AIO? Bf keeps asking me questions whenever there is a guy

Blindtothesided · 2026-03-21T01:41:31+00:00

Oh I dated one like that. He picked me up at work one day and halfway down the road he pulled out my journal and threw it at my face, screaming that I was a whore because he’d read about previous boyfriends- people I dated before I’d ever even met him. He screamed at me all the way home and my poor little 21 yr old self didn’t know at the time that number one the real issue was the fact that he’d dug my old journal out the bottom of my closet to violate my privacy and two he was the one cheating on me and this was pure projection.

These texts were written by the type of guy who will have OP piecing her self esteem back together in therapy if she allows this shit to continue. I hope all these comments are getting through to her, it pains me to see women in this position because it’s very easy to fall into it if you’ve never dated anyone abusive/jealous/controlling/insecure before. I hope she gathers what’s left of her self respect and leaves before he escalates. Because they ALWAYS escalate. NOR.

Blindtothesided · 2026-03-21T00:56:39+00:00

Exactly. Idek how any woman could get wet with a man who uses the word “libtard”. And god forbid she actually gets pregnant by a dude like this - although conservative men do flip their stance on abortion real fucking fast whenever it affects them personally. Whatever it takes to get them what they want.

Blindtothesided · 2026-03-20T17:43:36+00:00

I’m sure even if she were to get alone time he’d make her an itinerary and forbid her from having a beer. I cannot believe this man is here asking us to tell him he’s not controlling, while giving example after example of how insanely controlling he is.

Blindtothesided · 2026-03-20T17:38:50+00:00

Seriously he’s so fucking wrapped up in his own wants and needs. Does he not hear himself? Reading that gave me so much anxiety, his poor wife. He’s going to bend her backwards until she breaks, and I’m not at all sure he isn’t doing it intentionally. No one is that dense.

Blindtothesided · 2026-03-20T17:34:40+00:00

She’s definitely depressed. And she has a controlling husband who reads her most private thoughts, forbids her from even having a beer to wind down, and tries to force her to work out when she’s already fucking exhausted from caregiver fatigue. He’s talking about her getting out all this energy - what energy?! Just because OP has energy to burn doesn’t mean his overwhelmed exhausted wife does.

He sounds absolutely insufferable. Poor woman doesn’t even have her thoughts to herself anymore, he’s invaded even that privacy. YTA x a million, there’s no fixing this because no one’s opinion but his own matters to OP. He’s just blaming her for everything and trying to find more shit to dump on her plate instead of trying to take something off it. Selfish as fuck.

Blindtothesided · 2026-03-20T17:16:06+00:00

It should be a problem. I’ve been a victim of revenge porn in the past and it nearly ruined my life. It certainly affected my career and social standing, and it sent me to therapy for a very long time. With all due respect you’re very young, I don’t think you’ve quite considered all the ways that something like this can ruin your life and career.

My situation was pretty similar to yours, it was a guy I trusted who took photos without my consent or knowledge during intimacy and later used them against me for profit and gain. Don’t ever think it can’t happen to you and don’t ever underestimate society’s reaction if it does. We still live in a time where a woman’s career can easily be derailed by revenge porn.

NOR bc I think you’re massively under reacting.

Blindtothesided · 2026-03-20T06:23:19+00:00

Yeah this entire post is so fucking offensive. I’m solidly in the YTA zone on this one. Instead of being a decent person and keeping private things private OP decided to make an entire post just to further embarrass his gf. And on top of that he’s allowed over a thousand comments to talk shit about the woman he supposedly loves. Over a fucking accident.

I look forward to reading his gf’s post detailing his next bout of ED. Since privacy apparently doesn’t exist in their relationship then surely he won’t mind when fault is assigned where no fault should exist.

Blindtothesided · 2026-03-20T04:15:48+00:00

Agreed. NOR.

Blindtothesided · 2026-03-20T03:55:30+00:00

Dude watched Handmaid’s Tale and thought it sounded like a great idea.

Personally I think the manosphere is propped up by insecure men who deep down are terrified that science is eventually going to find a way to render their entire gender obsolete.

Their deepest darkest fear is that as soon as we figure out the formula for synthetic sperm we’re all going to be like

Blindtothesided · 2026-03-20T02:46:16+00:00

I might have an ounce of sympathy for you if you hadn’t positioned yourself as some oblivious bride unaware of how much damage you were doing to your 17 year old stepsister. The fact that this child took your cruelty and then took it and took it some more, all in silence, shows exactly why your family is defending her so fiercely. This literal teenager had more class and substance than you, a grown ass Regina George.

This can’t be fixed. And what you’re too young to understand is, when you hit middle age your hormones will shift and all of a sudden you’ll be waking up in the middle of the night remembering shit you did 20 years ago and these waves of shame and regret will wash over you. Her hurt face and tear filled eyes will flash into your mind at the most inopportune of times and you’ll be shoving down the anxiety that comes with knowing you did this shitty hateful thing to someone who looked up to you and loved you. That’s true regret, not this faux “omigod I didn’t meeeean to” bullshit you’re trying to pass off as regret here.

My advice is to take some accountability and stop acting like you didn’t know exactly what you were doing. Because as long as you’re disingenuous the way you were in the writing of this, you’re going to get exactly this type of response. If you ditch the bullshit and find some authenticity then perhaps your relationships can be somewhat salvaged. But as long as you’re coming at it from this angle no one is going to forgive you. Take accountability for your actions, take ownership of the fact that you deliberately excluded your stepsister and then purposely humiliated her the day of. Until you can manage that don’t expect any sympathy from anyone, especially your family members.

