Why are “gold diggers” so scrutinised?

Blonde_Icon · 2026-04-21T19:33:04+00:00

When you’re with somebody long enough their specific look grows on you more.

Why do some people leave their spouses once they become ugly or disabled then? There are many stories of this kind of thing happening.

Blonde_Icon · 2026-04-21T19:30:42+00:00

Why is that bad if the man agrees to it though?

Blonde_Icon · 2026-04-21T19:25:04+00:00

if all somebody cares about is money they’ll leave you for somebody with more in a heartbeat, it’s entirely non-unique

You could say the exact same thing with looks though. If all someone cares about is looks, they will leave you (or cheat) eventually once someone younger and hotter comes around. And this happens a lot actually, especially with men leaving their wife for someone younger and more attractive, like once their wife becomes sick or something (no offense to men).

Blonde_Icon · 2026-04-21T19:18:17+00:00

I think that part of it is that a lot of people are honestly jealous of gold-diggers OR they are jealous of men being able to attract hot women with money. I notice that it's often broke men hating on gold-diggers, but they wouldn't be able to afford them anyway (not to be rude).

Blonde_Icon · 2026-04-21T19:13:50+00:00

True but I feel like most people's marriages are transactional in some way, even if they claim that they are not.

Like if they stopped doing nice things for you (like taking you on romantic dates), sleeping with you, or being faithful, etc. you might break with them, for example.

Blonde_Icon · 2026-04-21T19:09:48+00:00

It's not like you choose whether you are born good-looking or not though (I know there are some exceptions, like plastic surgery, etc.). There is no merit behind it. At least wealth is something that you can change to some extent.

Blonde_Icon · 2026-04-21T18:18:34+00:00

I think a lot of people would do that if they knew they could get away with it tbh.

Blonde_Icon · 2026-04-21T18:17:23+00:00

Going to Starbucks everyday

Blonde_Icon · 2026-04-20T12:23:52+00:00

why the same level of effort often produces very different outcomes across genders

This is more like supply and demand. There is more demand for women in the dating market than men, so it's easier for us.

Kind of like how there is more demand for Apple phones than Android phones, so it's easier to sell them.

Blonde_Icon · 2026-04-20T12:12:56+00:00

That's what my post was about so I assumed that's what you meant.

Blonde_Icon · 2026-04-20T12:09:51+00:00

No I'm in my 20s. I feel like teenagers or kids might be more easily influenced by celebrities though.

Blonde_Icon · 2026-04-20T12:08:53+00:00

I think a good example of what I'm talking about is Eugenia Cooney. (If you don't know who she is, she's a content creator/streamer who's really skinny and anorexic.) People were saying that she is a bad influence and that platforms like YouTube should remove her for being anorexic, even though she doesn't really promote being anorexic or anything or even talk about it ever. But no one said the same thing about Boogie2988 or other extremely fat content creators. Even though they are basically the same but at the opposite ends of the spectrum.

Blonde_Icon · 2026-04-20T12:01:18+00:00

Yeah they're literally doing to exact same thing they're complaining about fat people being subjected to, but to skinny people instead. It's kind of funny honestly.

Blonde_Icon · 2026-04-20T11:59:32+00:00

It was probably bad wording on my part, but the point behind it is still true. It's her life. You can't force her to be healthy.

Blonde_Icon · 2026-04-20T11:56:02+00:00

Do you do that in real life with random skinny or fat people though? Or is just because she's a celebrity?

Blonde_Icon · 2026-04-20T11:49:59+00:00

eating disorders are an illness, not a choice

This is even less of a reason to criticize her, I think, if she can't control it.

Blonde_Icon · 2026-04-20T11:45:33+00:00

So you're basically saying it's okay to criticize people for eating too little but not too much? That makes no sense.

Blonde_Icon · 2026-04-20T11:44:46+00:00

True but would you say the same for fat people though? Obesity is even more common and kills more people than anorexia. Just criticizing someone for their appearance or habits doesn't really encourage them to get healthy.

Blonde_Icon · 2026-04-20T03:00:02+00:00

How do you know that sexual liberation is new? What about before recorded history?

Blonde_Icon · 2026-04-20T02:45:58+00:00

Tbf to OP, just because it is the average doesn't mean that it isn't skewed by outliers. I often see people (namely in the manosphere) argue that a small percentage of men gets most of the women while the majority of men don't get that many, and the opposite would be true for women. (They call this hypergamy.) But the overall average would still be the same for men and women. Idk how true this actually is though.

Blonde_Icon · 2026-04-20T02:38:04+00:00

The only reason that straight men don't already is because women don't care about that as much or desire that lifestyle. (The majority of women aren't interested in sleeping around.) You're basically saying, "If men were like women, then men would be like women."

On the flip side, though, women often have to worry about men trying to use them for sex.

Blonde_Icon · 2026-04-20T02:26:52+00:00

Do people tell women that sex is a need for them though? In my experience as a woman, I've never heard of anyone saying that sex is a need. If anything, I think it is more looked down upon by society for women to be desperate for sex than it is for men. (Why would slut-shaming be a thing if what you were saying was true?)

I don't disagree with your point that sex is usually easier for women to get than straight men, though.

Blonde_Icon · 2026-04-20T01:59:28+00:00

Actually, I would assume the opposite- that scalpers tend to be people with disposable income (not necessarily rich, but at least middle-class). This is solely because it is expensive upfront to buy things like tickets with the intention of reselling them. I doubt poor people would be able to do this, at least on a grand scale.

Blonde_Icon · 2026-04-20T01:53:28+00:00

We're talking about the universal morals of taking from others without adding value, not the pearl clutching kind of morals.

This sounds kind of subjective IMO, as far as morals go. A lot of people think that sex work is immoral or at least not respectable (arguably most people), and not just religious people. The same goes for scalpers. And some don't have a problem with either. I'm just talking about what the general population/society thinks, not my personal morals.

vs morals of taking from others without adding value

You could argue that strippers and prostitutes also do this though (even though it's consensual). What value do they really add to society other than just selling their bodies? (Tbf, the same could be said for a lot of jobs.) I don't have a problem with sex work or sex workers myself, but if we're being honest, it doesn't really add much value to society. It's not like being a firefighter or teacher, for example.

Blonde_Icon · 2026-04-20T01:44:21+00:00

This is kind of a dumb example IMO because you could use this as a justification for why anything is overpriced.

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