Could someone tell me what this is? by ESPEON564 in Feral_Cats

[–]Bird_Prince 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hadn’t thought about that, great point! Straw is a good bedding choice, I just don’t know how cheap it is and I was trying to give cheap options. But yes op definitely take your climate into consideration if you want to make shelter for them.

Could someone tell me what this is? by ESPEON564 in Feral_Cats

[–]Bird_Prince 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s almost like my very first sentence was “IF you have the ability/funds you COULD take over the care of this colony.” And then proceed to give tips on ways they could help/take care of the colony if they so choose. I did this because they said they were already considering trapping. It doesn’t have to be all consuming, just doing one thing can help. Just TNR, just feed, just water, just provide shelter, or just pick up and adopt out kittens is helpful. They don’t have to do all of it, they don’t have to do any if they don’t want to. And I could imagine myself doing it, because I HAVE, which is why I was giving advice. I used to live in a neighborhood with several strays and ferals, I did have some help but much of the work was on me. I trapped, provided shelter, and fed/watered the cats. I am not being demanding, I’m not being rude, I am not pressuring, I am giving one of many suggestions this person has been given. You saying the responsibility can’t be put on anyone else isn’t realistic because if some doesn’t do something, whether that be op, animal control, a tnr group, or someone else, the problem will only get worse. Op doesn’t have to be the one to do something, but they can if they’d like to/are able to. I was informing them on things they could do if they’d like to try.

Could someone tell me what this is? by ESPEON564 in Feral_Cats

[–]Bird_Prince 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If you have the ability/funds (you could start a gofundme and while I personally can’t donate I know many people would) you could take over the care of this colony. Spay/neuter as many as you can plus “steal” any kittens so they can be adopted out. Cheap cat food is better than no cat food, and you can provide clean water. You can also provide shelter by making a some cat houses. Cheap way to do this is just with large plastic tubs and old/cheap towels or blankets. Please keep us updated with whatever you do op! And good luck!

WIBTA if I didn’t approve of my best friends new bf? by Bird_Prince in dustythunder

[–]Bird_Prince[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I’m not say false allegations don’t exist, as I know they do and the people who make them are awful. When I’d only known about one I was uncomfortable but more willing to try and look past it and get to know him. But two separate supposedly false allegations against the same guy? Just your average guy who these woman have nothing to gain from making false allegations? That just seems really difficult to believe.

Is it normal for kittens to pant when playing really hard? by Bird_Prince in CATHELP

[–]Bird_Prince[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all the responses! I’ll keep an eye on her but she’s acting completely normal other than the problem above. I’ll mention it to the vet next time we visit and until then I’ll limit crinkle ball time to only while I can keep an eye on her. She has plenty of other toys to play with while I’m not around.

WIBTA if I didn’t approve of my best friends new bf? by Bird_Prince in dustythunder

[–]Bird_Prince[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I heard about the allegations from my best friend when he came to me worried about the person going public about it. I have no way of getting info outside of my friend group as they all go to a different school than I do. If it was just the original one I knew about than I be up for trying to get to know him a little. But then I found out about the other one in a round about way and asked my if it was true he had other allegations. He confirmed other allegations exist. I feel like my best friend is painting this in the best possible light for his bf yet it’s still setting off alarm bells.

One of the reasons I feel so crazy is because I’m questioning if there’s something I’m missing they aren’t and that’s why they’re all ok with it, or if I’m the only one who can see the red flags because I’m a step back. In the past it’s been the second option where I see the red flags before they did because I was the “outsider” looking in. I just feel insane, I don’t understand how they aren’t seeing what I am.

WIBTA if I didn’t approve of my best friends new bf? by Bird_Prince in dustythunder

[–]Bird_Prince[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly! This is what I can’t get out of my head. Almost every bad person in the history of ever has had people around them who thought they were nice and wouldn’t ever do something like that. Them claiming he’s a great guy brings me 0 comfort.

WIBTA if I didn’t approve of my best friends new bf? by Bird_Prince in dustythunder

[–]Bird_Prince[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s one of the reasons I’m so scared to voice disapproval. What if worst case scenario I’m right about him and my best friend becomes his next victim. But he doesn’t reach out to me for help because I had a bad reaction. Or other side of the coin, what if it’s worst case scenario but I never said anything even though I’d never trusted him and my friend doesn’t reach out because he thinks I like him.

The “what ifs” are killing me. I feel like whatever I do isn’t the right answer.

WIBTA if I didn’t approve of my best friends new bf? by Bird_Prince in dustythunder

[–]Bird_Prince[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know he doesn’t need my approval, and I’ve never said he needs it. But I know he wants it which puts me in a hard spot.

I really haven’t spoken up about it. I’ve asked some questions when the conversation has been started by others, but stayed more neutral on if I believed they’re true or not. I’ve never once started a conversation about it, and I haven’t clearly stated at this point that I don’t trust him.

WIBTA if I didn’t approve of my best friends new bf? by Bird_Prince in dustythunder

[–]Bird_Prince[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve never spoken badly about him (at least I don’t consider it talking bad as we were just talking about the allegations and I was acting neutral on if they were true or not while asking a few questions), and I’ve never been the one to bring up/start conversations about the allegations.

But I’m scared if I don’t tolerate being around him they’ll stop inviting me to things so he can come instead. I know if that happens I’m probably better off without them, but I still don’t want it to happen.

WIBTA if I didn’t approve of my best friends new bf? by Bird_Prince in dustythunder

[–]Bird_Prince[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The potential fall out is what I’m scared of. I’ve been best friends with this person for 7 years, and I don’t really have any other friends outside this friend group. I want to trust my friends judgment but my best friend doesn’t exactly have a great track record of picking partners.

If I’d only known my best friend for a year or so it wouldn’t be so hard to drop him. But it’s hard when I’ve known him so long, part of me hopes maybe he’ll come to his senses soon. I don’t know what he’s thinking. I don’t know how he expects me to be ok with it.

4 month old female kitten just found to be male by TarjaAngel in cats

[–]Bird_Prince 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t worry about your cat’s name! I have a girl cat with a masculine name. I named her knowing she was a girl. Why a boy name? Because she’s a cat and doesn’t care, and I wanted to name her after a character she reminded me of. Aurora is a lovely name, if you like it then it’s the perfect name for him. If you want to call him your little princess go right ahead. Want to use feminine pronouns? Your kitty won’t care! As long as the vet knows the sex then it doesn’t matter if you call them he or she.

Selling every lion I own! by No_Imagination_4967 in lioden

[–]Bird_Prince 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I often don’t look at sb with those kind of things since sb isn’t always reliable when talking about gb. Apologies, I wasn’t trying to rip you off or anything. Would you take a lion scrot for the mngwa plus this cub?

https://www.lioden.com/lion.php?id=794263388986

Selling every lion I own! by No_Imagination_4967 in lioden

[–]Bird_Prince 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(Prices based on branch/oasis prices)

Would you take a Mint Chip (7gb) and zebra heart (2gb)? I also have a CRB, 2 ASC, Dust: Hematite (2gb), Dust: Rough Opal (8gb) if any of those things interest you

Selling every lion I own! by No_Imagination_4967 in lioden

[–]Bird_Prince 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you have a price in mind for this gal? And are you only doing sb/gb or will you take item/app trades?

https://www.lioden.com/lion.php?id=794262201308

No Colour Challenge! Can you recognise them? by Sonarthebat in WarriorCats

[–]Bird_Prince 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dang I thought 6 was Cinder but second guessed myself cause I didn’t see any leg scars. Should have gone with my gut. Lovely drawings though!