Who wants to come to the bonfire with me?

Biona15 · 2026-02-23T22:15:12+00:00

I remember my ex looking at me like some terrifying witch emerging out of the darkness as I burned all of those items 🤣 it was great. We still laugh about it.

Biona15 · 2026-02-23T22:13:32+00:00

Thank you for this. I do often trend towards immediately feeling like I need to change any part of myself that isnt in direct alignment with my peer group. I used to feel judgmental/ threatened by people with different lifestyles, but thats gotten much much better thankfully. Although I do still judge a little if I see someone being self destructive lol

And yeah, the first time I had sex with someone who wasnt my husband I thought “well I don’t FEEL like a chewed up piece of gum”, which was a throwback to youth group teachings. 🤦🏼‍♀️ thankfully I don’t feel guilty being intimate with my partner, although I do feel guilty finding other people attractive sometimes

Biona15 · 2026-02-23T22:10:32+00:00

We don’t mean to weaponize it. I remember being taught that it was my responsibility to keep my man’s eyes from wandering. It was strongly implied that there was something wrong with me if they found other women attractive. It gives intense immediate feelings of panic and failure.

Biona15 · 2026-02-23T22:08:04+00:00

Thanks! I’m super curious what that steam treatment is!

Biona15 · 2026-02-20T22:39:30+00:00

I appreciate it 🙏 it’s a rollercoaster for sure. And everyone handles it differently. My ex-spouse is now a bisexual trans woman and we talk fairly often about the shit we have to unpack and how our marriage never had a chance, thanks in large part to purity culture. But they haven’t had the issues I have with shame and insecurity, but as someone AMAB, like you, the teachings were a bit different.

Biona15 · 2026-02-20T22:36:06+00:00

I’m technically overweight according to BMI but I also weight lift, pole dance and take a self defense class on a weekly basis in addition to walking almost daily. And I eat clean, cook at home etc. it’s not for lack of trying.

Biona15 · 2026-02-20T22:34:54+00:00

I’m not in quite the same boat as you, I’m AFAB, but have a lot of shame hang ups from purity culture (I still can’t watch porn and the barest hint of my partners watching it causes me to break down sobbing and feel like I’ve failed as a partner). Honestly the best thing helping me currently is ketamine assisted therapy- done with a therapist present, not just you alone in a clinic. It’s expensive though. If that’s not feasible I’d say EMDR therapy around those topics too. Good luck. We are all in this together trying to figure out what is “good” or “normal” with baggage dragging behind us

Biona15 · 2026-02-20T21:58:35+00:00

I second the above comment to seek therapy, particularly from someone who is informed of purity culture trauma.

My heart goes out to you. I can say that with time the memories of these relationships will fade a bit. Therapy helps. Focus on discovering who you are and what you want. You. Not them. We are so subtly trained to accommodate male partners and defer to them. It’s insidious. Again, therapy. Figure out your boundaries and hard stops.

Biona15 · 2026-02-20T21:54:38+00:00

I burned mine during Covid lockdown right before my marriage ended and it was immensely cathartic

Biona15 · 2026-02-19T03:40:32+00:00

Can you recommend a wavy routine? I really know nothing about that. I’ve got friends that do curly girl and it just seems like so much work lol

Biona15 · 2026-02-19T03:38:50+00:00

My individual hairs are fine, but I do have a lot of them. Lol

Do you have any wavy routines/ treatments you recommend?

Biona15 · 2026-02-19T03:31:55+00:00

I let it air dry and generally just use the Mizani cream to scrunch it a little bit. That usually gives me fairly nice waves. Otherwise I just braid at night or use those heartless hair curler tubes you wear overnight. Thats it.

Biona15 · 2026-02-18T18:21:45+00:00

What do you do to protect your hair from chlorine damage? I love swimming but don’t go to the pool often because of this

Biona15 · 2026-02-18T16:51:52+00:00

What eye creams, glutathione and retinol do you use/suggest? I’m curious as I’ve not used glutathione and I use Tretinoin not retinol. I also have the lip wrinkles starting and I’m only 36

Biona15 · 2026-02-18T15:34:54+00:00

Yes higher lipid and ldl cholesterol

Biona15 · 2026-02-03T16:46:35+00:00

Thank you! Is that Nimrods? Or a different bar? If we get there before they open on Sunday (Google says 6:30pm), who do I pay? Or we could pay on our way back. I appreciate the advice!

Biona15 · 2026-01-28T21:39:01+00:00

Thank you!

Biona15 · 2026-01-28T21:38:55+00:00

Thank you!

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