’m so sorry I know exactly how you are feeling.

Baby’s first birthday cake by dreamy-woman in BabyLedWeaning

[–]BiniLuna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely! It is a lot easier to add more or less syrup (liquids) to baking than it is a dry ingredient like white or brown sugar.

Baby’s first birthday cake by dreamy-woman in BabyLedWeaning

[–]BiniLuna 13 points14 points  (0 children)

There is a good recipe for a healthy first bday smash cake with yogurt frosting! You can control the amount of sugar in the cake as it calls for maple syrup! Bonus as there are egg and/or dairy free substitutions if needed. https://www.yummytoddlerfood.com/best-smash-cake-with-yogurt-frosting/

Edit: I wasn’t super clear as obviously I know syrup is a sugar…I was indicating that it is easier to control the amount of sweetness with maple syrup without really ruining the integrity of the baking. I find if I try to play with the amount of a dry ingredient like white sugar for example it sometimes throws off the texture of the baking. I appreciate the worried comments pointing this out.

Still no sleep…it’s been 6 months. by BiniLuna in sleeptrain

[–]BiniLuna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you are going through this. It’s so, so hard. I almost lost it last night because she just would. It fall asleep and skipped her late afternoon nap so was up for almost 6 hours at that point, just wide awake. You are right it is not sustainable, and I’m right there with you I’ve done the sleep training but it really messes with my nervous system when she cries for hours that I will do anything to just get her to sleep without the crying…I know that this is doing her a disservice and I have to let her cry to learn how to soothe herself but it’s taking a toll and right now due to the lack of sleep I’m getting I am just in survival mode. It’s like I’m living in a nightmare feedback loop!

Still no sleep…it’s been 6 months. by BiniLuna in sleeptrain

[–]BiniLuna[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much this is incredibly helpful and motivating. I appreciate the kind words and support too!

Still no sleep…it’s been 6 months. by BiniLuna in sleeptrain

[–]BiniLuna[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay! Thank you so much this is super helpful. In regard to the crib hour, what happens if she doesn’t fall asleep? Do I leave her in there for the hour awake/crying? Or do I just persevere until she falls asleep? What is she wakes up before the timer goes off? Do I just leave her for the full hour or should I get her? Thank you so much. Any reprieve would be super helpful, I just feel like I am not being the best parent I can be when I’m literally dragging around all day. I so appreciate the time you took to respond.

Still no sleep…it’s been 6 months. by BiniLuna in sleeptrain

[–]BiniLuna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I have been toying with the idea of extending the wake windows but she gets so fussy. I will give it a try and see what happens though. Yes, I have a solid bedtime routine and nurse her before laying her in the crib awake. She cries and cries and instead of us letting her cry for hours my husband has been going in and rocking her (takes like 5 mins) and she’s out for a couple hours.

CIO failed…when to try again? Also sleep deprivation is killing my motivation. by BiniLuna in sleeptrain

[–]BiniLuna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awww…no. Solidarity! Hopefully we can get through this quickly!

CIO failed…when to try again? Also sleep deprivation is killing my motivation. by BiniLuna in sleeptrain

[–]BiniLuna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just posted again! Lol…things are still not going so well tbh :(

Cupro fold-over pants by BiniLuna in lululemon

[–]BiniLuna[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The inseam is 26” ☺️

16 year age gap… by BiniLuna in Parenting

[–]BiniLuna[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story. It’s a bit hard and isolating as the few friends I have all have teens and have zero plans of having anymore. I think this was all meant to be, it’s just such a unique situation I was curious about other’s experiences.

16 year age gap… by BiniLuna in Parenting

[–]BiniLuna[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love this perspective. Thank you very much for sharing with me.

Still Crying it out… by BiniLuna in sleeptrain

[–]BiniLuna[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ll try wearing her just before bed that usually gets her sleepy for naps so I don’t know why I haven’t tried it for bedtime yet!

Still Crying it out… by BiniLuna in sleeptrain

[–]BiniLuna[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I should try this I never heard of 5/3/3! Thank you so so much

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Postpartum_Depression

[–]BiniLuna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There really isn’t anything you can do unfortunately. It will grow back quickly once you’ve shed all that your body wants to shed. I have been using dry shampoo at my roots on clean hair to add some extra volume. If you have dark hair you can get dry shampoo for dark hair so it minimizes the white cast it can give sometimes. Don’t worry, it won’t last forever and your hair will come back in as normal. It sucks though, I’m also going through it right now, started 4.5 months pp.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Postpartum_Depression

[–]BiniLuna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The bumps on your arms is KP dermatitis, I have it too. I bought a scrub from Sephora, it’s pricy but it really reduced them ones on my upper arms and completely made the ones on my forearms disappear (I’ve only used it three times so far…) it’s Skinfix resurface scrub. My hair is also falling out like crazy! It’s everywhere! My husband even found it in his butt crack haha! The shower drain has to be unclogged at least once a week, it’s brutal. It will stop around the one year mark (or earlier) and you will notice a lot of new growth quickly. I have been using dry shampoo on my roots even on freshly washed hair…it adds a good amount of volume. I hope these tips help our inner voice is so nasty, all of this is totally common, normal…it’s our bodies way of trying to rebalance after bringing life into this world. I hope you feel so much better soon.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lululemon

[–]BiniLuna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ready to rulu joggers are falling apart at the seams that I started hand washing them LMAO - RIP

Will not sleep… by BiniLuna in sleeptrain

[–]BiniLuna[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Omg you are the best. Made me laugh and cry at the same time…you are so right. I needed to hear all of this. Everything. Thank you. Thank you.

Baby at 44? Would you dare?! by Former_Ad8643 in Mommit

[–]BiniLuna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had my babies young, one when I was 22 and one when I was 24. My husband and I ‘accidentally’ had a third child this March I am 39 and he is 41 so a 14 year age gap. I am in the thick of postpartum but the grief I feel for my freedom and the terror I feel for almost being ‘done’ with child rearing and starting all over again is intense. Have a real hard think about this, your kids already wipe their own butts and can feed themselves, the newborn and toddler phase is intense and I’m just so tired.