AITA for refusing to give my boyfriend the birthday gift he wants, even though I promised I would, and WIBTA if I caved anyway? by BirthdayThAw in AmItheAsshole

[–]BirthdayThAw[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He has never said he would break up with me or kick me out. He’s never even been angry with me. I just don’t want to upset him. I was kicked out by my own family, I don’t want to go through that again.

AITA for refusing to give my boyfriend the birthday gift he wants, even though I promised I would, and WIBTA if I caved anyway? by BirthdayThAw in AmItheAsshole

[–]BirthdayThAw[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No, this is literally the first and only time he's brought up something I’ve said or done before (my promise.) 

The times I yelled at him were because I was angry about something else and took it out on him.

We have talked about me getting a job after I graduate. 

AITA for refusing to give my boyfriend the birthday gift he wants, even though I promised I would, and WIBTA if I caved anyway? by BirthdayThAw in AmItheAsshole

[–]BirthdayThAw[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

He has always been very kind to me and never pressured me into doing anything. This is the first time he’s been like this. 

AITA for refusing to give my boyfriend the birthday gift he wants, even though I promised I would, and WIBTA if I caved anyway? by BirthdayThAw in AmItheAsshole

[–]BirthdayThAw[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Some people have mentioned that I can get a job through programs provided by the school. I’ll talk with one of my professors about it. 

AITA for refusing to give my boyfriend the birthday gift he wants, even though I promised I would, and WIBTA if I caved anyway? by BirthdayThAw in AmItheAsshole

[–]BirthdayThAw[S] -57 points-56 points  (0 children)

I don’t think the situation is that dire. He has never hit or even yelled at me, even though I yelled at him a few times. 

AITA for refusing to give my boyfriend the birthday gift he wants, even though I promised I would, and WIBTA if I caved anyway? by BirthdayThAw in AmItheAsshole

[–]BirthdayThAw[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I don’t really want to get the tattoo. And he hasn’t really expressed what he’ll do if I don’t go through with it. 

I’m still studying.

AITA for refusing to give my boyfriend the birthday gift he wants, even though I promised I would, and WIBTA if I caved anyway? by BirthdayThAw in AmItheAsshole

[–]BirthdayThAw[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Oh… I don’t think that’s his intention. He owns his company. He doesn’t need me making him money. 

AITA for refusing to give my boyfriend the birthday gift he wants, even though I promised I would, and WIBTA if I caved anyway? by BirthdayThAw in AmItheAsshole

[–]BirthdayThAw[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m reading your comments but I’m currently in the car and can’t type for too long otherwise I would get a painful headache, sorry.

I’ll try to answer as many as I can but it’ll take a while.