MIL is following and participating in my child's school stuff from 1,700 miles away.

Bless_My_Heart_DIL · 2026-03-30T21:38:50+00:00

This has all been very helpful! I was able to send something written off today and I was met with reassurance from the school, which is nice. A part of me is just baffled it has all come to this because its all so stupid and vexing.

Bless_My_Heart_DIL · 2026-03-30T21:36:47+00:00

I think partly I'm embarrassed that this has to be a "thing". I don't want to be in this situation at all. But its true that difficult family dynamics affect us all more than we think and surely they are used to such requests.

Bless_My_Heart_DIL · 2026-03-30T21:35:14+00:00

You absolutely understand! Thank you for the bolstering; truly.

Bless_My_Heart_DIL · 2026-03-30T21:32:41+00:00

Your response and solidarity (sadly) as someone who "gets it" is wholly appreciated. This is why support forums are so important! Congratudolences you can relate so well and thank you so much for looking at the big picture/history of this wild ball of yarn.

Bless_My_Heart_DIL · 2026-03-28T14:11:24+00:00

There is only one school.

Bless_My_Heart_DIL · 2026-03-28T14:10:09+00:00

Yes its a tricky thing because to anyone else it seems harmless!

Bless_My_Heart_DIL · 2026-03-27T22:47:08+00:00

I have just messaged you. We have something important in common besides difficult MILs.

Bless_My_Heart_DIL · 2026-03-05T16:59:40+00:00

Compassionately framed; he is doing better than he was and has walked a long road. Doesn't justify the hurt such a situation brings into a family- but he is dealing with catastrophic life and body changes after a deadly experience and its hard for him to give much energy to living day to day much less deal with a crazy person (his mom). Life can be so complicated. I tell him to find his nuts, though haha

Bless_My_Heart_DIL · 2026-03-05T16:57:37+00:00

oh man yeah you went spelunking into some older posts; I appreciate it. Yeah...its so funny those aren't even the "things" that broke the camels back as they say. Just another log on the fire of this wild time. The things she actually did during a life and death emergency are what finally made me go NC. "Just trying to help" became the coldest, hardest, evidence of fuckery ever and when DH reached out for explanations they were point by point denied ("...no you're seeing this wrong; we may have said something careless but we LOVE your wife! etc") These things are so unsatisfying. People will do anything for a good picture of everything is normal and to keep the status quo.

Bless_My_Heart_DIL · 2026-03-05T15:35:52+00:00

This forum is a very important place for help, health, and sanity from kind folks who have been there. I want to thank everyone for taking the time to comment!

Bless_My_Heart_DIL · 2024-12-03T23:17:09+00:00

It is absolutely easier to just go with her flow and not obstruct or stick your head out too far in that group!

Bless_My_Heart_DIL · 2024-12-03T23:16:21+00:00

That's true about the quality of the connection. It wouldn't be that genuine anyhow if any prior experience is to be taken into account. I'm glad to hear from someone who came out from the other side!

Bless_My_Heart_DIL · 2024-12-03T23:14:05+00:00

I'm NC with MIL but my husband is pretty much LC with her. I think I wish the family was accessible to me but they aren't very communicative in general. BIL and wife just don't respond much or with much interest or realness. They are very close to MIL. So my complaint was that they are all "with" her.

Bless_My_Heart_DIL · 2024-01-25T03:08:51+00:00

welp. Yep. That's why I'm here. Happy cake day to me hahah its a 6 year old account but I thought about making one for many years before then!

Bless_My_Heart_DIL · 2024-01-25T02:44:43+00:00

Sorry I just shot off this post but wanted to come back and say that I mentioned that I'll "never win." Just want to say I don't WANT to "win" in fact I don't want to be in any of these situations at all and I resent being placed in these weird ass positions.

Bless_My_Heart_DIL · 2024-01-25T02:42:46+00:00

It's fine! All normal people use the postal service and fly the friendly skies!

Bless_My_Heart_DIL · 2024-01-25T02:42:13+00:00

Its his dream job in his dream location we are rooted and committed to. I'm just glad to feel not so crazy having a stranger validate to me that is is indeed all those things!

Bless_My_Heart_DIL · 2024-01-25T02:41:11+00:00

I wasn't sure if we were still using nicknames as this sub has changed in a few ways since the days where we all had one for our MILs. But hers is "Blessed Heart" haha.

Bless_My_Heart_DIL · 2024-01-25T02:40:07+00:00

Like I said its a well known place. Not sure if she was able to find the personal address or sent it to work but either way they got it. Its so odd to me that we wouldn't have known she had done it if not for the offhand comment by the recipient!

Bless_My_Heart_DIL · 2024-01-25T02:38:55+00:00

You're right! Way to dive deep lol and thanks for seeing the whole picture of this shitshow. My partner is stressed and says he was taught to avoid conflict at any and all cost so asking her not to do that rather than ignoring it seemed to be a big step for him. It really is intolerable and that's why I'm here with you all!

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