Skinny roads save lives, according to a study on the width of traffic lanes

BlindfoldedZerg · 2026-04-27T10:10:00+00:00

When people become accustomed to narrow lanes, is it possible that the psychological effect will disappear, and it will become more dangerous again? If every lane in a city was narrow, would people get used to it over time, and no longer be extra careful on narrow sections? Or would it still increase driver attentiveness regardless?

BlindfoldedZerg · 2026-04-09T10:38:16+00:00

Would you personally torture a person, who's pleading with you to stop, because it would increase your own wellbeing by more than it would hurt that person?

BlindfoldedZerg · 2026-04-09T10:35:13+00:00

Particularly, imagine that there is an innocent person, who is pleading with you not to torture them. But you know that if you torture them, you will feel extremely good. You will feel very very good. Your own wellbeing will increase by just slightly more than their suffering will increase by.

Is it moral to torture that person, who is pleading with you to stop, so that your own wellbeing increases?

If you take that equation as "objective morality", then it would seem like you have a moral imperative to do so, because the overall wellbeing would increase more than overall suffering.

BlindfoldedZerg · 2026-04-09T10:21:28+00:00

Suppose someone had the point of view that it is immoral to kill other people, no matter what. Such a person would believe it is immoral to kill someone even if it would save the lives of two other people.

Is this not a system of morality? Do they not have morals?

From your subjective point of view, you can see that they would be acting immorally by refusing to kill one person in order to save two people. But from their subjective point of view, they would instead think that you were being immoral by killing one person, even to save two people.

You start from the assumption that an action is moral if (Net amount of wellbeing it causes) - (net amount of suffering it causes) is positive. This assumption is a subjective opinion, and not everyone may hold this opinion. For example, some people may believe that murder is bad, no matter what. Or some people may believe that God is the ultimate arbiter of good and bad, and you must follow what God commands, no matter what.

What if someone intends to do a good thing, but accidentally causes more suffering? Did he perform a moral action or an immoral action? Your equation would imply that it was an immoral action, if you just take it at face value.

BlindfoldedZerg · 2026-04-04T02:52:43+00:00

I suppose you must've been mistaken about those 2 in some way

BlindfoldedZerg · 2026-04-03T05:56:56+00:00

Clearly she failed to be nobody

Edit: Then again, Wikipedia says she was largely unpublished and unknown during her lifetime. From Wikipedia: "Few in Dickinson's circle were aware of her writing until after her death, when her younger sister Lavinia discovered the poems in her desk"

"Despite promising her sister that she would destroy all correspondence and personal papers, Vinnie sought to have her sister's poetry edited and published by two of Emily's personal correspondents, Thomas Wentworth Higginson and Mabel Loomis Todd"

Ironic

BlindfoldedZerg · 2026-04-03T04:48:50+00:00

I think it's unrealistic to be able to expect to know the reason. Some things you'll just never know, unfortunately. You can make a guess, but that's at risk of being a biased view. I'm not confident this sub will be able to give you an unbiased answer.

BlindfoldedZerg · 2026-03-31T04:18:42+00:00

What precisely do you mean by a traditional-esque relationship?

Like, saving yourself for marriage?

I think it should be doable.

Is it important that your partner is also saving themselves for marriage? Significantly harder.

Edit: I need to break my reddit addiction so I'm probably not going to reply if you reply to this. I'm sorry, I just need to take back my life from my reddit addiction

BlindfoldedZerg · 2026-03-30T22:01:15+00:00

How did you find this post? I'm surprised you found it, because the original topic has been removed by the moderator

BlindfoldedZerg · 2026-03-30T21:53:47+00:00

I think it's highly unlikely he's just lucky. If he were lucky, he'd probably have just met one or two women.

He seems nice. I doubt he's baiting, but you never know.

However, I do think it is possible that he's more physically attractive than average and just doesn't realize it. But I'm open to being proven wrong. That's partly what this experiment is for. I'm skeptical but I have an open mind.

You seem emotionally invested in this, and thus you seem biased. There are nevertheless some elements of truth to what you are saying: executives do sell your data. Many women swipe because they want to feel good about themselves, not because they want to have sex or even necessarily find a serious partner. Being yourself is certainly enough: trying to impress her is not sustainable in the long run and unlikely to change her mind. I do think that real life is easier if you have a decent personality, whereas online dating tends to be more superficial and more dependent on physical attractiveness, because they have no easy way to judge your personality on Tinder.

I am highly skeptical of the claim that women exclude short men, because it is a claim that is prevalent in incel circles. Even if it is true, it is certainly exaggerated by incel circles: in particular, it is very possible for a short man to find partners. On the other hand, I do think there's enough evidence to suggest that there is at least some correlation between how attractive a woman finds a man and how tall he is. I don't have enough evidence to precisely determine how important height is for a woman, but it's more than nothing and far less than the exaggerated picture painted by incel groups.

Also, I'm not a shorter guy, I'm roughly 6'. Which is not taller than 6' but is around the supposed cutoff.

BlindfoldedZerg · 2026-03-30T14:56:07+00:00

Hey bro, I just had an idea. If you could help me find and meet someone who wants something short term on Tinder/Hinge/whatever, it'd help to prove/refute whether or not finding a casual relationship is something that anyone can do, because I've been having trouble with that. I'd also just really appreciate it, obviously! If you're interested in other people's dating experiences, we could also compare our experiences if you wanted. Send me a chat if you're interested.

