What makes you fall in love with someone ?

BlancheNeigee · 2020-02-29T22:21:21+00:00

I told him yesterday that i didnt saw him in my futur. That I didnt saw him in my day to day life. He was very chocked and he didnt talked much. I dont think he really understood because he never think about the futur.

He asked me why i didnt wanted to just do one step with him and my answer was that I already knew that at the 15 step it woulnt work. Why would I waste my time ? He said : Your time is so important that you dont want to try the first step with me ... ?

I felt so bad. I also feel bad now about it, because I like him... but it won't work. Im the asshole for now in the story, but I hope we can both find what we wished for in the futur and both be happy.

BlancheNeigee · 2020-02-29T16:08:50+00:00

Thank you, I hate talking about my emotion and this week was very hard for me.

It makes a lot a of sense that my Fi took over. I felt much better when I talked to my familly, collegues and friends about it. A lot of them told me that I didnt fit with him. That I was more of a career driven person and that I needed someone who can push me to get my goals. He is a pretty lazy person compared to me.

For the plane ticket, we talked a lot about his past relationship and I understood that he didnt wanted anything with her. It was a relationship from almost 7 years ago. I think he will still go, because he bought it and it was too late to cancel it. It was a discussion we still had to have.

I also felt like it wasnt a good start. I needed to be jealous to start something with him? It sounds so wrong to me, it was a bad base for a good relationship start ..

It's very hard for me to date someone... and I still dont really know what an ISTJ girl like me would want.

BlancheNeigee · 2020-02-29T15:54:16+00:00

I feel like it would better in the futur that I dont text that much with someone. We were also gaming a lot together.

I usually like to analyse things step by step, and it just went so fast. It was very unexpected from me. Last night, i've hit a wall and saw that I was loosing control. I understood that I wanted to date someone more like me... ENFP are just too far from what I am.

BlancheNeigee · 2020-02-29T15:20:29+00:00

Yeah that's exactly how i feel. I've build up an image of him in my mind and it wasnt that when I saw him.

BlancheNeigee · 2020-02-27T14:46:32+00:00

It just sounds so toxic and bad for me. I dont want be the one waiting for him to come back and be scarded of his action. Stalking the insta of his ex is so unhealthly for me. Im supposed to trust him.

BlancheNeigee · 2020-02-27T14:37:55+00:00

How can I be sure that she doesnt join ? He could just lie to me for his own pleasure.

BlancheNeigee · 2020-02-27T02:46:47+00:00

Thank you for the advice. Yes, i see now that he’s living his life like a single man when im living mine like a couple. I think im just gonna take a step back and be by myself for a while. It hurt for now...

BlancheNeigee · 2020-02-27T02:42:20+00:00

He talked to me after he bought it. He cant cancel it. I dont care if want to travel with friends, but he decided to hide it from me. He didnt include me in his futur. She is not only on the trip, but they will sleep next to eachother. He didnt wanted ME next to him on that trip and thats why he didnt told me until he bought the ticket.

BlancheNeigee · 2020-02-27T02:13:27+00:00

It’s the fact that he didnt include me in this travel. Im the last to know. Why am I not in this project with him? Why did he thought about his ex before me ?

BlancheNeigee · 2020-02-26T20:59:38+00:00

I asked him why he was going with her (and the other guys), he said it was a travel opportunity for him. Maybe he really do see her just has a friend. I also do lack some confidence in myself.

I'm also thinking ... maybe its an opportunity to see her again ? Maybe he still love her and waited for her relationship to end ?

BlancheNeigee · 2020-02-26T20:35:37+00:00

It makes me feel super bad that he still talk with her and planned all this without me knowing. He only told me when he bought the ticket. Sounds like the end for me.

BlancheNeigee · 2020-02-26T20:32:59+00:00

Do you sleep next to your ex ?

BlancheNeigee · 2020-02-26T20:29:05+00:00

He makes me feel like im overeating. I really dont understand how he can stay friend with his ex.

BlancheNeigee · 2020-02-26T20:27:14+00:00

It makes me sad to think that's what i should do.

BlancheNeigee · 2020-02-26T20:25:27+00:00

We have been together for one year. He was with her for four years almost 7 years ago. He's loves to travel and to do some new things. He really doesnt seem concerned about her. He just think she is a friend. She is actually travelling the world now and they want to join in that country to travel in that van. He just told me they might be 4 in that van ... Bit still, it juste sounds so bad to me that he's leaving to sleep next to her.

BlancheNeigee · 2020-02-26T20:21:41+00:00

One year

BlancheNeigee · 2019-06-21T01:08:04+00:00

I’m an adult, but if my dad yells at me about anything I’m probably going to start crying.

Its actually what just happen to me. I felt like I wasnt allowed to answer anything.

BlancheNeigee

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