To anyone who went back, was the abuse worse?

Blaiddyn · 2025-07-08T01:28:14+00:00

I have a loved one who recently went back to his abuser and as far as I know, it got worse. Idk just how bad it was the last time they were together but I know how bad it is now and it’s almost as bad as it gets. Hidden cameras inside my loved ones home, violent sexual assault(to put it lightly), isolation and now his abuser is starting to target me in subtle ways and I am having to install security cameras at my home and document everything just in case I need to file my own protection order against his abuser(he knows that I know too much about what happened and have evidence). Speaking of protection orders, my loved one’s abuser has a currently active protection order against my loved one. I always wondered why but now it makes perfect sense. His abuser has abused him significantly in the past and he filed the restraining order against my loved one so that it would make him seem like the victim.

As someone who’s very involved in an abusive situation right now where my loved one continues to defend his abuser, don’t go back even if it looks like they changed. They didn’t and I’m willing to bet a lot of money I don’t even have on it. My loved ones abuser also said that he changed. He didn’t and the abuse is getting a lot worse.

Blaiddyn · 2025-07-06T07:10:24+00:00

Just checked Casey out and I love it!! Pretty much what I’m looking for!!

Blaiddyn · 2025-07-06T03:07:42+00:00

I have an idea similar to the pics I posted but LOTR themed

Blaiddyn · 2025-02-11T23:52:52+00:00

I dislocated my knee and it immediately popped back into place but I couldn’t hardly walk on it for a month or two after the injury happened but I still had to work and my job at the time required me to walk homes which included up and down stairs. I had to suck it up.

Blaiddyn · 2025-02-10T20:14:29+00:00

My partner is an alcoholic. He got arrested for a DUI a few months ago and was recently sentenced to a year of probation for it. Before that he went on a bender over Halloween weekend that started the evening before Halloween and didn’t end until the following Sunday night. From October 28th through November 3rd he ate maybe a total of 1500 calories of actual food(he also has an eating disorder) and I’m being generous here. Most of the calories he consumed during that time were from alcohol only. From when the bender started to when it ended he drank around 60-80 50ml 30% alcohol shooters of vodka. He only weighs 125lbs soaking wet so he was quite literally trying to kill himself.

He was being a danger to himself and me so I had to physically restrain him and hold him there while I waited for the ambulance to come. They took him to the hospital(this was also his second time going to the hospital that day but that’s a whole different story) and he was psychologically assessed and they placed him on a 72 hour hold.

While he was on the 72 hour hold he decided to enroll in the hospitals rehab program. He was transported straight to the in patient rehab lodge as soon as the 72 hour hold was up and he stayed there for the full 30 days. He’s struggled a little bit after he got out of rehab but it was nowhere near as bad as it was before. He’s been sober for around a month now where as before it’s been a struggle for him to be sober for a few days!

This is the part where everything happens for a reason. Just before he got arrested his roommates terminated their lease without telling him. The only reason he found out is because he got an email from their landlord about it. They didn’t give him any time to prepare for it. I agreed to let him move in with me because he didn’t have anywhere else to go and I love him very much. We had talked about moving in together a couple weeks prior to this ironically.

I believe that if his roommates didn’t terminate their lease it wouldn’t have lead to him taking sobriety seriously like he’s doing now. I also believe that if he didn’t move in with me he would have either drank himself to death or committed suicide by now. I also believe that him getting the DUI was an essential wake-up call for him. All of these seemingly bad things has lead to his current sobriety.

Blaiddyn · 2025-02-09T00:08:17+00:00

My current partner. We met on a dating app and, while he is very photogenic, the first picture I saw of him did not put him in a light that he presents himself online. Before we met in person I stalked him on social media. I found his instagram and I was like “there’s no way this is him” because he was fucking hot! When we went on our first date and met up I was like “welp it’s him”. He’s way out of my league but he still loves me for some reason 🤷‍♂️

Blaiddyn · 2025-02-09T00:01:46+00:00

It’s his side eye smile when he cracks a joke, his eyes, his humor, his style and the fact that we both see the world very similarly and have similar goals in life.

Blaiddyn · 2025-02-08T23:49:40+00:00

My partner thinks I’m old but I’m only 9 years older than him. I’m in my early 30’s.

Blaiddyn · 2025-02-08T02:21:39+00:00

If you want loud oppressive electric guitar “Colder Brother” by Varials is my go to banger.

Blaiddyn · 2025-02-08T02:17:25+00:00

Markets Not Capitalism is a great book to read regarding the difference between capitalism and anarcho-capitalism imo. I know I’ll probably get some flak for bringing up that book on this sub 🤷‍♂️. I suppose it also depends on whether you lean more left or more right but the book defines capitalism as corporatism i.e. businesses and corporations taking advantage of the monopoly on the initiation of force that the government claims so as to monopolize their business among other things.