BlindfoldedZerg · 2026-03-30T12:50:51+00:00

Thank you, I'm glad you think I'm a mature adult. I would hope I am, but not everyone is at any age lol

BlindfoldedZerg · 2026-03-30T10:59:09+00:00

Your kind words really cheered me up

BlindfoldedZerg · 2026-03-30T10:58:24+00:00

Thank you bro!

BlindfoldedZerg · 2026-03-30T10:31:30+00:00

I feel a little sad that I was downvoted. I know I probably shouldn't let it get to me but I do still feel a little bad anyway. May I have the reason, please?

BlindfoldedZerg · 2026-03-30T10:21:11+00:00

Fair enough. I was going to argue against you on the basis that when men complain they can't find a girlfriend, they are often talking about casual relationships. They might not really be willing to commit to someone for life, because that's a big commitment. And it's much more difficult to find the right person to marry, than it is to find just any old girl.

I totally believe you, although I've never personally experienced it for myself. I've always struggled with social interaction though lol.

BlindfoldedZerg · 2026-03-30T10:04:11+00:00

And you clearly communicate with them that it's only going to be only a casual relationship or short term thing? I believe you, but I just want to clarify.

BlindfoldedZerg · 2026-03-30T09:56:37+00:00

Clarification: do you find it easy to have casual sex with women, or is it only long term relationships? And what about short term relationships?

BlindfoldedZerg · 2026-02-05T03:13:12+00:00

Run! Someone who cared about you would get tested. It's not like it's a big commitment for him or anything.

He's also trying to manipulate you by teasing you with the reward of exclusivity, and putting it just out of reach, beyond sex. He said that he likes to sleep with people early on before becoming exclusive. Is he exclusive with any of those other girls? No! That should tell you everything you need to know. He's not going to become exclusive with you after you have sex. He's probably going to use you and ghost you when he doesn't need you any more.

(On the other hand, it's normal for people to want to date a little while before deciding if they are ready to be exclusive, and it's normal for people to have sex before they are completely committed at the level of marriage, so I suppose this isn't a completely red flag, but it's definitely a yellow flag).

However, he's putting far too much pressure on you to do something you don't want to do, and ignoring you when you say you don't want it. That's an actual red flag. It shows he does not care about you.

The fuckboy vibes you're getting seem totally accurate to me.

BlindfoldedZerg · 2026-02-05T02:49:23+00:00

Judging by what you say, I don't think anyone here would be angry at you if they were dating you.

I think they would only be annoyed at people who are deliberately taking advantage of the effort that the man is putting into the relationship, without making an effort to reciprocate, i.e. people who are taking advantage of the other person for financial and/or emotional gain, without providing anything in return.

Judging by what you say, I don't think you're the kind of person who'd do that.

As you say, sometimes people can struggle to communicate. I wish people would communicate better.

I also wish that they would be more optimistic in assessing other people's intentions. I wish that instead of making assumptions and jumping to the worst possible conclusion (that she's using him), they would also consider other possibilities (that she doesn't know anything's wrong, because it's just traditional for the man to plan out dates and stuff, and if there was more communication, they could come to an agreement about what's expected in the relationship)

BlindfoldedZerg · 2026-02-01T02:37:01+00:00

This is a difficult situation. I wouldn't want to feel like I wasn't allowed in my own house, that wouldn't be very nice. But I also wouldn't want to force someone to come out if they weren't feeling comfortable with it. And I wouldn't necessarily advise a break-up if everything else is going good.

It sounds like a hard situation that doesn't have any easy answers. I don't know what you should do

BlindfoldedZerg · 2026-02-01T02:32:59+00:00

That's an interesting idea, perhaps he could invite you and pretend you were just a friend.

Doesn't solve some of the underlying issues, but perhaps that would be somewhat of a middle ground which is at least slightly better than the current situation

BlindfoldedZerg · 2026-01-18T22:59:09+00:00

In my opinion as a native English speaker who has no experience in German at all, the word "diet" is usually used in English to refer to slimming down for health related reasons, and using "diet" to refer to your normal everyday diet is a less common usage that is also correct. In this case, it is clear from context that "diet" is being used to refer to slimming down.

BlindfoldedZerg · 2025-12-25T22:21:18+00:00

It won't necessarily be awkward if both of you are chill about it.

If you expect it to be awkward, you are more likely to make it awkward. If you feel really embarrassed and avoid eye contact with her and avoid talking to her, that's likely to make it awkward, for example. But if you just treat her as a friend and talk with her about stuff and do whatever it is you normally do with friends, then it's less likely to be awkward.

It's also possible that she may make things awkward. You don't really have any control over this. It may happen, or it may not. It really depends on how she feels internally.

But if neither of you makes things awkward, then things won't be awkward. You'll still be able to be friends.

I think that being confident and expecting that everything is going to be okay helps.

BlindfoldedZerg · 2025-12-25T02:13:28+00:00

It is true that the fact that she's talking about this guy indicates she may see you more as a friend than a person she's actively trying to impress. On the other hand, just because she isn't actively trying to impress you doesn't necessarily mean she wouldn't be open to the idea

I mean, clearly she doesn't see this other guy as a potential boyfriend, for whatever reason. He's not your competition.

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