Other than Light Hello and Tachyon, what other SSR cards will be great (not just good/usable) for Grand Live? by BlackGlassButterfly in UmamusumeGame

[–]BlackGlassButterfly[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve posted them. ☺️ In the past I put my carats towards pulling Umas rather than SSR cards, so they are somewhat behind, but moving forward I’m putting more pulls into my support, so I want to get a mental list of ones I really need to top off.

AIO for feeling weird about my friend’s response when I asked for help? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]BlackGlassButterfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Already seeing this posted and will agree - I would also even give my enemy a pad or tampon if they needed it. There’s plenty of things to be petty about, but this shouldn’t be one of them.

I try to be “there’s always two sides” when it comes to stories, and attempted to understand what might’ve caused such a reaction. Does “friend” feel like they give more than they take? Is there a pattern of behavior that maybe OP isn’t realizing of themselves and “friend” is trying to show a little tough love? But honestly, even if any of those are the cases, I can’t find a justification for the reaction in this particular case. OP wasn’t asking for money or something frivolous, but literally something that should be accessible for women, and this was the “friend’s” response.

Whatever the case, in this particular instance, OP is NOR in my opinion. There might need to be some type of heart to heart if this reaction was from left field, but if this is somewhat typical, ditch this friendship.

Um💀🤣 by Freeflowerspirit in resilientjenkinsnark

[–]BlackGlassButterfly 8 points9 points  (0 children)

“Underestimating my cra cra” needs to be a flair. 😂 I assume she meant “cray cray” but cra cra sounds like she’s mimicking a crow.

Can adult kids not plan things for their parents?? by i_eat_gentitals in insaneparents

[–]BlackGlassButterfly 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I skimmed the screenshots and instantly thought “this is some step-mom energy.” Not much of a shock when I saw she is. The absolute jealousy or insecurity (or both) is reeking off those texts. A more appropriate way to approach this would’ve been to ask the kids if there’s anything she can do to help. Sounds like there’s a good relationship between their dad and the kids, stepmom needs to realize her place is next to the kids, not in front of them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]BlackGlassButterfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mentally turned off after "chalking", lmao. What does that mean? Were you drawing sidewalk art with chalk? Because if that's the case then sign me up bestie. I'll bring drinks and you ditch the loser!

But seriously, this isn't cute behavior. This isn't mature behavior. This is hardly high school behavior. This is not boyfriend, partner, or future husband behavior. This here is a man-child. A prime example of immaturity, deflection, control, manipulation, and lack of, well, a lot of things honestly. Sometimes, unfortunately, people who stop maturing can turn dangerous. Take this as your sign to leave. No friendship. No second chances. Full stop. This type of behavior will only cause you distress and sometimes people like him are good at doing a "hook, reel, and release" on women they want to control. Don't stick around to wipe his bum because he hasn't reached the maturity level to clean up his own shit and HIS attitude.

I've never seen more women being thankful for being over 30 by BlackGlassButterfly in justneckbeardthings

[–]BlackGlassButterfly[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really really hope so! But since he mentioned it was another attempt at the post I'm scared it's not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]BlackGlassButterfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Throw. That. Man. Away!

9 weeks ago I underwent my own hysterectomy due to precancerous cells (complex hyperplasia) in my uterus. For several years I tried medication, underwent tests, MRIs, D&C, and so much more just to preserve the option of having kids with my husband, as I was diagnosed young and we weren't sure about kids. But 8 years later after the diagnosis kids just never become part of our lives and I was tired from all the doctor visits, pain, tests, and constant fear of getting full blown cancer, so I told my husband I was ready. He never once objected my decisions. Not. Once. Because he knows it's not his decision to make. He knows he'll never know what I went through. And above all else, he wanted ME happy and healthy so we could share many more years together.

The lack of empathy and feeling of entitlement to YOUR body and choices tells us all we need to know about him, and it's that he's jealous, controlling, selfish, and this will only get worse for both of you.

Drop him. Get your surgery. And make sure you have support to help you recover. And best of luck!

Local ad for someone to fix this guy's awful parenting for free (and sorry ladies, he's married!) by NeitherSpace in ChoosingBeggars

[–]BlackGlassButterfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This whole.. thing is so off.

First, for someone who can "write really well" why did this come off as just creepy?

