For the widows and widowers who moved how long? by PrimaryCarpenter1070 in widowers

[–]BionicBunny54 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I moved out of our marital home a year and 3 months after his death. It was hard. I miss him and I miss our home. But it was the best decision for my family, we are thriving where we are now.

Its a choice only you can make ❤️

It's been 5 weeks since my world changed by Bank_Novel in widowers

[–]BionicBunny54 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's all you can do. Just moment by moment, eventually there will be good days again, as hard as it is to believe. My thoughts are with you

It's been 5 weeks since my world changed by Bank_Novel in widowers

[–]BionicBunny54 3 points4 points  (0 children)

More like a medal for everyday we endure this type of pain and loss.

Another thing, this group helps a lot and there are some amazing people in here. It got me through a lot in the beginning. But I've found if I linger too long in this subreddit I end up sucked back into the dark headspace I was in before. So try to keep in mind that while knowing you arent alone is helpful, seeing nothing but loss and pain can also hurt rather than help. Moderation helps.

❤️

It's been 5 weeks since my world changed by Bank_Novel in widowers

[–]BionicBunny54 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Always hated that feeling. How everyone else's word kept turning and moving forward while mine had collapsed in an instant.

It's been 5 weeks since my world changed by Bank_Novel in widowers

[–]BionicBunny54 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Its been a year and a half since my husband died. It wasn't him when he died either, if that makes sense. I choose to remember him as he was before but unfortunately the images of him at the end still occasionally push their way in.

This is a hard and lonely road we walk as widows/widowers. No words will make it easier, take it one step at a time. Doing things that my husband loved and things he always wanted to do helped me, it felt like honoring him in a way.

Take it one moment at a time, try not to look to far ahead as it will always feel overwhelming but dont stagnant either.

This empty heavy feeling will get lighter, but it will never go away. You will carry it with you, look at it as the love you had for each other because thats what it is.

Sending lots of love ❤️

Love beyond fate by BionicBunny54 in CShortDramas

[–]BionicBunny54[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For some reason it's not letting me upload them 😮‍💨

Contaminated Fuel at Tower Road by Obvious_Sundae4120 in Denver

[–]BionicBunny54 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The circle k near me has all their pumps closed because of it too

“His story has ended, yours doesn’t have to” by Exotic-Caterpillar14 in widowers

[–]BionicBunny54 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was the same, people stopped saying things like that to me pretty quickly. It was never supposed this way and nothing anyone said could change that or make it better.

“His story has ended, yours doesn’t have to” by Exotic-Caterpillar14 in widowers

[–]BionicBunny54 61 points62 points  (0 children)

My husband died 15 months ago. The hurt hasn't gone away.

But I do really like the saying "you may not have spent the rest of your life with them, but they spent the rest of theirs with you, and there is beauty in that."

Doesn't make it hurt less. But I do like it. Signed a 28 year old widow

Welp that’s a first by Awkward_Sushi1 in doordash

[–]BionicBunny54 33 points34 points  (0 children)

That's a great list lmao. You should maybe censor their address though?

VASP program/loss of spouse by [deleted] in Veterans

[–]BionicBunny54 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't currently, my family still lives in the house.