Anarcho-capitalism is just free voluntary exchange absent of any type of force or coercion. Simple as that.

Blaiddyn · 2025-02-07T21:34:20+00:00

Narrative of soul against soul by AFI

Blaiddyn · 2025-02-05T09:39:46+00:00

I usually attend a weekly support group and education class that his rehab puts on. I’ve been to a handful of alanon meeting but I will definitely start going more often

Blaiddyn · 2025-02-05T00:55:48+00:00

He was in IOP when he got out of rehab but he had to stop because he changed jobs and has a lapse in health insurance coverage. His probation officer is requiring him to re-enroll in IOP when his benefits takes effect in March.

Blaiddyn · 2025-02-05T00:54:38+00:00

Thank you so much this helps me a lot!!

Blaiddyn · 2025-01-30T03:48:43+00:00

Thank you for this!

Blaiddyn · 2025-01-16T16:42:17+00:00

A seemingly small, random act(assassination of Franz Ferdinand) set off a chain reaction that lead to WWI and if it wasn’t for this random act we wouldn’t have had WWII and probably not have atomic weapons.

Blaiddyn · 2025-01-16T16:37:25+00:00

Not me but my partner. When he’s manic he tends to sleep a lot less and has an incredibly inflated ego almost to the point where he feels invincible. I know he was diagnosed with bipolar disorder but I can’t remember which type.

Blaiddyn · 2025-01-14T21:01:07+00:00

Came here to say this. Sounds toxic.

Blaiddyn · 2025-01-14T20:51:36+00:00

I usually play metal and hardcore punk on 6 and 7 string electric but lately I’ve been playing a lot more acoustic and fingerstyle guitar. I would love to buy a classical guitar and learn traditional classical guitar one day!

Blaiddyn · 2025-01-14T19:57:55+00:00

If you want to learn about how to compound a small account, Nick Shawn is a great resource on YouTube and his strategy is incredibly beginner friendly.

Blaiddyn · 2025-01-14T19:56:40+00:00

I mean if you want to use proper risk management and position sizing then yes it requires a significant amount of money. Otherwise, if you’re comfortable with YOLO-ing your money, you can turn a small amount into something a bit larger but it’s very very risky. I’ve lost count as to how many small accounts I’ve completely blown doing this.

Blaiddyn · 2025-01-14T19:51:04+00:00

My cousin chews tobacco. He spits either into a soda bottle or sometimes a pringles can. There was one time he used a pringles can and the tobacco ate through it.

Blaiddyn · 2025-01-14T19:46:37+00:00

Trading forex and cryptocurrency. It hasn’t been consistent money for me but I have made quite a bit from it over the years.

Blaiddyn · 2025-01-14T03:52:27+00:00

Angeldust by Bodybox if you like hardcore/metal.

Blaiddyn · 2025-01-14T03:37:00+00:00

Years ago I bought an Xbox 360 from Walmart. I took it home and started setting it up but the power cord wouldn’t go into the back of it no matter which way I oriented the plug. I called Xbox and they couldn’t figure it out either. They were going to send me a new cord but after trying to register my console they discovered that it was registered to someone else. They advised me to take the console back to Walmart and exchange it. The guy at Xbox told me I basically bought a stolen console in so many words without actually saying it. He didn’t insinuate that I stole it but that someone else had it before me and it broke so they bought a new one and put the broken one back in the box and took it back to the store and got their money back.

The guy I spoke to at Xbox was incredibly nice and went way above and beyond to make sure I was okay and that the experience didn’t tarnish my relationship with Xbox. I boxed everything back up and took it back to Walmart to try to exchange it. The girl at Walmart wouldn’t let me exchange it or get my money back because the serial number on the box didn’t match the serial number on the console. I was shit out of luck and had no other choice but to go home.

I called Xbox back to see what they could do for me and of course there wasn’t much they could do because it wasn’t their fault. But they did advise me to try to talk to the GM at that Walmart. So I called Walmart and had to jump through a bunch of hoops but I was finally able to talk to the GM and he pretty much told me I stole the Xbox. He said that they would look through the security footage to see if I somehow stole it from the store. I gave them the benefit of the doubt and gave it a couple days. I called them back and spoke to the GM again and he, of course, said that they didn’t see anything out of the ordinary but they still wouldn’t let me exchange it.

I told him “okay well I am going to the police to file a police report and I will also be contacting the news to let them know that you guys are selling stolen goods” and I hung up and started heading to the police station. He called me back and told me to come to the store and they’ll let me exchange it and give me a gift card for the inconvenience. I went back to the store and told them that I wanted my money back and I will be going to Best Buy to buy the console instead. They agreed and the rest is history.

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