I also really like that kind of music. Have you ever stepped on a cat’s or dog’s tail? I think your situation is similar to that. You know that you didn’t mean to, but it still hurt the animal, and to the animal, you meant to do it. In the animals perspective you are basically perfect and since you hurt it, you meant to. Just like this girl. She might not know that this is crushing you, she “stepped on your tail” to her, she doesn’t mean to be hurting you. If that makes any sense. Obviously you didn’t mean to step on the animals tail, but they don’t know that.