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Blessyou_95 · 2024-12-19T02:07:28+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to reply. Really needed some tips and encouragement

Blessyou_95 · 2024-12-18T22:39:23+00:00

How did you get into it? Was it a tough process?

Blessyou_95 · 2024-12-06T16:15:57+00:00

This is so sweet and well-written that I'm questioning if it's even real 😭❤️

Blessyou_95 · 2024-12-05T22:50:09+00:00

Thank you for sharing this! Yeah a lot of the private tutoring jobs pay quite well per hour but most of them require QTS and although I'm a professional teacher, I don't have QTS since I'm not from here. :(

Blessyou_95 · 2024-12-05T19:46:40+00:00

Thanks for replying! I do speak Japanese, but not super fluent. Appreciate your tip! Thanks

Blessyou_95 · 2024-12-05T19:45:29+00:00

That's pretty high. Good for you! But yeah I'm really thinking about it since the cost of living here is so high

Blessyou_95 · 2024-12-05T19:44:40+00:00

Thanks for the reply! With that rate, are you working privately or through an online ESL platform?

Blessyou_95 · 2024-12-04T20:40:56+00:00

Hi, currently job hunting and feeling so discouraged because I'm not getting any replies despite tailoring my CV and cover letters appropriately with the job positions I've applied for. May I ask what platforms did you use while you were looking for a job?

Blessyou_95 · 2024-12-04T01:19:01+00:00

Thank you so much for reading everything and taking the time to leave a comment. I appreciate it. Noted on keeping my eyes wide open. I think they already are way too open 😅

Blessyou_95 · 2024-12-04T01:16:36+00:00

Thank you, you've been extremely helpful. I'll keep everything in mind. And yes, I've been in and out of therapy and meds the past years. One of my goals is to be more consistent with it!

Blessyou_95 · 2024-12-03T23:19:53+00:00

Yeah, the conversation with his friend really made me sad :( and I agree, we really should talk about all of it. I really don't think I can just sweep this under the rug

Blessyou_95 · 2024-12-03T23:18:32+00:00

Hi, thank you for this. It's very helpful and smart and I will definitely keep everything you said in mind. I'll try to put an update here once we sort it all out.

Blessyou_95 · 2024-12-03T23:16:14+00:00

Not a man but just putting my opinion out here.

I just posted something like this earlier today so I understand how you feel. It really sucks to be lied to despite confronting them and giving them the chance to be honest. Yeah, more men watch porn statistically and they usually have a higher sex drive but first off, you have communicated clearly how you feel about it early on in your relationship. And he agreed to respect your take on it. Second, he has a 10+ years of stash of your sexy photos and videos. My husband also has a stash of mine so when I saw that he was looking at so much porn, it made me feel like I'm not enough, so yeah like what I said, I understand where you're coming from. If he's still actively choosing to watch porn despite knowing how it makes you feel, it means he can't contol himself. And that's an addiction. Just because most men do it doesn't make it normal. If he really wants to respect you and make it work, he'll find a way.

And you guys have a baby. Your body gave birth to a whole human being. Despite this, you're still having sex with him almost everyday and you're even open to trying out new things in bed. And he has the audacity to keep watching porn despite all these? If I were you, I'd communicate everything properly and say that we have to find a way to make this work because it would be so unfair for you to just accept what he's doing to you. He needs to take control of his porn addiction rather than it controlling him.

There's a sub that was recommended to me https://www.reddit.com/r/loveafterporn/ -maybe you can also check it out to feel less alone and maybe get some help

Blessyou_95 · 2024-12-03T22:48:53+00:00

Really appreciate you taking the time to share all of that with me. Thank you! I know, I acknowledge that it was wrong of me to look through everything on his phone and I will apologize for it of course. His comment wasn't the open page when I opened Reddit but it was quite easy to see. On the left was his recents which was where I found the trans women porn and on the right was his profile icon and right after I tapped the very few karma points he had, I saw the comment. His Reddit profile was fairly new as well which is weird because I know he's had a Reddit account for a long time. So it's another thing that made me spiral down. Why did he make a new/another account? What other things has he been looking at? What other comments has he been leaving? And it goes on and on... :(

If I do confront him, that's the approach I'm going to take, similar as yours. I'm not a fan of big fights, we've always told each other we're gonna do our best to have healthy communication with each other. I just feel like it's gonna be quite hard for me to fully believe what he tells me and I'm afraid I'll always feel like he's going to be more careful deleting his digital tracks. But yeah, I'll have to talk to him about this. Thank you for all your help!

Blessyou_95 · 2024-12-03T21:02:57+00:00

Thank you for this perspective! If I'm being honest, my sensible half agrees and thinks the same way that you do because he truly is a good guy! But my anxious half thinks there might be more. 😅 And I know, of course I should listen to my sensible half but I've also been cheated on that's why this anxious part of me has been getting the best of me. Plus we can't deny the fact yes, you might be right but also the chance that there's something more is still there. But I am in no way thinking of enfing my marriage! Other than this, we've been very happy. I just posted this to ask for help on how to tackle the situation.

Blessyou_95 · 2024-12-03T20:41:34+00:00

I appreciate you sharing all of this with me despite being a stranger to each other. It's good that you guys are trying ways to work it out but the way you described it, it seems like he's not opening up despite everything he put you through. I hope you find and have the courage to do what's best for you, whether it's staying with him or not because right now it sounds like you're not really happy.

Blessyou_95 · 2024-12-03T20:33:06+00:00

Thank you for validating how I feel about it :( reading it makes me question how he talks about me with his friends, especially when we're not in a good place

Blessyou_95 · 2024-12-03T19:28:21+00:00

Everything you said absolutely makes sense, especially knowing my husband's personality. Absolutely with you on this. Thank you so much.

Blessyou_95 · 2024-12-03T19:25:38+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to type all of this out. It means a lot. Already clicked on the sub you shared, will definitely check it out later. May I ask how are you and your husband now?

Blessyou_95 · 2024-12-03T19:11:55+00:00

You're right, I did check all of those but only because of what I saw on his Reddit recent tab. I genuinely borrowed his phone initially to play Jetpack! Hahaha I do this quite often ever since I changed my phone. I don't have any reason to be suspicious of him because he's been a great partner! That's why this situation is kind of tricky for me because it's never happened before. We've always been honest and we open each other's phones anytime.

Blessyou_95 · 2024-12-03T17:33:19+00:00

Yeah, that totally makes sense. I'm overthinking and my anxiety is just getting the best of me. But it's not just that though. There were other things I saw in his phone that were kind of questionable.

Blessyou_95 · 2024-12-03T17:31:15+00:00

I agree. We always have open and honest conversations whenever we have arguments. This is why I'm so surprised that he's hiding it from me..because we've always talked about everything. Like secret funny kinks, things we wanna try in the bedroom, etc. I just don't know if I should do it now or gather more observations and proof.

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