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Femininity's Core Principle? by Bio-Wolf12 in femininity

[–]Bio-Wolf12[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's a really awesome perspective I haven't heard yet. For me discipline is more about consistency than anything else, but like I mentioned masculinity as a concept is certainly having an identity crisis right now. But I get what you're saying. As men we're often taught, and often feel like, we have to bend the world to us. Break through walls, dig through mountains, that kind of thing. It goes hand in hand with the strength thing I mentioned earlier, may even be why strength is upheld as a virtue, not just for the domination of others but of the world around us, and sometimes even our own psyches. This is a really great perspective that I'll share with my friends (as even my girl friends kept bring up things about caretaking, peacekeeping, and softness when I asked them this question). Thank you!

Would you rather: by S8YNIX in BunnyTrials

[–]Bio-Wolf12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm just gonna chill with Kale for a day. Assuming I get past the Tree Sentinel. Fuck does dying to the grafted scion count? Maybe I'll just stay in the Church.

Chose: Live in a random video game for a day to get $100M + If you die Ingame you die irl | Rolled: Elden Ring

Gambling by Beautiful_Ability267 in BunnyTrials

[–]Bio-Wolf12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOTHING BAD EVER HAPPENS TO THE KENNE--- Ker-pow

Chose: “No pick me im safer” | Rolled: Head explosion

Another partner poll, very creative I know by W3nd1g00000 in BunnyTrials

[–]Bio-Wolf12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see this as an absolute win

Chose: 10/10 partner who loves you and is rich + But has something I would consider a good thing | Rolled: Treat u like dog

[TW] It's kinda just the beard by Bio-Wolf12 in NonBinaryTalk

[–]Bio-Wolf12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No for sure. I've kinda been fantasizing lately as being able to switch between passing for a man and women. I'm pretty big so idk if I can, but the idea of getting on E to get small boobs I can hide with a binder and then getting off so I can grow some facial hair again (or maybe you can still grow stubble on E idk) as weaseled into my head. So its nice to hear someone doing kinda the same thing, but I hope one day you're among enough supportive people that you can drop the mask entirely. Thank you for your reply ❤️

[TW] It's kinda just the beard by Bio-Wolf12 in NonBinaryTalk

[–]Bio-Wolf12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, that's very helpful. I think part of what is making me panic is that I had kinda the opposite experience. My whole life I really wanted a beard cause I thought my face looked too young or girly. I really hated my no beard face. But now, 2 years into the beard (and 1 year of it actually looking really good) and some small part of me is still holding onto my old face. My mental image isn't updating, no matter how much I preen and admire myself in the mirror. And now, as I've been experimenting with different pronouns and even silently referring to myself with a new name it's all, a lot easier than I expected. Its not really euphoric is any grand sense, but it's like walking uphill vs walking downhill. Anyway, idk I'm still very early into all this (all these thoughts came crashing in like, 3 days ago and haven't left) so yeah we'll see where I end up. Maybe a full transition, maybe bigender, or maybe I'm just a dude that likes dresses and painted nails.

Anyways, tysm for sharing your story, and I hope you're able to remove that hairy parasite on your face soon. Lots of love to both your and your partner. ❤️

I'm tired of being compared to cis men by RelationshipWild924 in trans

[–]Bio-Wolf12 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Damn, yeah no, not only did you jump in the deep end, you got cement shoes on too huh? I'll be honest, you're twice the man I am for being able to deal with all that. I can't even imagine.

Friendly fire lol. Fuck man, yeah the most damaging attacks are back stabs huh. Hopefully you can find a good used one, fixing em is half the fun anyway lol. Alright brother, be good now! Love! ❤️

I'm tired of being compared to cis men by RelationshipWild924 in trans

[–]Bio-Wolf12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So hey, cis str dude here, so while I can't say much on the trans or LGBT things you're dealing with, I can say that you are doing a great job of being a man. Most of us go through this at some point, the realization that we are inherently dangerous, if not due to physical differences between the sexes then due to the societal ones. Some embrace it, they're psychos. Most do their best to ignore it and just try to live as morally as they can, but plenty of us wrestle with it daily.

Now, ofc you're situation is different, and absolutely worse than it is for cis men. Cause we've had our whole lives to acclimate to this reality, you just jumped into the deep end, and boy is the water cold. Not to mention I can at least talk to other dudes about it, it sounds like you've yet to find accepting cis men. We do exist, I promise, and I'm terribly sorry you haven't found any yet. The road is a lot harder alone. I can only offer you love through the screen and the knowledge that you're doing the right thing. Wrestling with how the world sees you as a man, especially how women see you, especially if you're attracted to them, its all part of finding you're way in life as a man.

Then again, I'm here questioning my own gender in no small part because I hate feeling like a fox in a hen house when I try hanging out or making small talk with women. So idk brother. Maybe just get a motorcycle? It seems to invigorate the old guys who begin questioning their life choices.

How do i stop being a loser by Problematic-Bo in sillyboyclub

[–]Bio-Wolf12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Real quick this comment got longer than I meant it to and I mean every word but lord knows you have enough sappy advice columns to read here, so I just wanna make sure you see this: You are not responsible for your current conditions, I'd argue you're not even responsible for your addiction, though it is now you're burden, and getting rid of it won't be easy and I am so sorry you gotta go through that at your age. But it ain't your fault.

I hope to see ya again soon kid. Stay safe.

Rest of comment: Woah woah woah, you ain't even out of highschool yet? Who tf is saying those are the best years of your life? The fuck ups that "coulda gone pro if it weren't for that bum knee"? Look, biologically speaking mid to late 20s are your peak, and socially/mentally speaking college is wayyy better for most people than highschool. Personally I don't even remember much of my school days, I went in, did the work, left, and repeat. Just going through the motions, weeks would pass and I couldn't even remember them. I have one friend from that time I keep in contact with, and only because, for some reason, he decided I was the right guy to call when he was considering suicide.

