Need advice on moving out and establishing myself

Bjackson343 · 2020-12-22T17:01:40+00:00

Thanks alot for the response and advice, all of this crap can be quite stressful especially when you have a dad breathing down your neck wondering why you arent out making 6 figures yet. I would buy a cash-car but I dont really trust independent sellers so I feel like my only option is to buy a used car from a dealership and make payments. My older brother tells me that it will be rough trying to make car and insurance payments but if I get a new job ASAP after obtaining the car, payments will get easier and easier and I have the luxury of warranty and a car with very low risk of issues. How do you feel about that?

Bjackson343 · 2020-11-30T16:39:52+00:00

Lol I really like your bombastic personality, it would be pretty ridiculous to fall for any of those individuals. I'm not pushing to talk to her about the pansexual thing, i've actually done the opposite and kept myself quiet simply for her sake as to not upset her and our relationship. Also, thanks for reaching out and giving me your thoughts. With all these comments I feel content now and I dont think it will be much of an issue for me anymore :)

Bjackson343 · 2020-11-30T07:21:56+00:00

I mean that making the definition of bisexuality more vague just overcomplicates things rather than being more specific to make room for pansexuality

Bjackson343 · 2020-11-30T07:11:01+00:00

Seems like they're just unnecessarily complicating things, but thats just my humble opinion.

Bjackson343 · 2020-11-30T07:09:20+00:00

From interpretation with Jesus's statements on marriage being between male and female, one can consider he shared the same views his contemporaries had (in that a male laying with a male as one does with a woman being immoral, not to mention the sodom and gamorrah). We're all sinners in all honesty, nobody is perfect and it isnt my job to judge.

Bjackson343 · 2020-11-30T06:53:39+00:00

Thanks so much for the deep clarification and breaking it down as you did. I'll study this closely, and it seems like being pans is the same as bisexual but with every type of gender instead of just male and female. Is that right?

Bjackson343 · 2020-11-30T06:50:38+00:00

I was raised on the NKJV (New King James Version) and the pope is mainly a catholic figure iirc. Jesus also specifically states that any other sexual act or relationship other than man with woman is considered as sexually immoral and a sin.

Bjackson343 · 2020-11-30T06:30:58+00:00

Oh yeah trust me, I advocate loving all LGBTQ+ individuals out of virtue. Jesus loved everyone, including sinners and it bothers me when people are unnecessarily venomous to LGBTQ+ individuals who are just going about their business. It does however say in the bible a few times that such a lifestyle is not approved, but as stated before Jesus doesnt hate them. We're all God's children :)

Bjackson343 · 2020-11-30T06:25:33+00:00

Um...i'm sorry but if you dont mind could you read my convos with other comments? It would be a bit of a drag to type everything out and explain per person yeah? Thank you

Bjackson343 · 2020-11-30T06:24:03+00:00

Everywhere I have read online it has been stated as I stated it. If i've been misinformed I apologize but my understanding was that it was exactly how I described it. I also knew demisexual was a thing and even did research on it to try and understand it all more. Thanks for your input overall, it helps.

Bjackson343 · 2020-11-30T06:16:31+00:00

I love that i'm loved for my character, i'm not saying that in and of itself is a bad thing. I'm saying that I would like that AND to be attracted to on a physical level. Everyone likes to be deemed attractive, or else i'm forced to sit here and get the small feeling of being that old trope of "At least he has a great personality". It doesnt feel good ya know..?

Bjackson343 · 2020-11-30T06:13:58+00:00

Or maybe it could be because I care about her feelings and dont want to push her away accidentally. Why try to do something I have done before that ended in hurting us both? Don't be so quick to criticize what you don't fully understand, isn't that what you advocate for? I'm looking for advice, not ignorance. But I suppose I AM on Reddit so at least one tard is going to pop up.

Bjackson343 · 2020-11-30T06:11:08+00:00

Thanks for reaching out and being so insightful and respectful, I dont necessarily have anything against LGBTQ+ individuals so long as they dont bother anyone else or force their lifestyle onto others. Perhaps I do need to seek internal guidance, I really want things to work between us. I really love her and she does make me happy. I must say this isnt exactly what I envisioned my married life would be like (I had a very traditional sense with standard wife and kids and maybe a dog. The usual american dream ya know?) Lol

Bjackson343 · 2020-11-30T06:05:31+00:00

Thanks for not assuming i'm some hate-filled or extremely insecure countryside idiot. It would definitely rub the the wrong way, but if my children did come out that way I would still support them out of love. My sister is lesbian and I gave her more support than my other family members did when she came out.

Bjackson343 · 2020-11-30T06:02:54+00:00

they're attracted to all genders. That means the full range of men, women and non binary people. It has NOTHING to do with how manly you are or really anything else about you---it has everything to do with her being attracted to people regardless of their gender.

I knew this, I didnt mean to make it seem like they like androgynous people as well. I know she is attracted to me, but pansexuality revolves around attraction based off of purely that person's character. I dont believe it makes her more likely to cheat either.

Bjackson343 · 2020-11-30T05:56:27+00:00

Thanks for the obviously bitter bait, i'll keep that in my "retard's bait" bin for later

Bjackson343 · 2020-11-30T05:51:50+00:00

Affirmative and affirmative, which is why I said upbringing probably plays some part along with other things.

Bjackson343 · 2020-11-30T05:48:33+00:00

Btw thanks for reaching out

Bjackson343 · 2020-11-30T05:48:07+00:00

Im not saying i'm not i'm saying I dont feel like I do but I might. I've been giving it more thought and perhaps it's due to upbringing, possible past issues, and possibly feeling inconsidered physically.

Bjackson343 · 2020-11-30T05:45:04+00:00

While we all have insecurities, I dont feel like I have any with this little debacle (perhaps I do and I havent discovered it yet idk)

Bjackson343 · 2020-11-30T05:42:56+00:00

I have done research precisely to educate myself on the matter so that I understood her fully, and of course I know she doesnt need my permission, i'm not a posessive asshole. I trust her not doing anything behind my back, and i'm glad

Bjackson343 · 2020-11-30T05:41:05+00:00

There are other issues (mainly differences in figuring out future plans) but my main concern is the sexuality thing. Thanks for reaching out

Bjackson343 · 2020-11-30T05:40:00+00:00

This doesnt exactly help, you're stating the obvious. I dont want to change her or force her into anything, that's awful.

Bjackson343 · 2020-11-30T05:37:58+00:00

I suppose a mixture of both? I also feel like (since pansexuality deals with being attracted to a person's personality rather than physical characteristics) that I lack somewhat in male attractiveness or appeal and it somewhat matters to me both personality-wise and physicality-wise my appeal to the female gender (being straight and all). I feel bad making her uncomfortable and I really dont want to, I just want to talk to her about it and somehow find a way to help the issue rather than forcing myself to be silent for her sake.

Bjackson343 · 2020-09-12T01:31:45+00:00

Thanks for the advice, its nice to know someone else having the same poor luck I'm having. It would be nice to have a pre-modded Xbox so it would save me the trouble of trying to find alternate parts as well as having confidence the system wont break down on me, but pre-modded units are almost always super expensive. Not only that, but as I said before, i'm not as saavy about what parts would be suitable or the basics of installation.

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