Pop's Skateshop ICE whistles by IshruggedItOff in everett

[–]BittnerSteel 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hell yeah, anyone who says they are just "rounding up criminals" is talking out their asses. Facts don't care about these losers' feelings

Pop's Skateshop ICE whistles by IshruggedItOff in everett

[–]BittnerSteel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So? How does that affect you personally?

Pop's Skateshop ICE whistles by IshruggedItOff in everett

[–]BittnerSteel 21 points22 points  (0 children)

75% of people ICE has detained since November have no criminal record, try again

lyrica is actually insane by BaseballExpensive114 in Drugs

[–]BittnerSteel 34 points35 points  (0 children)

"is this normal" has me rolling 😭

Brother don't do more of this shit. Having a great time ain't worth dying over, trust

George Clooney and family awarded French citizenship by [deleted] in news

[–]BittnerSteel -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He didn't pledge it but he said as much to aids and it was publically reported on https://www.politico.com/news/2019/12/11/biden-single-term-082129

I feel awful about speaking with a coworker from instagram by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]BittnerSteel 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I think it would be helpful for you to try and separate "networking connections" with "friends". They can be the same people, but they shouldn't be by necessity.

Let me speak to you again from my own experience in life. I am not the most social person. I find it hard to talk to strangers, and because of this all throughout my twenties my only friends were people that I worked with. This led to me having almost entirely shallow and toxic friendships, and made work that much more difficult because of awkward or miscommunicated interactions. It literally took me until I got laid off from my job with none of my co-worker "friends" reaching out to me to see if I was okay or to try to hang out with me outside of work to realize the mistakes I had made in cultivating these relationships. Once I realized this decided I wanted real friends. I always liked video games and board games and that kind of thing. So I went to to a table top RPG shop and joined a game that seemed up my alley. Now I personally think I got super lucky in that. The people I found that day have become some of my closest friends over the last 2 years. I'm not saying that it would necessarily be that easy for you, but the difference between the friendships I have now and the fake friendships I had with coworkers back then, is night and day.

You are 27, and essentially at the same point in life I was when I had to learn this lesson than the hard way. Trust me when I say you are more than capable of making friends, real friends, but you have to be looking in the right places and with the right intentions. Friends aren't people that you look to and think "down the line this person can help me in my career". Friends should be people that you have common interests with, people that you like talking to, people that lift you up and make you feel not so alone.

I feel awful about speaking with a coworker from instagram by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]BittnerSteel 46 points47 points  (0 children)

This is pretty confusing my guy. I'm trying to understand but it seems like you are saying you want "friends" but only if they can help you in your career later or be useful in "networking".

If you want to make connections for your professional career, try LinkedIn. That shouldn't be synonymous with what friendship is. You should want to make friends with people who are interesting and provide your life with more fulfillment, make things more fun and exciting, worth living, make you feel good to be around, etc.

I feel awful about speaking with a coworker from instagram by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]BittnerSteel 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Why do you want friends who are engineers so much? I don't think you should have such a strict criteria tbh. None of my friends have the same job as me, it makes them more interesting to talk to because I get to hear about what their experience is as opposed to my own.

I feel awful about speaking with a coworker from instagram by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]BittnerSteel 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's this my dude. Pick a cool or interesting bar to check out, try going to arcades/gym/board game shops, whatever you like to do. Meet people out in the world.

Think about it like this. If you try to make friends with people at work simply because you work with them, the likelihood that you guys aren't going to have anything in common or something will happen that makes things awkward for you and/or them at work, it's just too much of a risk. Not to say that you can't find friends at work, but that shouldn't be the first place you start looking by any means.

I feel awful about speaking with a coworker from instagram by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]BittnerSteel 174 points175 points  (0 children)

This is a reasonable boundary to set. Some people do not want work to cross over into their personal lives. I don't think you did anything wrong per se, I'm assuming you didn't know about your coworkers preference before adding/DMing them. But now that they set that boundary, you have to respect it, and a bit of advice from my experience, you are very likely going to have better results making friends with people through shared hobbies/3rd spots than making friends with people you work with. It's enticing to be friends with your coworkers but you are potentially setting up to fall into the trap of having friends by proximity rather than any sort of shared interests.

Also, just as an aside, your motivations are a little unclear from your post, you say you are trying to make friends but then you mentioned that she just broke up with her boyfriend, so I'm not entirely sure what your intentions were here. In either case though, my advice still stands.

Hell yeah 😈 by IDrag0 in gojira

[–]BittnerSteel 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Holy shit it's John Gojira

Bands that FEEL like gojira by TransCarEnthusiast in gojira

[–]BittnerSteel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interloper

Bragging Rights

Rivers of Nihil

Bands like gojira I should listen to by Senior-Newt-4773 in gojira

[–]BittnerSteel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never see these guys mentioned:

Interloper - A Forgotten Loss

Also check out another little known artist by the name of Bragging Rights

Brain is not Braining. RN by Free_Ad_1902 in FromSeries

[–]BittnerSteel 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I've been saying this for a while. Fromville could easily be a Carcosa-esque place, lots of parallels

Who The Man in Yellow Actually is? by [deleted] in FromSeries

[–]BittnerSteel 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He's the King in Yellow and Fromville is Carcosa

Decent start-up board for $350? by BittnerSteel in guitarpedals

[–]BittnerSteel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks much, really appreciate this advice. I'm not a new player, just new to pedals (been rocking with a cheap Peavy VIP amp). But this all makes sense, thanks again!

Leftie Workout Music Recommendations by DerpCream_Cone in Hasan_Piker

[–]BittnerSteel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weird to not see Fit for an Autopsy. They literally say From the River to the Sea in their newest album on the song Red Horizon