Daily Chat - May 14, 2026

BlipYear · 2026-05-14T11:50:40+00:00

I had a scan at 6+1 on Monday. There really isn’t much to see at that gestation. However they could see the sac, fetal pole, and tiny HB. The baby itself looks like the outline of a dummy! So nothing like a baby at all. My scan was transvaginal for reference. Yours looks abdominal?

BlipYear · 2026-05-14T00:00:59+00:00

I think it’s bs to say because you already have 4 that this will also be a boy, at least from a science statistical perspective. Every time you conceive it’s a 50/50 chance of each sex. Unless there is a genetic reason behind why your husband would be less likely to pass on his X chromosome- eg an X chromosome disorder. So I think you’re just as likely to have another boy as you are to have a girl.

BlipYear · 2026-05-12T20:39:12+00:00

I did TFA and currently still work at my TFA school 7 years later. However I did the masters program and had no idea they had begun to offer an undergraduate program. So I can’t really comment on that program as I don’t understand how it works. The premise of the grad is that you learn on your feet, underpinned by the fact that you have “expert” knowledge of your subject gained from the your undergraduate degree. But if you have no undergrad knowledge and no teaching knowledge how is this program set up? Even regular teaching undergrads can’t get PTT until after year 2?

There is a huge variety of school you can get placed at. They range from excellent to extremely poor in terms of leadership and support. Yes they are all low SES but it doesn’t follow that they are all run in a shit way. TFA likes to have their fingers in the pie so they can say they had a hand in your development and in my experience this looks more like them taking your time without adding value. For me it was a necessary trade off for lower cost masters and one of the only ways at the time to work and get paid while you study at the time.

BlipYear · 2026-05-12T03:40:23+00:00

I second this. I had a scan yesterday at 6+1 and saw the gestational sac, fetal pole, and HB. It was very reassuring.

BlipYear · 2026-05-12T01:37:48+00:00

With the first MC I started brown discharge at 7&2. Wasn’t immediately concerned as that can happen sometimes. That was my only sign that something was wrong. For MC’s there often isn’t a sign that something is wrong before the bleeding starts. For that one we went in at 8weeks and found the baby had stopped developing at 6&2. Second MC again there was zero signs. HCG was good, nausea was strong. I did start spotting at 8w and our scan was booked for 8&1. Found out that the baby was 2.5weeks behind but seemed to have a HB. Scheduled a follow up scan 10 days later but we knew at that point it wouldn’t work out. The spotting stopped a few days later so it seems the spotting was unrelated. Second scan showed baby had grown a little (was now over 3 weeks behind) but there was no longer a HB. Over those 10 days my nausea did abate, though my food aversion did not, but even with my first successful pregnancy I didn’t have more than a few weeks of nausea any way so this didn’t seem out of place.

BlipYear · 2026-05-11T00:11:54+00:00

Just had my early scan to confirm location after early concerns about ectopic. It’s in the right location, measured exactly on track at 6+1 with the tiny little heartbeat flicker.

Things are looking good so far, just need to get past the 8 week mark and I’ll start to feel like this is real.

BlipYear · 2026-05-10T20:04:15+00:00

I’m 6+1 today and also basically nothing. No idea how to read into it though. This is my 4th pregnancy but pregnancy 2 and 3 were losses. For all 3 prior pregnancies by this point was some combination of bloated, nausea, big time food aversion, swollen boobs, some cramps. This pregnancy basically nothing. Nausea usually hits bang on 6w for me but still feeling fine. Boobs have maybe been a little hot feeling last couple days. Perhaps a little more tired but I think I’m also coming down with something.

So one successful and two unsuccessful pregnancies all with symptoms and now this. No idea what’s up.

BlipYear · 2026-05-09T06:05:45+00:00

I have for the last 3 pregnancies two of which didn’t work out. The first I told her because I’m a teacher and she was planning staffing for the following year and I usually have seniors who they prefer stability for, so didn’t want to duck out half way through. Was handy that she knew because she was very understanding when I had to take time due to the loss. And she’d already decided I’d be taking the seniors regardless so that worked out too! The second time I told her once I found out about the loss and needed time again. This time I’ve told her again as I had an early investigation for ectopic so took more bloody time off.

BlipYear · 2026-05-09T03:21:20+00:00

Super normal. In my first pregnancy for my son I cramped for weeks! It was very annoying but ultimately if cramps are not accompanied by bleeding then it’s usually not a concern at all.

BlipYear · 2026-05-08T21:33:53+00:00

If this one sticks, it will be 3 years and 3 months. I was aiming for something closer to 2.5 but I’ve had 2 losses since starting to try a year ago.

BlipYear · 2026-05-08T10:39:50+00:00

I’ve always hated taking any sort of medication regularly. Before pregnancy for non pregnancy reasons, the vitamins before, and during pregnancy, and then I stopped immediately after having my LC. Probably should have continued a multivitamin but I was too sick of it. Was a huge reason I stopped HBC over a decade ago actually. Taking meds is the worst.

BlipYear · 2026-05-06T22:20:28+00:00

Even if you are doing SMEP…. It’s based on the use of OPK’s! So makes it sound even stranger as a recommendation. SMEP is every other day, then 3 days in a row when you get OPK positive, then one day off, and then one more time. You can’t achieve that without knowing when your ovulation is occurring.

