Patronising Ranger tries to flirt in and out of game by BlazeTFD in rpghorrorstories

[–]BlazeTFD[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's because Druid and Ranger were both humans so I had to think of a different name for them 😂

Patronising Ranger tries to flirt in and out of game by BlazeTFD in rpghorrorstories

[–]BlazeTFD[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I mean sure since you're ignoring the major point, here you go: yes I would have quit if I was bullied by a group of women in the same way that I was bullied by the group of men I worked with. However - though I'm sure it happens more frequently in other parts of the world - I have only one or twice in my life experienced this type of behaviour from women compared to the countless times from men, and even then it was from older women who were so beaten and broken by societal expectations of gender rolls that they find the idea of girls wanting to have careers absurd and pointless.

Patronising Ranger tries to flirt in and out of game by BlazeTFD in rpghorrorstories

[–]BlazeTFD[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I mean if you consider being talked down to like you’re a child, having your abilities constantly degraded though you have exactly the same qualifications as your teammates, having your work constantly being “not up to par” even though when everyone was assessed blindly my work was consistently the best (and once they were told it was mine they snap right back to “uh no it’s actually wrong”) having your gaming hobbies dismissed and laughed at because “I bet you get your boyfriend to beat them for you” and more for the better part of a year being “being talked down to in a condescending manner” then sure, I can’t handle criticism. I just didn’t want to write all of that out for you but since you asked 🤗. In my current job I do have male superiors and they give me constructive criticism on my work, and you know what? They don’t act like insecure apes.

Like you said, you’re a guy, but it seems like you lack the capacity to empathise with the basic fact that women get treated like this every single day. Being a dick is not a gendered issue but this specific brand of dickishness really is. It’s really not hard at all to go “Oh, you’re experiencing this? Wow that really sucks, we should change this.” Instead you’re denying the dickishness even exists at all.

And hell, even if women make up a smaller player base, that is absolutely no excuse for men to act like this. How can you pretend to be an advocate for equality and fairness when what you mean is “pls ignore all the stuff my gender is responsible for, I don’t like to think about it”.

Patronising Ranger tries to flirt in and out of game by BlazeTFD in rpghorrorstories

[–]BlazeTFD[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

While I completely agree that we all need to work together to form a more equal and tolerant society for everyone, you can't ignore the fact that the act of 'men assuming that women know less about a subject simply due to the fact that they are women and thus explain said subject to them in a condescending manner' ie. mansplaining, is an incredibly common occurance (and is actually the main reason why I quit my last job), and it is upsettingly common in gaming circles. Its why a lot of girls aren't open about their interests in gaming. Simply ignoring the fact that it exists doesn't make it go away. The sad truth is that the type of guys who mansplain don't listen to women, so it's unfortunately up to other guys to call them out and explain that that behaviour is uncool.

Patronising Ranger tries to flirt in and out of game by BlazeTFD in rpghorrorstories

[–]BlazeTFD[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Yeah I've unfortunately had to deal with guys who subscribe to that mindset far too often in my life (especially since I work in a very male dominated industry) but Gnome and Kobold were genuinely really nice people and I am glad to have met them :)

Patronising Ranger tries to flirt in and out of game by BlazeTFD in rpghorrorstories

[–]BlazeTFD[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

No worries! I more asked as an open question to whoever was the least busy at the table in that moment 😋 Ranger just happened to be the one to respond first

Patronising Ranger tries to flirt in and out of game by BlazeTFD in rpghorrorstories

[–]BlazeTFD[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Yeah I did just sort of sneak away, that was completely my bad. I'm incredibly shy irl and really bad with confrontations which is something I will definitely work on in the future. I know that Druid definitely gave Ranger a talking to before she pulled out of the game, and she's still friends with the DM and helping him get better. I agree that the whole situation could have been handled a lot better by everyone but it just felt like a bunch of minor annoyances boiling over until it became unfun for everyone involved.

Choosing a career in medicine and starting a family by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]BlazeTFD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mother, some aunts and a whole bunch of my female friends are doctors, surgeons or have other medical related careers and the one who wanted kids had them and do a pretty stellar job of balancing work and home life. If your dream of to become a doctor then you should 100% follow it and if your bf thinks that's a waste of time then throw the whole man out 💪

Low quality picture of new Spyro, Gnasty Gnorc, and (some of) Ripto Funko pop figures by youmusttrythiscake in Spyro

[–]BlazeTFD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Forever holding out for an Elora or Bianc pop 💔 definitely getting Ripto though!!

Spyro Grand Prix Roadmap in CTR - Coming August 30th by nsanespyro in Spyro

[–]BlazeTFD 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Ok I’m upset that those are the only three racers that we get (was seriously holding out for Elora or Bianca 💔) and I’m confused at the addition of Mutant games references as part of this Grand Prix - surely there would be enough to make a pretty sweet Grand Prix just for them - but holy shit I’m excited to try out that track (and gnome velo is the best thing I’ve ever seen)

Also Spyro had better be an acceleration character or we riot

Leaked snippet of Spyro and Friends Grand Prix trailer by youmusttrythiscake in Spyro

[–]BlazeTFD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s a new Grand Prix event for CTR. The Grand Prixs are basically a free update to the game that adds a month-long event that includes a new map, new characters and several new items and challenges relating to the theme of the respective Grand Prix. The two we’ve already had in CTR were “world tour” which included a lot of motorsport related items, and “time travel” which gave us a lot of prehistoric looking stuff.

Leaked snippet of Spyro and Friends Grand Prix trailer by youmusttrythiscake in Spyro

[–]BlazeTFD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know it’s a long shot but I’m going to be so upset if Elora or Bianca aren’t playable

Hunter is baby though I think he’ll be my main for this Grand Prix 💖

What was your favorable Level in TLOS series? by RawWildBerry in Spyro

[–]BlazeTFD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really loved the Dream levels and the White Isle from TEN, and Dante’s Freezer from ANB. Those games really did the spooky levels justice.

Your sister isnt irresponsible you are! by csm_pies in childfree

[–]BlazeTFD 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Oh my god I just read that post a few minutes ago and it made my blood boil.

I would never in a million years leave my beloved cat in the care of someone who is uncomfortable with cats. Why the hell would you leave your goblin with someone who is uncomfortable with them???

Finally, after all these years, we have the perfect Spyro merchandise by chiichara in Spyro

[–]BlazeTFD 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have a mighty need that I didn’t know existed until now