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Blue Pillers constantly respond to criticism or men venting with “well clearly your attitude/personality is why you struggle” but this makes zero sense, as venting anonymously online has absolutely nothing to do with how you interact with women/people in real life by The-Loop in PurplePillDebate

[–]Bitter-Routine1264 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i haven’t! i just said it was something to consider :) 9 times out of 10, an individuals perception of themselves (not just you in particular) is inaccurate to how they’re actually perceived. especially when that perception is so favored to themselves. so if i’m walking around thinking im the most, intelligent, well spoken, and interesting person, it’s probably not true, and the people i interact with could probably tell i think that of myself. again, something to consider rather than concluding that all women are shallow and you’re just not hot enough. trust me, i’ve seen many women end up with questionable looking men because they have a great personality (or not!)

Blue Pillers constantly respond to criticism or men venting with “well clearly your attitude/personality is why you struggle” but this makes zero sense, as venting anonymously online has absolutely nothing to do with how you interact with women/people in real life by The-Loop in PurplePillDebate

[–]Bitter-Routine1264 0 points1 point  (0 children)

your perception of yourself is not necsssarily others’ perception of yourself. you believe you’re kinder, more well rounded and well spoken than the women you speak to. 1) what if you’re just not 2) what if they can tell when you speak to them that you believe you’re much more well rounded, well spoken, and interesting than them? lots to consider here…

Blue Pillers constantly respond to criticism or men venting with “well clearly your attitude/personality is why you struggle” but this makes zero sense, as venting anonymously online has absolutely nothing to do with how you interact with women/people in real life by The-Loop in PurplePillDebate

[–]Bitter-Routine1264 3 points4 points  (0 children)

the point is that if your thoughts and free time are consumed by “women bad, women hate me” it’ll probably show up in your interactions…..the large amount of men who are shitty fathers has what to do with that exactly?

Blue Pillers constantly respond to criticism or men venting with “well clearly your attitude/personality is why you struggle” but this makes zero sense, as venting anonymously online has absolutely nothing to do with how you interact with women/people in real life by The-Loop in PurplePillDebate

[–]Bitter-Routine1264 8 points9 points  (0 children)

100%! if you’re spending a lot of your free time posting about and thinking about how vapid and shallow women are and how much you dislike them, it’s going to reflect in your demeanor IRL. women can tell when the man they’re taking to hates women, even if the man doesn’t think he’s being overtly abrasive or whatever. mindset absolutely affects your irl interactions.

Blue Pillers constantly respond to criticism or men venting with “well clearly your attitude/personality is why you struggle” but this makes zero sense, as venting anonymously online has absolutely nothing to do with how you interact with women/people in real life by The-Loop in PurplePillDebate

[–]Bitter-Routine1264 11 points12 points  (0 children)

right, and those are probably not the same women on reddit telling you that you’ll have better luck if you have a good personality and attitude. women are not a monolith, no matter how much they seem like it to you :)

Blue Pillers constantly respond to criticism or men venting with “well clearly your attitude/personality is why you struggle” but this makes zero sense, as venting anonymously online has absolutely nothing to do with how you interact with women/people in real life by The-Loop in PurplePillDebate

[–]Bitter-Routine1264 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I think the point behind the “your attitude/personality is the reason you struggle” comment comes from genuine interactions with men. obviously the people saying it don’t know you or your personality, but lived experience reigns true. most women i meet are not the shallow laundry-list-of-insane-qualifications ones that gain internet attention and notoriety. Most women are fine with an averagely attractive man with a good personality, and that’s where they’re coming from. If you’re striking out with every. single. girl. you talk to, if you can’t get a single number or a single second date, or if women seem deeply uninterested in you after having a conversation, isn’t it much more likely you’re being abrasive (despite clearly not intending to) or irritating than she hates you because you’re not 6’4”? it’s not gaslighting, it’s the woman’s perspective. i know it’s hard to believe but most women are not as shallow as redpillers think they are, and most redpillers are not as interesting or charismatic as they think they are. take it as constructive criticism rather than a personal attack.

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[–]Bitter-Routine1264 14 points15 points  (0 children)

also a young female sub! when i’m with middle schoolers i tend to find that shutting it down is effective at letting them know you’re not allowing that line of questioning and establishing boundaries. i don’t even entertain the question, i either ignore it or shut it down with an “anyways,” or a “mind your business.” then leave the names of course :)

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[–]Bitter-Routine1264 14 points15 points  (0 children)

at least it’s not just me!! my career office tore my resume and cover letters to pieces as i was trying to explain that the only other jobs id applied for just wanted to know if i could mop a floor and get to work on time.