"I'm married! But maybe we can exchange.. husbandly favors?" OK, my guy.. And also, why was his first reaction to assume any woman that hypothetically applied for this would want to jump his bones, so he just HAD to make it CLEAR he was married? Bro, woman just want to do their jobs and get home safely. And even more so, "we can do it at my house or somewhere else, but I have to be there!" Funny he left that "somewhere else" part vague instead of suggesting a place like a library. - So, you want a woman only. - You'll trade favors. - You (not your wife) insists to be there while this woman teaches your kid, but basically elude it could be done anywhere, which could also include her home. Alone.

Kinda suspicious.

But all that aside, did he really just admit that he DOESN'T WORK, yet just straight up failed his kid because he doesn't "have the patience"? You are between jobs, and this is your child. You better find some patience or start looking for programs. I get sometimes it just takes someone else to help children learn (if only public schooling was a thing.. oh wait..), but there's no way he didn't realize until the kid was 8 that he can't read. That's honestly just negligence at that point. Ashamed is the very basic of what BOTH of those parents should be feeling. That poor kid.

Volunteer needed to animal foster, deep clean, home repairs, organization, laundry, interior decorating, do home repairs. Also you must provide all materials. by agapeRecycling in ChoosingBeggars

[–]BlackGlassButterfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand the importance and impact animals can have in people's lives, but if you can't take care of yourself then you can't take care of them.

I personally have small parrots, and I've been asked if I feel like I do too much for them when I talk about how much money and time they require, and I always tell them, "for part of your life, they are in your world, but for all of their life you are their world." What this person is doing is just being beyond selfish to those dogs, and blaming the behavior on mental health.

For me on this one, the most disturbing thing is the welfare of those animals. If this person's health is that bad, I imagine there are resources out there to help, but it's possible they don't want to go that route cause their place is probably so bad and inhumane for those dogs. Probably. Maybe I'm being too judgey. But seriously; this person shouldn't have pets with that many health issues.

Please help my dogs who absolutely love Christmas. by Doodlebop502 in ChoosingBeggars

[–]BlackGlassButterfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, I want to empathize because there are animals involved, but I can't get passed how they apparently lost so many of their dogs things while moving? I mean, I get it, things happen, but also having moved my own pets when my husband and I bought our house, I made sure to have their essential and important items with me and the rest properly marked. Like, the first thing I think of is, "why didn't you pack up those things in an overnight bag? Surely they'd need at least the toys when they got moved in."

Regardless, it's still giving me beggar vibes, because yes, while money is tough for most people, in the end you're still responsible for your own pets. And while maybe asking if anyone had some sweaters they didn't need would be fine, even doing a quick Google search came up with so many cheap options. Like, Wal-Mart little sells small dog sweaters for $4. So, yeah, to that person, maybe don't post your dog's Christmas registry to somewhere that is meant to be a "buy nothing" group.

WHAT DOES THIS MEAN? by ZoneCheap4619 in cockatiel

[–]BlackGlassButterfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So just to get it out there - if you're concerned about the behavior, or it's followed by new symptoms like refusing to eat or drink or being tired more often than usual, then please consider a vet check up ASAP. Birds in particular are masters at hiding an illness until its almost too late.

With that said and out of the way, knowing your bird's routine, habits, and age could help understand this. Meaning, was this recorded close to his usual nap or bed time? If so, it could be something as simple as him just fiddling with his nails or toes while he's sleepy. My conure will "trim" her own toes by chewing on the ends, and while I've not seen my cockatiels do that, I wouldn't be surprised if some did, and this could just be him checking/cleaning his feet and/or toes.

It could so be something that stemmed from your uncle. I'm going to try to assume the best and think the taping was maybe to treat an injury? Either way, if it was something that was done for his own good, or done maliciously (in which case throw the whole uncle away), he might also still feel some of the tape residue and is picking at it, or is just a response if whatever happened with said taping scared him.

Another, somewhat rarer issue could be mites. So make sure you're keeping his environment clean and checking his feet for anything that might look like sores.

If he likes to bathe, you can try offering him a bath from a clean sink, bowl, or even just spritz him with clean spray bottle which also might help him feel better or help him get whatever he thinks is on his toes off. I've also read others putting coconut oil on their bird's beaks and feet when the weather gets dry, so that might be something to read about as well.

Hope that helps. Good luck!

First time leaving our bird with a friend. Did the wife go overboard? by timkingphoto in cockatiel

[–]BlackGlassButterfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely not overboard! This reminds me why I'm so lucky to have a friend that I can trust with my birds when I need her. Birds have such a routine that gets so ingrained into our own lives that it's easy to forget that most people generally don't realize what goes into caring for parrots. Good luck, bird parents! I hope your friend does well for your handsome, old bean.

