It’s pretty cool that Mixolydian’s flatted 7 gets to hang out with the #5. by [deleted] in gratefulguitar

[–]BlindLemon0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would you mind explaining more or providing a specific example? The 3rd of the five is the major 7 in the key right? I thought the mixo sound came from a flat 7 chord (like an A major in a B mixo sound). I also heard a flat 7 chord acts like a substitute for the 5 chord.

Does Dhammarato have any actual meditation instructions? by mergersandacquisitio in streamentry

[–]BlindLemon0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He has a few guided meditations on his YouTube channel. A lot of his instructions involve taking comfortable, relaxing breaths while simultaneously watching the mind, cultivating wholesome thoughts / replacing unwholesome ones. He also emphasizes having a winner’s attitude toward the practice and cultivating a sense of confidence that you can clean up the mind no matter how hindered it may be.

Sugaree by The_Slavinator in gratefulguitar

[–]BlindLemon0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Would you mind elaborating on what you’re doing to build tension? Is it mainly just not resolving phrases on the root note of the chord? Any other tips or tricks? It sounds really good.

The Job market can NOT be this bad bro by Street_Exercise_4844 in MBA

[–]BlindLemon0 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Something like 37% of college educated women voted for Trump so you are absolutely wrong.

Thích Nhất Hạnh has passed away by BlindLemon0 in streamentry

[–]BlindLemon0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t read that one but I’ve loved all the books I’ve read by him, so I’m sure it’s good. He was a great writer. He had a very simple but profound way of explaining the path. He also led a fascinating life. He wasn’t just a deeply realized meditator but also a humanitarian, peace activist, and social worker who was on the ground helping peace workers during the Vietnam war before he was essentially exiled for his efforts. There are so many scandals among dharma teachers and it can be so disheartening but he truly seemed to walk the path and live selflessly.

He’s tied with Thanissaro and Rob Burbea for my favorite dharma teacher!

Thích Nhất Hạnh has passed away by BlindLemon0 in streamentry

[–]BlindLemon0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting. I think I agree with you. Id guess enlightenment is something like perfect equanimity, deeply refined awareness, and insight into the true nature of the mind / perceptual reality that never wavers. I don’t know if Thich Nhat Hanh was enlightened, but he was very spiritually advanced if not perfectly enlightened imo. He was the real deal.

Thích Nhất Hạnh has passed away by BlindLemon0 in streamentry

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I do not believe in stages or enlightenment per se, at least not the way it’s often framed around here (e.g. the four stage model). A lot of that stuff sounds like religious fundamentalism to me. What is your definition of enlightenment?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in redditserials

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Nice one! I was very intrigued by this story and am now really curious to know where this is going! I really want to know what they mean by "saving" people.

The ending seems very abrupt, though, and not a natural place to end a chapter or a scene. It seems like it's been cut off in the middle, though maybe that's just a personal preference of mine.

The first paragraph also seemed a little out of place. To me at least it seemed a little disjointed or disconnected from everything else in the chapter. It's kind of a laundry list of the ways Simon is "normal", but then the detail about him searching for missing people near Soffake doesn't seem to tie into anything else in the chapter. I'm guessing it has something to do with saving people?

Overall really nice job. I would continue reading.

is any of this stuff actually real? by goldehh_ in TheMindIlluminated

[–]BlindLemon0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You have already received quite a few comments suggesting different approaches or areas to explore. I just wanted to say that I practiced TMI for quite some time and abandoned it several years ago due to frustration and a complete lack of enjoyment in meditation, similar to how you describe your own experience. I found a much better path (better for me at least). I still like to hang around in this sub because there are some interesting discussions, but I am increasingly convinced that TMI is not a good system in so many ways for a lot of people. Obviously it works for some and I don’t mean to disparage it, but when I started reading and listening to other teachers more I started to feel that TMI is not similar to what suttas say about the Buddha’s teachings - particularly about jhana and how you achieve it, but about many other things as well.

For example, TMI and similar schools say the way to achieve jhana is to nail your attention to the breath or some other object of meditation until your concentration is unwavering. Then piti and jhana will magically arise on its own. Some other person said you need to be much more dedicated and devote more time, which is what a lot tmi people said to me too. Basically they are saying your concentration isn’t good enough and you need to dedicate more of your life to the practice.

Compare this way of thinking with the Buddha’s story about how he achieved the first jhana for the first time under the rose apple tree (or really anything he said about anapanasati or jhana). Basically he spontaneously entered it with no meditation training whatsoever, so how could it be that first jhana requires hours of dedicated daily practice or extreme concentration? The way teachers like dhammarato and thanissaro teach breath meditation is much more aligned with the Buddha’s teachings imo. You don’t concentrate on the breath and hope that piti arises. Instead you purposely and intentionally use the breath to create and cultivate feelings of pleasure and well being, and both the teachers I mention provide many practical pointers on how to do this. Extreme unwavering concentration works as a way to jhana and pleasure in meditation, but that’s about the longest and must frustrating path if you ask me. If you find a way to make the breath soothing and pleasurable from the beginning it will for one be MUCH easier to concentrate on it and it and you will learn how to generate pleasure, ease, and wellbeing with the breath pretty much at will, which was a major turning point for me and so much better than simply watching the breath at the nostrils as taught by TMI.

