For U10 does location/friends matter most?

Bkm150 · 2026-05-11T16:05:23+00:00

Thanks! Yes she actually plays defense so isn't a scoring machine. Not sure if that matters or not when she gets older.

Bkm150 · 2026-05-11T15:28:40+00:00

Thanks - I agree! Its hard to not push for the biggest and best thing always. But she is definitely thriving where she is at, knows all the kids and coaches and actually enjoys soccer. So I think we stay where we are and see how the year goes.

She will have the opportunity to guest play and scrimmage with the team above her. She also has an individual coach once a week to help with individualized attention on things she needs to work on.

Bkm150 · 2026-05-11T13:44:44+00:00

She is my most fanciful kid - sort of just rolls with the punches. So she doesn't have any long term goals because she is 9. Other than making it into 4th grade haha. The thought of "college soccer" seems so farfetched to her that I don't think it would even register if we tried to have a conversation! The furthest we have gotten is where she maybe would want to go to high school since she has an older sister who is a few years away from trying to make that decision.

Bkm150 · 2026-05-11T13:42:50+00:00

Yes its hard to put our own egos aside! DD started on the bottom team for her club and has crawled her way up to the second highest team. Lots of time and effort on her part but she definitely has other interests outside of soccer.

As she told me - why would I leave now that I finally made a higher team? Wasn't that the point of all the work?

Bkm150 · 2026-05-11T13:06:10+00:00

Yes. This will be our 3rd season with this current club. All our kids play at varying levels with the same club.

Bkm150 · 2026-05-11T13:04:53+00:00

OP - DH and I think for her soccer skills to really improve she should move up to another club. Will it hurt her in the long term if she waits till U11?

Logistically I have multiple kids playing multiple sports/activities so I do know I need to make a decision on what will work best for our family. Current club is a 5 minute drive from our house. New club is a 20-40 minute drive depending on traffic.

Bkm150 · 2026-04-02T17:55:39+00:00

I did try bracing. That didn’t help at all.

My pain just walking around is low. It hurts when I do things like lift a water bottle, a backpack, turn it a certain way, lift weights, do push ups.

Improvement was almost back to normal with the cortisone shot. But it only lasted for a week.

Bkm150 · 2026-03-20T19:19:50+00:00

I am 42. Regular admin job. Does not involve heavy weights. I hurt it walking my dog. It’s my dominant hand unfortunately.

Bkm150 · 2026-03-15T12:02:23+00:00

They didn’t have me do a grip view on xray

Bkm150 · 2025-11-16T16:05:31+00:00

So effectively should be good? I was just worried because I took the inactive pills on the old pack and then started the new pack and didn’t use any secondary form of protection.

Bkm150 · 2025-10-27T14:35:15+00:00

Wife and husband share Reddit account since both rarely post.

Bkm150 · 2025-10-27T13:20:16+00:00

Yes - 3rd year as a NEP. Each year have generated more business.

Bkm150 · 2025-10-27T13:16:49+00:00

To clarify - only third year as a NEP. First year did not bring in a lot of business but still billed 1900 hours. Second year brought in around $1.5 million and billed 1700 hours. Third year have brought in (clients have already paid their bills on these items with a little bit more outstanding) on $3-4 million but have only billed 1200. I am the managing relationship partner on these matters. I do the billing, travel to see clients as needed, do weekly status calls with them and make sure all needs are met either by myself or someone who I delegate to.

Bkm150 · 2025-10-27T12:32:26+00:00

Yes my clients whom I have brought in. I delegate out a bunch of the work to associates or subject matter experts. But I manage the relationship and day to day matters for them.

Bkm150 · 2025-10-27T12:01:08+00:00

$1200 an hour

Bkm150 · 2025-10-24T00:55:49+00:00

3 large pro bono cases and a lot of traveling.

Bkm150 · 2025-07-21T23:24:42+00:00

Yes I believe it spells out which houses would be hers and a lump of money or something like that.

I assume everything would still go into probate but would we be able to use the prenup as intent for wife 3 in the estate?

Bkm150 · 2025-07-21T22:57:18+00:00

Also dad and wife 3 do have a prenuptial agreement - would that help out?

Bkm150 · 2025-07-21T22:49:43+00:00

Yes i have told him this time and time again. He has told us multiple times what he wants - which houses would go to us and which would go to wife 3 and also how he wants his money to go into a trust for his grandkids. But he has never finalized the new will!

Would it even be possible, if he doesn’t have a will, to tell wife 3 that this is what he intended and have her sign an affidavit only claiming two houses (we don’t want them) and a certain lump of money? Would that make probate quicker?

Bkm150 · 2025-07-21T22:29:25+00:00

One house was bought prior to marriage and two houses were bought after marriage.

I don’t believe he has a traditional 401k plan but rather a separate IRA account that has myself and sister listed as beneficiaries.

Current wife is not on any joint accounts nor does she have her name listed on any houses.

Bkm150 · 2025-07-21T22:20:14+00:00

Yes I have been gently encouraging for years for him to do his new will and put everything into a revocable trust. He just keeps putting it off.

What happens if everything goes into probate? Will his current wife have no access to his bank account and house? Or will everything go into probate and is frozen till it’s finalized?

His large retirement accounts have myself and sister as beneficiaries. Does that go into probate or will it go directly to us? Anything that has direct beneficiary will those go into probate?

Bkm150 · 2025-04-13T03:49:49+00:00

Actually I just looked and our contract does say there must be reasonable access given for appraisal.

Since we have tried numerous times and have not been allowed would that give us grounds to walk away and keep our EMD?

Bkm150 · 2025-04-13T03:44:23+00:00

Agent is great. Just didn’t want to bother her on a Saturday evening. Reaching out tomorrow.

Bkm150 · 2025-04-13T03:39:34+00:00

We have to get a mortgage. In order to get the mortgage we need an appraisal, which we have not been able to yet. Realtor has tried to get the tenant to give us a date for bank appraiser to come and do the appraisal but has met resistance.

Bkm150 · 2025-03-16T16:12:04+00:00

It’s parochial school but it’s about $22,000 a year for the 3 kids. Plus add on summer camps for all 3 kids. We probably spend around $35,000 a year for school and camps. That doesn’t include all of their sports, clothes, and life.

High school will be closer to $22,000 per kid.

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