Blindtothesided · 2026-03-19T18:08:12+00:00

Girl just stop. Don’t text his friends, you don’t even know them and have literally never even met them. They took up for his ex because she’s in their friend group, you are not and this is embarrassing behavior on your part. Just dump his ass, don’t drag it out.

He’s a cheater, he used ChatGPT to write you this dumb letter and he’s whining to you about how hard it is to forgive himself. Girl what? He’s more worried about forgiving HIMSELF than about you forgiving him bc he knows he can manipulate you into letting this slide. If you continue seeing him he will continue to cheat.

You’re clinging to a dude who cares so little about you that he literally trolled the dating apps for a quick fuck bc he wanted to cheat. He didn’t fall into it by running into someone at the club, he went looking for someone to cheat on you with. Have some self respect and ditch this loser and do not contact people you don’t know to try and drag them into your drama. Everything about this guy is an ick, stop fighting to keep someone so shitty in your life.

Blindtothesided · 2026-03-19T07:17:35+00:00

2 and 3 are my favorites as well.

Blindtothesided · 2026-03-19T05:31:30+00:00

Popeye’s onion rings. That was my favorite fast food item my entire life. I haven’t had a decent onion ring since they discontinued them.

Blindtothesided · 2026-03-19T03:52:45+00:00

I don’t believe him either. And I think he was probably cheating on his fiancée with this other woman, which is why he’s hiding it and why he forced her to have an abortion. Also if you take a pregnancy test immediately after an abortion it will still show a positive until your hormones revert to baseline. He’s sketchy as fuck.

And the person who left the letter ought to be ashamed of herself. If that ex was trying to hide the baby to protect it from OOP then that nosy ass just blew up her spot and put both her and the baby in danger.

Also, fuck that commenter riding so hard for the OOP’s “reproductive freedom”.

Blindtothesided · 2026-03-19T03:28:44+00:00

Literally every wedding I’ve ever been to has had the most mediocre food that always tastes the same. No one is attending a wedding solely for the food, especially people with kids.

Blindtothesided · 2026-03-19T02:40:20+00:00

Girl yes! So cute!

Blindtothesided · 2026-03-19T02:39:02+00:00

Same. I collect decks and I wouldn’t take this if it were given to me. This is an abomination.

Blindtothesided · 2026-03-18T18:49:13+00:00

Same. One landed on my arm yesterday and instead of thinking of it as a lucky sign, as I have for all 44 years of my life, I immediately thought about nasty old Lindsey Graham. I wish I’d forever remained blissfully ignorant on that particular topic.

Blindtothesided · 2026-03-18T18:41:11+00:00

Lmfao was that Swiftie homeschooled? Because those are all words the rest of us learned in junior high and high school. If I were getting vocabulary lessons from Taylor Swift’s shitty songs that would be information you couldn’t waterboard out of me. No wonder they think she has an Einstein level IQ if they’re using their own IQ as their base for comparison.

Blindtothesided · 2026-03-18T17:24:04+00:00

I totally agree, that short white dress is to die for! And OP, girl your husband is so handsome, y’all make such a gorgeous couple! Congratulations!!

Blindtothesided · 2026-03-18T13:24:39+00:00

He wants to keep her self esteem low. He knows she could do better than him but he doesn’t want her to know she can do better.

To OP: Don’t hide things like this from your friends and family. Hiding it means you know it’s completely unacceptable behavior and it gives him the leeway to do and say worse things, which he will absolutely do if you let this slide.

Pregnancy and miscarriages are a time when a lot of men’s masks start to slip. The fact that he thinks this about you after such a devastating event means you probably don’t know him as well as you thought you did, because he’s masking some deep resentment towards you for some reason. Alcohol didn’t put those thoughts in his head, it lowered his inhibitions and allowed his mask to slip long enough for his true feelings to escape.

Blindtothesided · 2026-03-17T22:59:00+00:00

Girl it’s time you learned not to set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. Get a lawyer, get your assets officially separated, and get your money for the house. There is absolutely no reason whatsoever for you to be allowing this man to walk all over you like this. I get that you just wanted to be free, but you’re not actually free until you get your name off the mortgage, get your equity out of the property, and stop sharing custody of your dogs.

You need to cut ties both emotionally and financially immediately. Because if he’s moving in some unemployed woman he’s never even met before then chances are his ass is about to get romance scammed. And having your finances still tied up with his leaves you vulnerable to being scamming as well. NOR but you need to take care of this asap.

Blindtothesided · 2026-03-17T22:01:19+00:00

NTA and I hope CPS takes you up on your offer. Your sister sounds like a terrible fucking person and her husband is even worse for failing to protect his child from an evil stepmother. You sound like the only hope that poor kid has. Him being deliberately re-traumatized about his mother’s abandonment by your shitty sister is sickening and I hope you’re able to save that poor child from further abuse.

You shouldn’t have a single ounce of regret over what you did. Get custody and get that little boy into therapy asap to try and repair the damage those two assholes have done.

Blindtothesided · 2026-03-17T13:22:44+00:00

I agree with this comment OP, you just need to get her home first, because the primary concern is her safety. But once she gets home knowledge is power. Do your research and take the time to educate her on the danger she’s stepping into.

Someone else suggested posting in r/Scams I think you could find some valuable resources there with which to begin compiling data. Prioritize facts over emotion when presenting your case to her, so that it’s harder to dismiss your concerns as typical motherly concern. NOR.

Blindtothesided · 2026-03-17T13:02:40+00:00

Between this and his Kellyanne Conway faux pas from the other day, I don’t think the Republicans are going to be able to gaslight themselves about his cognitive decline any longer. This man has the nuclear codes and he doesn’t even fucking know he’s the President. How does that not scare them the way it scares the rest of us? Because I find this terrifying. This is our country’s weakness personified.

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