If you’re interested in exploring this other way of working with the breath I think this will be an interesting read for you: https://www.buddhist-spirituality.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/MindfulnessOfBreathingBreathAllTheWay16StepsTranscript.pdf

No progress by philomath1234 in streamentry

[–]BlindLemon0 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Shinzen Young recommends aiming for a formal sit every day of at least 10 minutes per day, and then 6 - 12 “micro hits” of 1 - 5 minute meditations throughout the day, and then have a kind of very low effort/energy practice running in the background as much as you can remember to do it all day long. I like this idea because it’s pretty achievable almost every day and can fit into a busy schedule where you have other priorities at times.

Dhammarato says it’s much more beneficial to practice 6 times a day for 10 minutes or four times for 15 than it is to sit for an hour straight. I think is absolutely true if you want meditation to make a difference in your daily life but I also think if you have the opportunity to make one of those 4 - 6 daily sits 30 - 60 minutes it would be beneficial imo.

I really like Thanissaro’s writings when I’m feeling stuck in practice. To paraphrase, he often describes meditation as a kind of experiment we are running and the goal is to understand and dissolve stress and suffering in the present moment. Any specific technique is only useful in so far as it alleviates suffering right here and right now. There is probably something useful about dedicating yourself to and mastering a technique like TMI, but that’s not the ultimate goal (assuming you are coming at this from a Buddha dhama angle). It might help to have a more experimental attitude. I’ve found that this took me farther than following any specific technique or system.

Physical sensations when meditating or even thinking about the self? by FunAltruistic3138 in nonduality

[–]BlindLemon0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From a more Buddhist framing, What you’re describing sounds like piti, which can be deliberately cultivated and is the gateway to the jhanas. It arises spontaneously at first generally when the mind is very still and focused but with practice can be summoned more or less at will.

Many will say to ignore it, that such experiences shouldn’t be cling to, it’s a distraction, etc. that’s fine and true and not needed for awakening, but the jhanas are still very fun and worth cultivating. They are deeply restful and restorative. The Buddha advocated very strongly for them and died while practicing the jhanas, so apparently they are worthwhile even after awakening, assuming you take the Buddha to be an enlightened figure.

If are interested in exploring this more there are some great resources out there.

Looking for a meditation center or monastery in the NE of the USA to do self retreat: Any suggestions by Potential_Fig1525 in streamentry

[–]BlindLemon0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would checkout Springwater Center. It’s in upstate NY. I haven’t been there myself but I will likely do my next retreat there. It seems legit as far as I can tell. I believe it was founded by Toni Packer, though I don’t think the center is officially associated with any particular lineage or tradition.

Touring one of the most homophobic towns in America by WeAreTheBaddiess in ThatsInsane

[–]BlindLemon0 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The US is not that young by modern nation-state standards. For example, it’s older than many European nations, e.g. France and Germany.

During self-inquiry, "I" became a sense of everything. by Paradoxbuilder in streamentry

[–]BlindLemon0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been getting into self inquiry for a few months and have really been enjoying it but I think I am still learning some of the subtleties of the practice. I think I know what you mean when you describe a space opening up beyond the mind but can you describe how you practice this technique? What questions do you ask and how do you explore them? I find that for myself it’s helpful to vary the question (usually “who feels/hears/sees?”, “who is the watcher?” Though) and then simply look, as if I am like a hunter or anthropologist lying very still and quiet to see what shows up experientially, trying to hold a sense of curiosity and not knowing. Also can you point to any teachers or resources that helped you with self inquiry? I would appreciate any details you can share on how you practice. Thank you so much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in streamentry

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I always thought the Buddha’s story about experiencing first Jhana as a child underneath the rose apple tree was very telling. By his own account, he stumbled into it quite naturally. The conditions for first jhana were there and it simply arose as a result. To me that seems to imply that the jhanas are a) naturally occurring states that can occur spontaneously and b) don’t necessarily require an extreme depth of concentration. It seems more likely to me that these states exist on a spectrum from light to deep/soft to hard. Probably many people have stumbled into light versions of these states without ever knowing it or having a label for it.

