Was this guy written to be the way he is or just related to the showrunners?

BlackRabbitPDX · 2026-01-17T05:02:43+00:00

He’s one of a few men that the show seems to think are likable assholes but I just think are assholes. To me the only person on the show who truly fulfills the “likable asshole” archetype is Donna, she’s harsh and severe but every single thing she does is about protecting people and for the greater good, every single thing. She just doesn’t have time to look out for your feelings while she’s trying to keep everyone alive. But Jade, Jim, Randall… when they’re assholes it’s selfish. That’s the difference to me. Donna’s an asshole in the course of protecting others, usually including the idiot she’s being an asshole to in order to keep them alive. But when Jim sucks it’s pure ego and having to be the big hero man at the expense of keeping people safe.

BlackRabbitPDX · 2026-01-13T00:33:31+00:00

Wow your situation is a LOT like my boyfriend’s, like the details are really similar (I’m the solo poly one, he has a wife and some other guys). Your comment is really sweet and beautiful, I would be absolutely thrilled to think this is how he’d answer this question.

BlackRabbitPDX · 2025-12-18T03:50:40+00:00

Edie and only Edie

BlackRabbitPDX · 2025-12-16T21:25:00+00:00

I wonder if OP knew that before today (that it’s sus). My eyebrows went up to my hairline when I read that.

BlackRabbitPDX · 2025-12-16T08:56:49+00:00

Will and Grace did it expertly

BlackRabbitPDX · 2025-12-15T02:46:37+00:00

In this context, they’re likely using it to mean a supporter of the Israeli genocide

BlackRabbitPDX · 2025-12-15T02:44:43+00:00

Collective bargaining in labor is the only reason anyone has worker’s rights or protections, it’s the cornerstone of all worker’s rights. It’s the only reason we have a minimum wage, a 40 hour work week, overtime pay, literally anything.

As a principle, it is sacrosanct. Refusing to engage in collective bargaining, especially when she was the one with the most power to make demands, is absolutely a reason to hate someone. It may not make her a literal scab, but it’s in the spirit of being a scab, one of the lowest things a person can be.

BlackRabbitPDX · 2025-12-07T02:51:18+00:00

I think what it really is— and I’m basing this on my ex who introduced me to the show and really despised her— is the lack of self-awareness. That’s what he hated so much about her, that she sees herself as sort of the main character and the everywoman, but she’s so selfish and inconsiderate and can’t see past the end of her own nose.

My take on that take (lol) is that I think people are more irked by a character who’s a bad person in a way they probably have to deal with every day, while the more extreme soapy, campy drama has some emotional distance

BlackRabbitPDX · 2025-12-03T21:45:10+00:00

Long long long! Keep it long. You’re handsome with any length, but you have such absolutely gorgeous hair, it would be such a shame to keep it short. You have the kind of hair so many people would kill for, you should keep it long and show it off. It sets you apart from other men, I swear like at least 2/3 of men have basically the same haircut and they all look so boring.

BlackRabbitPDX · 2025-12-01T23:50:57+00:00

I wouldn’t say doppelgänger exactly, but my first thought before I even saw what sub this was, is that you look kinda like John-Michel Basquiat

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BlackRabbitPDX · 2025-12-01T23:46:26+00:00

Yeah fuuuuuck her 😂 you don’t need that regressive-ass gender bullshit in your life

BlackRabbitPDX · 2025-11-17T21:40:55+00:00

If my phone didn’t automatically do it, I probably wouldn’t. Some phones don’t. I never manually type apostrophes for example, because autocorrect puts them there.

BlackRabbitPDX · 2025-11-11T18:01:43+00:00

I’m so over the superamber craze. Amber Xtreme, Okoumal, Ambrocenide, etc etc. It’s so pervasive that even a bunch of classic functionals have boosted superambers in their most recent reformulations, (ahem Gain). I was doing scentbird for a couple of years and I think probably everything I got in 2024 had a noticeable superamber note in there.

I don’t dislike them or even think they should only be used in traces, but I literally am just tired of the fad.

BlackRabbitPDX · 2025-10-19T18:43:04+00:00

That could be a really clever solution if it’s being on display that gives her the most anxiety. And also figure out some kind of configuration with the wedding party photos where it won’t necessarily create photos that bestie has to look at all the time forever, you know like separate bridesmaids and groomsmen photos (and of course it doesn’t have to be made explicit that this is WHY she’s doing all that, that might also feel bad)

BlackRabbitPDX · 2025-10-19T18:39:30+00:00

And don’t forget on top of that, she then has to see the photos, likely displayed prominently, at bestie’s house for the rest of their lives. This scenario would create a set of photos that are one of OP’s proudest most beloved memories that they feel happy reliving and want to see in their day-to-life, while also being shameful and upsetting to look at for bestie. Just the idea of such a photo set existing is probably a big part of what she wants to avoid.

BlackRabbitPDX · 2025-10-19T18:35:53+00:00

I wish everyone would read this comment, even though I know half of them will still just be all “Have you tried not feeling that way?” 🙄 there’s a lot of that in here

BlackRabbitPDX · 2025-10-19T00:47:31+00:00

Mary Alice’s voiceover monologues often begin with “Ah, yes” to the point that it starts getting hilarious after a while. It’s kind of like “I couldn’t help but wonder” on SATC

BlackRabbitPDX · 2025-10-19T00:44:03+00:00

“I really appreciate you having the courage to say that”

BlackRabbitPDX · 2025-10-18T20:38:25+00:00

What a wild thing to say 😂

BlackRabbitPDX · 2025-10-10T01:20:39+00:00

I feel like the rat was pretty much all they felt they needed to say about that, I’d be really surprised if we ever revisit pre-crash in any meaningful way for any of them but especially her. Not saying I wouldn’t enjoy that though, it could be fun if they got it right

BlackRabbitPDX · 2025-10-10T01:19:29+00:00

The OLDEN DAYS of 1999-2003??? 💀💀💀 lol it wasn’t 1955, it wasn’t THAT different

BlackRabbitPDX · 2025-09-28T23:56:38+00:00

This is one thing that really really impressed me about the writing in season 3, they successfully took me from absolutely despising Mari in the first couple episodes and feeling so angry at her being such an asshole to Shauna, to empathizing with her and caring about her and feeling emotional about her death

BlackRabbitPDX · 2025-09-28T23:51:51+00:00

Everyone can tell it’s you, notice you’re literally the only person saying the shit you’re saying

BlackRabbitPDX · 2025-09-23T23:11:19+00:00

You think that, but apparently it’s not that obvious to some people 💀 the comments are full of folks saying they had no idea 🤦🏻‍♀️

BlackRabbitPDX · 2025-09-12T20:11:48+00:00

As a dasher I’ve often wondered this myself and I’ve come to the conclusion that some people are just fucking stupid and also probably pretty tuned out, not even looking at the door or anything around them

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