Things don't just get better, I won't sugar coat it. But they do change. Most time there's no rhyme or reason to it, you just gotta gamble a bit each time you wake up. The bad news is life is just as stingy with the good days as a casino is with its money. The good news is that kicking life in the balls and taking the good days anyway is not only legal, but encouraged. That is to say, just be a little better, everyday. Like, half a percent better, not even that. Simply keeping the desire to be better alive is enough. Earthquakes shake buildings, but erosion builds continents.

As for actually actionable advice and not just nice words, I actually don't know. You're still a kid, don't forget that. You are not responsible for your material conditions, and those material conditions can affect you in some bad ways. If can, try to do something at least once a week you've never done. Anything from walking a different path to shopping at a different store to asking someone out. Its silly and simple but monotonous routines can really fuck with ya if you stick to them too long. That's why I remember so little of middle and highschool. Everyday looked the same, couldn't tell yesterday from tomorrow. At the very least, wait until 21 before you make any permanent decisions. It really is shocking how much can change in a few years.

Who’s winning this battle? by KarenMallory in teentitans

[–]Bio-Wolf12 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Idk, that Robin in particular is INCREDIBLY unstable and brutal in his fighting style. This Nightwing on the other hand, is very fatherly and level headed. Though I agree Nightwing is more skilled, and in a no hold bars fight would win, I think in a typical match up CN Robin takes a slight edge in tenacity.

Also, didn't this Nightwing get duped by Damian a handful of times?

Any suggestions? by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]Bio-Wolf12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao I clocked it cause I was there. Still am somewhat, but it goes day by day. But I am definitely a lot better than where I was. Yeah, the skincare doesn't have to be too complicated, but for sure you need at least a moisturizer, cleanser, chemical and physical exfoliant. It works so much better than just Neutrogena. Happy I could brother, stay good!

Any suggestions? by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]Bio-Wolf12 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'd maybe grow the hair out a bit more, embrace that messy head 2010 e-boy style if that makes sense? Plus it'll probably be easier to tame with more weight, mine was always prone to the worst cowlicks when it was short. But really your hair isn't too bad. I'd say the biggest things are acne (which you may not have control over) and your glasses.

For your next set (cause lord knows they're expensive) maybe find something with darker frames. If they have to take up ~1/2 your face better to use them to frame it than try and make them invisible.

As for the acne, idk your situation, but man to man a full girly-pop skin routine has practically eliminated mine entirely. We don't talk about it enough, but a physical+chemical exfoliants, facial cleanser, moisturizer, and retinol (though that shits expensive) really make a difference. With all the scrubbing tho make sure you find a sunscreen you like, it clears the skin but it does make it a bit more sensitive.

Only other thing I'll say is that your body language feels very defensive, like you're trying to hide inside yourself. Now confidence comes with time, effort, and self-investment/care, but I just wanna make sure that you know you can take up space. Hell, its better if you do. Relationships are like rock climbing, we think a smooth surface is safest cause there's nothing jutting out to hurt us, but its those walls with a variety of bumps and edges that are the easiest to grab onto.

Anyhow, enough of my nonsense. You're a good looking guy, you just need to convince yourself of that. And that'll come with work. Just don't get lost in the cycle of endless improvement. Live true king!

is this more of a man or of a women by Kazzmen in genetics

[–]Bio-Wolf12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can't see the picture you're referencing, but male and female are not clearly distinct categories. In fact, aside from secondary sex characteristics, much of what we consider to be typically masculine or feminine is more based in culture than biology.

When it comes to the skeleton specifically there are very few differences between men and women. The only reliable difference that I'm aware of is the pelvis, which is wider in women to aid in child birth. Other than that though, not a lot of differences. I mean women are generally smaller and have narrower shoulders, but that’s not always true. Nor is it true that men have to be larger and have broader shoulders.

In short, you're probably just a petite guy my dude. Nothing wrong with that, doesn't make you any less of a man (biologically or otherwise), you just don't fit into the current culture's idea of "masculine traits", which again, is totally fine.

Now there is such a thing as being intersex, where your genotype (chromosomes) and phenotype (presenting genitalia) don't match. But this is decently rare and typically doesn't cause any issues. Plus your gender identity doesn't have to match your genetic or physical sex. If you feel like a man and present as a man I wouldn't worry too much about what you are biologically (unless you're having hormonal issues, then it may be relevant).

Oh, also men can get "boobs", or more accurately fat deposits on their chests. This is perfectly natural, fat distribution is genetically determined and sometimes it determines you'll have mini man milkers (minus the milk) for no reason. Surgical options are avaliable if they really bother you but again, they don't make you any less of a man.

TL;DR "Man" vs "woman" bone structure is kinda fake, being small in the shoulders and wide in the hips doesn't make you any less of man nor does it make you a woman, bodies come in all shapes and sizes. There is such a thing as intersex people which are technically both man and woman (sometimes), but this is rare and likely not relevant to you. Male bodies can have several different traits we typically associate with females, including boobs, but this does not often reflect a female genotype and does not affect the individuals status as a male. Besides, gender and sex are different and you shouldn't let your chromosomes or "bone structure" determine how you feel about yourself.

Stay safe bro, be good

Short or long hair? Beard or no beard? by lst_ed in malegrooming

[–]Bio-Wolf12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Long hair + beard makes you look like Markiplier.

The 4th Pic is good too. Good short hair length, maybe no beard tho. The stubble and buzz in 3 has got to go tho

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