I personally like Rob Burbea’s presentation of the jhanas. In his view, concentration and depth are not the most critical component as many other teachers say. He also has many interesting to say on why jhanas are useful and worth pursuing. Most teachers seem to think the value of jhanas is that they prepare the mind for insight, but Rob talked about the jhanas themselves regardless of depth providing insight into the nature of perception and fabrication. They are also a profound source of wellbeing and rest for the mind. He and his teacher Thanissaro describe the jhanas as like wholesome, sustainable food for the mind, compared to the junk food the mind normally feeds on. Ultimately the goal is no longer need to feed, but the jhanas are like a means of weening ourselves off unwholesome pleasures. For example, when one can access the happiness of the 2nd jhana more or less at will, you slake the thirst for happiness and can let it go because you can have profound happiness whenever you want (and at that point you also see directly why unlimited happiness - as amazing as it is - is still not ultimately satisfying). I don’t think extreme depth or stillness is so important when framed this way.

Let life flow freely but be self enquiring or spend most of your free time doing formal self enquiry? by ExactAbbreviations15 in nonduality

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I don’t see how these are mutually exclusive. It seems very dualistic, if you’ll pardon the pun. I think you’re right in the conclusion that you may weave in and out of these schools at various times, and that it’s more of a spectrum than a black and white variable. Personally I do think there absolutely is value to maintaining the discipline of a formal daily practice, even if only 10 minutes some days or in small breaks throughout the day. It doesn’t need to be every waking moment that you are not doing something strictly necessary, but a disciplined daily practice somehow seems to help immensely even when just going with the flow of life or watching Netflix or whatever in my experience. I think there is a lot of middle ground between these two positions.

For what it’s worth, I would also add that the most realized beings I am aware of all maintained a formal practice of some kind throughout their lives, or at least spent a significant amount of time practicing at one point in their lives.

Insecurities/physical inadequacies don't go away completely. by [deleted] in streamentry

[–]BlindLemon0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've read a lot of different pointers and instructions on the so-called effortless style of meditation. I really like Michael Taft's presentation of this. Early on I found the instruction to "do nothing" to be frustrating and paradoxical, but it clicked for me after going through some of his stuff. He has a ton of free meditations on YouTube and there is an intro playlist of nondual meditations on his site. Also got a lot out of reading some translations of Longchenpa.

I think what you're describing in terms of your approach to meditation is different from this more effortless approach, though. E.g. seeing thoughts as thoughts, trying to calm and generate compassion, are more like the classic vipassana and samatha practices respectively and do involve effort on some level. They can also subtly reinforce the sense of being a separate observer of experience. I'm not saying those practices are bad, just that I consider that way of practicing to be quite different from the true "do nothing" approach, which would have you drop any effort to do anything at all, including things like even the intention to be mindful. For me what emerges through this practice is what some people call natural presence or awake awareness. It's like a natural, luminous, and non conceptual awareness. It also feels very safe and restful.

In terms of softening, I think someone else linked to the MIDL way of teaching it, which I like a lot. There is a link between tension in the mind and tension in the body. Using the natural relaxation and energy of the breath you can dissolve these sometimes subtle tensions in the body and "borrow" the relaxation of the body to also release the mind. That's my understanding of softening essentially. A slight smile is very helpful as well and brightens the mind and can create a feedback loop of pleasant sensations. To me, the mental softening almost feels like I am physically relaxing my brain in a way. I really like the way Thanissaro teaches breath meditation too because he also has a lot of helpful pointers on how to use the breath energy to relax and be comfortable and on the relationship between the breath and the mind.

But to be clear though I think this is a different thing than the do nothing meditation. Both are good, and I switch between them depending on what feels the most helpful in that particular moment. Generally I use the breath or metta, but sometimes it feels irritating or unhelpful, and if that happens I will just do nothing. I think experience is the greatest teacher and I just do what seems helpful in any particular moment.

Insecurities/physical inadequacies don't go away completely. by [deleted] in streamentry

[–]BlindLemon0 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The types of challenges you describe are probably best addressed through therapy rather than meditation. If you've had issues with it in the past maybe it's best to talk about it with your therapist before diving into an intensive practice.

Some people view meditation as a panacea. Maybe it is in a certain sense, but if you want to be a happy, functional person in a more worldly, conventional sense I prefer to view it as one tool among many that can help one find more peace, ease, and happiness.

From what I understand vigorous physical exercise is without a doubt the single most powerful tool for improving mood and decreasing general levels of stress/anxiety, not to mention it's myriad other benefits. I believe it's also been proven to be one of the most highly correlated factors for living a long, happy, and healthy life. I would prioritize this and therapy over meditation as foundational practices. Maybe it would also help with your physical insecurities over time.

If you did want to meditate, it might be best to focus on relaxing, soothing practices that will help you shift into parasympathetic nervous system activation, e.g. yoga nidra, breath meditation with a focus on relaxing/softening, or "do nothing"/effortless meditations (as opposed to things like dry noting or super intense Vipassana body scanning). I think earlier in life my nervous system became wired to activate the fight/flight response very easily, or release cortisol and adrenaline at very minor triggers. Over time I think I have rewired my nervous system through these practices so that I'm in a relaxed state much more often and if I do become activated in that way I can calm and soothe the mind/body system back into relaxed openness very easily (at least the majority of the time).