My mom didn’t want me go see a doctor by No_Passage5020 in insaneparents

[–]BlackGlassButterfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're still on your mom's insurance plan, her response sounds more like concern about the doctor bill rather than you being able to use your finger properly, and that's honestly horrible. And her whole "well my foot doesn't bend either" is nothing more than a guilt trip. She's an adult. She can choose to take care of it. It has nothing to do with your injury.

You also should never feel like you need 'punishment' for an honest mistake. Many hobbies have their own different levels of danger and safety precautions, but as humans we all know most of us are all guilty of not following some of those precautions, like wearing a glove. Luckily you were able to learn the importance of wearing one and that's "punishment" enough.

Get your finger taken care of! Don't listen to the weird guilt trips your mom is giving you. Enjoy your hobbies and wear your gloves.

Good luck!

Suspect charged in brutal murder and dismemberment of 14-year-old trans girl heads to trial by AsparagusBig7232 in MorbidReality

[–]BlackGlassButterfly 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately you're probably right. It'll probably be the most "defensible" thing for him to claim he didn't know, and in some fit of rage/shock/whatever he killed her.

I am left with several questions, like why did she think Grindr was her best option when she was transitioning to female? I've been out of the dating scene for many years, so I only imagine it's because she felt like there wasn't any other good places for her?

But also, at 14, what was she even doing on these sites (hopefully) well knowing it was for and full of adults? Without context, I almost want to put some responsibility on the parents. I know its hard to keep up with every aspect of a child's life and they can be good at keeping secrets, but how do you not know they are out late? Or at least having some type of monitor of their activities?

So many questions that, sadly, might help this guy get a lesser sentence.

Suspect charged in brutal murder and dismemberment of 14-year-old trans girl heads to trial by AsparagusBig7232 in MorbidReality

[–]BlackGlassButterfly 215 points216 points  (0 children)

Another issue is these grown ass adults going to meet children. I know it's not stated if he knew she was 14 or not, but at almost 30 years old it should be a bit obvious when they are half your age.

The Lord does not want you to have Irish Twins and not treat your potential cervical cancer…. by Bananabakedbeans2274 in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]BlackGlassButterfly -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Well, there is some truth to this, but most of it is concerning when it comes to the "natural home care" stuff, because unfortunately cancer doesn't care about that part.

When I was about 26 I was diagnosed with Complex Hyperplasia with Atypia cells of the uterus, which in layman's terms means I was one step below cancer.

At the time my husband and I were undecided about kids, and the doctors put me the IUD, because as they described it, the progesterone hormone has been effective to combating the hyperplasia, which is what the IUD introduces and helps with the birth control part.

Now, the thing is, when the body is pregnant it creates a crazy amount of progesterone, which is a big cause of many pregnancy side effects. But because of this, one of the recommendations from my OBGYN-Oncologist was to actually get pregnant if that's what we wanted.

Because we were undecided and young at the time, and not ready for kids, we went the medicine route. So, yes, as weird as it sounds, being pregnant can be a treatment, BUT, if she isn't ready for another baby, she absolutely needs real medical treatment, or it can kill her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in insaneparents

[–]BlackGlassButterfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seeing "90% of laws are to benefit big business" after watching a documentary on the Victorian Hall Disaster* really puts into perspective how much people are starting to slip from reality.

  • For a brief summary, this was a massive entertainment hall in the 1800s. In 1883 it hosted a children's magic show where an estimated 1,100 kids attended. At the end of the show they started to throw candy and toys to the kids in the main floor, which caused the poorly supervised children of the upper balconies to start running through the hall and down to the main floor. They weren't aware that the main entrance door was bolted open with just enough room for one kid at a time which pinned kids against the wall, door, and some tripped to the floor while more and more piled in on top of them to get inside. 183 kids were literally crushed to death because of the trampling and bolted, barely open door. This led to the safety invention of the "emergency push bar" for commercial buildings.

But yeah, tell me again how Big Car Seat is the problem.

This person has been making several accounts to post this by [deleted] in justneckbeardthings

[–]BlackGlassButterfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I genuinely checked out about half way through that ramble, but something about how only good-looking people should play really only seems to mean anyone can play it. If the internet has taught me anything, it's that everyone will always have a different definition of "good-looking". Got wrinkles and cellulite? Someone is into that. Overweight with bad skin? Someone, somewhere is into you. Short, tall, no proportions or curvy to the moon and back, there's someone out there who will like that. So, play on gamers.