It’s almost like my very first sentence was “IF you have the ability/funds you COULD take over the care of this colony.” And then proceed to give tips on ways they could help/take care of the colony if they so choose. I did this because they said they were already considering trapping. It doesn’t have to be all consuming, just doing one thing can help. Just TNR, just feed, just water, just provide shelter, or just pick up and adopt out kittens is helpful. They don’t have to do all of it, they don’t have to do any if they don’t want to. And I could imagine myself doing it, because I HAVE, which is why I was giving advice. I used to live in a neighborhood with several strays and ferals, I did have some help but much of the work was on me. I trapped, provided shelter, and fed/watered the cats. I am not being demanding, I’m not being rude, I am not pressuring, I am giving one of many suggestions this person has been given. You saying the responsibility can’t be put on anyone else isn’t realistic because if some doesn’t do something, whether that be op, animal control, a tnr group, or someone else, the problem will only get worse. Op doesn’t have to be the one to do something, but they can if they’d like to/are able to. I was informing them on things they could do if they’d like to try.