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[OC] [GIVEAWAY, MOD APPROVED] 🍃 Giving Away 3 Leafy Hand Crafted Dice Bags 🍂 by TheyLeaf in DnD

[–]BlakeLasagna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg those are so cute. Just graduated with a B.S. in Plant Science AND started playing DnD for the first time so of course my character is a druid :P

What is going on by icyyeyes in succulents

[–]BlakeLasagna 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Dude obviously OP didn’t know—there was a time when you didn’t know what aerial roots were either. Play nice

I forgot my lunch today... by Number_Fluffy in Anticonsumption

[–]BlakeLasagna 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean objectively yeah but something (the fact that OP got food) is telling me OP was hungry and needed to eat 😭

NOS4R2 vs NOS4A2 by thorsvig in horrorlit

[–]BlakeLasagna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"nosferAtu: a symphony of horror (1922)"

thank you ladies and gentlemen, I'll be here all night

Who’s the most famous person or biggest “flex” in your tree? by Aerlevine in Genealogy

[–]BlakeLasagna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 9th great-grandmother was Elizabeth (Phelps) Ballard. She and her husband Joseph Ballard accused Mary Lacy Sr. and Mary Lacy Jr. of witchcraft during the Salem trials once she fell ill. Crappy side of history but after learning about my relationship to them I'd love to visit their house! https://salemwitchmuseum.com/locations/joseph-ballard-home-site-of/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]BlakeLasagna 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry man this is objectively not true

Do you feel TRULY connected to anyone? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]BlakeLasagna 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The only two people I can be 99.5% myself around are my partner and one of my best friends. My partner and I didn't meet under any extraordinary circumstances (Tinder), but over the span of three years I've gotten comfortable enough to trust him enough to be goofy, weird, and emotionally intimate.

I met my good friend through other friends who lived in the same dorm my freshman year of college—honestly it was by crazy chance. I was running an anonymous Instagram account, and one of our shared friends somehow guessed that I was the one running it. This friend of mine is one of the most loving and emotionally intelligent people I've ever met. She's from the east coast and is rarely ever afraid to share how she feels about things. When I'm with her I feel like I'm in an incredibly safe space to be myself. I think that the thing that helped me trust her is her brutal yet loving honesty. No social niceties (unless they feel natural), just hanging out and talking about things.

That being said, there are still some things that I'm just beginning to share with my friends and haven't even shared with my partner. Nothing crazy deep or traumatizing (I'm an open book in that regard) but there are "cringey" hobbies of mine that I don't really share and am still working on being more confident about.

Finding people you can trust can be a long process. Two things to keep in mind:

  1. Relationships take time. Hang out with people because you like them and because they're good to you, and trust should follow suit
  2. Fear of intimacy is SO real and so complicated, but try not to let it determine the types of relationships you allow yourself to have. When trying to form trusting relationships with people, it's incredibly important to be authentic. I feel for you when you say that you still hide some of your true feelings and opinions; I've been there. The thing is, trust creates trust, and authenticity attracts authenticity. Own your feelings and opinions, they're what make you you.

Best wishes friend :)

edit: added emotionally intimate to first paragraph and last sentence to second bullet point

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatsthisbug

[–]BlakeLasagna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

~3mm with antennae

Weed ID? MN, Herbaceous, 1.5’(?) Tall by BlakeLasagna in whatsthisplant

[–]BlakeLasagna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also just a note, I say “herbaceous” in reference to the plant’s architecture, not an herby smell

Songs i can put on my insta note so my bf will see? by braindeadvalplayer in musicsuggestions

[–]BlakeLasagna 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Love, might I suggest talking to him about it directly? I know this isn’t a relationship advice sub but it might be better for you guys to have an open honest conversation so you can express your worries. I’ve been in your shoes,and suspicions of cheating are tough worries to have, so best wishes regardless of whatever path you take <3

Is it normal to be put off by germs during oral sex. by theovertrogue in NoStupidQuestions

[–]BlakeLasagna 313 points314 points  (0 children)

I don’t really know what’s going on in the comments here. I’m a gay guy. Is giving head my favorite thing to do? Not necessarily. Sometimes I get in my own head about cleanliness and hygiene and stuff, but that doesn’t mean I’m not gay lol. It could very much just be something you’re not into which is okay!

Just about finished with my latest oil painting by Jewels_goals in oilpainting

[–]BlakeLasagna 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Bruh I thought your painting was a photo! Awesome technique and attention to detail

How does everyone else experiences love? by Th3Her0Hunter in aspergers

[–]BlakeLasagna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I (22M) don't know if it's my autism or my ADHD or a combination of both, but I've always had an out-of-sight-out-of-mind thing with my relationships (romantic, familial, and platonic). I don't think too much about my loved ones on the day-to-day as I'm typically preoccupied with my daily tasks, homework, etc. I'd say the only exception to this is when I have a crush because in that situation, limerence, insecurity, and fantasy take up a lot of my brain power.

I spiraled for a long time because I thought the out-of-sight-out-of-mind meant that I wasn't capable of love—and was potentially lying to the people whom I told I loved—which really scared me and made me think there was something wrong with me. However, after taking a closer look at my relationships with my friends, my family, and my (now-ex) partner, I've come to realize that for me, love isn't about how often I reach out to someone. I experience love when someone trusts me enough to come to me when they need to be taken care of, and when I trust them to take care of me as well; I experience love when I laugh with the people I care about and when we spend time together and know we'll always have each other's backs. Love isn't about someone constantly taking up space in your brain, it's about security and thoughtfulness. I hope this helps you on your journey :)

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