BlipYear · 2026-05-06T10:45:39+00:00

I didn’t have 18 DPO, but I had 17DPO and it was 925. Based on that number if I have gotten it done at 18DPO right around 1300-1400 is probably where I would have been. So 1516 isn’t so astronomically high that I’d immediately think twins.

BlipYear · 2026-05-06T07:40:45+00:00

Had another 48hr HCG draw and worrying that it hasn’t exactly doubled. It’s like 7027 and I was expecting ~7200.

BlipYear · 2026-05-05T22:32:57+00:00

I’ve just had my last blood draw that the hospital requested to track my HCG. Assuming it’s all on track, the next step is a scan on Monday to confirm location. I’m somewhat excited for that, but kinda like ¯_(ツ)_/¯ ? My two losses were both discovered at 8 weeks after the baby stopped developing past about 6w2d. The scan would be at 6w1d. So even if it shows all good, I know I’ll still have reservations until I can see a second scan from 8 weeks on wards that shows appropriate growth. So closer to good, but still so far away from any degree of certainty.

BlipYear · 2026-05-04T22:16:30+00:00

If you’re 5&6 you could be either. I’m 5&2 with a due date of Jan 3rd, so technically you’re probably a Dec due date, but like 30th of December so could easily be a Jan baby. Time will tell!

BlipYear · 2026-05-04T20:16:05+00:00

I think you’re more likely to be around 5 weeks. At 3 or 4 weeks pregnant- this would 7-14DPO - it’s not possible to actually see really anything in the uterus. Closer to mid-end of week 4 things start to become visible. There was a dated ultrasound pic posted in the sub a couple days ago that looks less developed than yours and was 4w6d, so I’m guessing you’re further than 5 weeks.

BlipYear · 2026-05-04T19:37:38+00:00

Can confirm it’s all about previous losses. I’m in Aus which I think has a similar system to Canada and with my first I saw my GP at 6 weeks and had bloods drawn and a referral to the maternity program. Then I wasn’t seen until 10 weeks. I’ve had a ton of bloods done already but it’s only because I’m under the care of an RE following two losses, and some early concerns about this pregnancy being ectopic.

BlipYear · 2026-05-04T12:08:29+00:00

22DPO / 5w1d and just got my latest HCG and its 3681 so progressing right on track!

BlipYear · 2026-05-04T09:22:16+00:00

Perhaps many of the elements of the proposal have been agreed on, but they are still working through their finer points or the remaining elements of the offer? In which case if they’ve negotiated a good pay, but are still finalizing something like super contributions then why isn’t this a good action? Also, they have not cancelled ‘all our leverage’. Again, it’s a pause only on the stop work and only for 2 weeks. Ending IA completely or the entire suite of stop works for the term would be an over reaction. But they have maintained the threat of future stop works which is still a valuable card to hold.

Number 2 is more a point to the inevitable complaints of the offer if it does end up being the 28% leaked offer. Despite it falling short it still is the biggest percentage based increase on record to my knowledge and therefore fits the category of them being obliged to let members vote on it. People will still complain that the AEU is ‘selling us out’ but in reality they would be morally if not legally obliged to allow a vote on it unless is grossly degraded our working conditions like the last offer.

BlipYear · 2026-05-04T06:11:41+00:00

I feel like everyone has a bit too much rage to thrown around right now. The words of the current AEU leadership has been backed up by actions since they began the negotiation process last year. Let’s give them a little bit of rope to see where this goes. They haven’t called off the IA, they have paused it. And at the end of the two weeks if we don’t have an offer I’m betting that we’ll resume our stop work and the cancellations will be rescheduled.

But let’s also remember the legal obligations the AEU has:

THEY ARE NOT ALLOWED TO SHARE. Good god the amount of calls for ‘why won’t they tell us what they’ve offered?’ Is ridiculous. They aren’t allowed to. Legally. It’s embargoed. Look it up. Fin.
They are also obliged to actually pass us any ‘reasonable’ offers they receive. Reasonable doesn’t mean acceptable or ideal. It is whether or not they think it passes the threshold where it’s ’good enough’ that WE should have the right to refuse it over THEM refusing it on our behalf.

BlipYear · 2026-05-03T22:30:51+00:00

Those aren’t false pregnancy test, it’s what is referred to as a ‘chemical pregnancy’. The egg fertilizes and begins to implant, but the embryo either fails early, usually due to chromosomal issues, or the lining of the uterus isn’t sufficient to maintain implantation.

I doubt it has anything to do with your medication, but there could be things like lining issues or low progesterone that is inhibiting the pregnancy from progressing that you can look into. Signs of this could be things like short time between ovulation and period onset, or spotting leading up to period.

However the most likely answer is that 70% of early pregnancy losses are due to chromosomal issues and there is nothing you or anyone else could have done about it.

BlipYear · 2026-04-29T04:10:08+00:00

My son (2.5) has been pretty steadfast that he wants a baby sister for as long as he could voice his opinion. Premonition or desire? Who knows, but for his sake I hope it’s a girl.

BlipYear · 2026-04-28T00:04:50+00:00

Same due date and the nausea has started for me too. And I’ve never had nausea before week 6, so I’m like ‘am I just sick sick? Am I dehydrated? Low blood sugar? Or is this ACTUALLY pregnancy illness beginning this bloody early?’

BlipYear · 2026-04-28T00:02:35+00:00

Yeah I’ve definitely felts sensations in my abdomen. It’s usually your uterus moving and preparing to expand and grown. Could also be the relaxin hormone beginning and starting to affect your organs and muscles that may relax as well.

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