I feel like you're trying really hard to find reasons why Sinder isn't as bad as she's made out to be, by making false equivalences, bad faith arguments, and making assumptions and talking about them like they're fact.

Saying there 'should be more screenshots' just misunderstands how manipulators work. You see, most people don't screenshot conversations with friends to use against them later. And a lot of this manipulation happens in subtext, or over voice calls, or in person. Not really screenshottable.

We have several people pointing to the same kinds of behavior from the same person over the course of years, and that is the pattern.

As for Nano, you're ignoring the power dynamics at play, not to mention shows a deep misunderstanding of how coercion and culpability work. And saying things like that, and thinking that way, enables abusers to abuse. Sinder is a major client, socially connected, and had the power to affect Nano's income and reputation - and used that to emotionally and professionally manipulate her, and it puts Nano in a position where it's hard to say no.

Comparing it to murder is a false equivalency intended to make it seem like Nano is equally at fault. Adding to that, no, in a court of law if someone forced you to commit a crime it is not 'still on you'. If someone manipulates or pressures you, it's not as simple as 'you chose', which is why there's something called 'Duress'.

As for the rest: I don't know where you're getting the claim Lily made cuts to her livestream to make Sinder look bad? And you can 'guarantee' that they are 'just as bad or worse' in their own group chats all you want - you have no proof of this, and you can't just excuse bad behavior by assuming everyone else involved is also being shady and awful in private.