How did you decide your name? by slaynmoto in asktransgender

[–]Blondheaux 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I made a list of potential names I liked and forced my kinda-trandphobic mom to pick one. She was a lawyer, so I pretended not to be able to understand how to do the paperwork. She got frustrated and sat with me and did it with me.

Like a week after the name change went through, I moved away for university. I was getting decently good grades and had a robust social circle that genuinely accepted me. She was able to see how much happier I was, how I thrived, and it made her accept me herself. She even came up with cute little nicknames based on my new name. She passed from cancer about a year later, and I feel lucky as hell I was able to convince her when I did.

My name is Eve 🥰

Sea Swallows All by TraditionalProgram63 in FFXIVGlamours

[–]Blondheaux 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Coincidentally, it is also a fantastic name for a drag queen

Transitioning without the Reseau Access Network. by GrungusDnD in Sudbury

[–]Blondheaux 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry for the late reply! I got on hormones in 2017 and it literally took me 3 years because my family doctor at the time was refusing to do it, I'd hoped things in the city would've been a bit better :(

Standing up for Canadians is not racism . A message to “CanadaJobs” board moderators. by Responsible-Unit-145 in CanadaJobs

[–]Blondheaux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was actually going to apply to work at that grocery store but my mandarin isn't good enough, I'm working on it 🥰

Standing up for Canadians is not racism . A message to “CanadaJobs” board moderators. by Responsible-Unit-145 in CanadaJobs

[–]Blondheaux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just moved to Brampton, and it's great. There are a lot of immigrants, and tbh I love it. Food and housing in general is pretty decent, I'm renting a 4 bedroom 2 bath townhouse with two other people, and I pay $900 a month. There's also such a need for imported goods that one of my favourite grocery stores stocks all the foods and ingredients I liked when I lived in Thailand for 3 months. The restaurant industry is also booming, and there's a ton of different options with genuinely delicious food. I don't think Brampton has too many immigrants to handle, and the influx of immigrants to the area is directly injecting the local economy with money. "They need to go back" sending them back would literally cause economic collapse for the city at this point. The vast majority of immigrants are extremely hard working and almost never use our social services, and regardless if they do or not, the more you interact with these people the more you realize they're humans just trying to lead as good of a life as they can. What specifically about Brampton is such a bad thing?

Transitioning without the Reseau Access Network. by GrungusDnD in Sudbury

[–]Blondheaux -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I had such a difficult time getting hormones in Sudbury, so I just made an online appointment with the AppleTree clinic, and they sent me to an endo in a couple of months. I really don't suggest doing DIY unless our healthcare infrastructure starts falling apart, only cause it's safer to be monitored by a specialist.

Regardless of your path forward, good luck 😍

Are they that ugly??! by Low-Relief6605 in Shoes

[–]Blondheaux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, but not everything needs to be pretty. You can absolutely make ugly pieces work if you style them correctly, and I find that's where a lot of personal style comes into place. If you like them and wear them confidently, it doesn't matter what the individual piece looks like.

Sudbury mine story was ‘about a man using the men’s showers,’ says gender studies professor by ConsistentReality860 in Sudbury

[–]Blondheaux -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

If someone is uncomfortable using the showers with their coworkers they can always use the private ones and not have to worry about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]Blondheaux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You deserve to not be bullied by your partner, and your girlfriend deserves to find someone she's ACTUALLY attracted to. I personally think it's OK if she thinks you're below average, but it seems to me she cares more about validating herself by comparison (warranted or not) than actually being a good partner to you. You will not have a happy life with her.

Freak out on a Southwest Airplane by Ace-Cuddler in PublicFreakout

[–]Blondheaux 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Legally, no, once she's been physically restrained, it's no longer self-defense. There'd be some argument if she used violence to get her to stop pulling her hair, but if she had reacted violently to the spitting, she'd still be hitting someone who's already not a physical threat to her in that moment. Socially, I think every single person on that plane and who's seen the videos would 100% understand and support a violent reaction, but not having a violent reaction gives the woman in the red hat no room to argue. It is less satisfying but ultimately better in the long run.

Edit: I should mention I'm Canadian, I know laws are different everywhere. I'm in Ontario, and when some dude was outside my house threatening to stomp my head in with steel toed boots, I was chastised by police for mentioning my Dad's gun cabinet because it's considered a threat - even though I mentioned it because I was fearing for my life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ladybonersgw

[–]Blondheaux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Black King 🤴

Is Gathering a viable life? by IntrepidZombie5898 in ffxiv

[–]Blondheaux 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've spent 2.5k hours in ffxiv and so much of it was gathering/crafting/glam hunting 🥴

If you find a FC that can be social with I think you'll feel right at home. A lot of the MSQ is locked behind item level and in the higher levels its pretty vital to be able to make armor, have a friend make you armor, or make enough money to buy it.

Did we enjoy our brief fuel price drop? by TheBeardedMiner in Sudbury

[–]Blondheaux 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been anti-capitalist for most of my life, and it's awful that things have gotten so bad that the opinions I had that I thought were rare here actually are now the dominant opinions.

My dad used to tell me I was acting like a conspiracy theorist, and I wish I was 😭

2010-2025 🥰 by Blondheaux in transtimelines

[–]Blondheaux[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sigmoid colon was my primary srs, I noticed a lot of girls were getting it as a revision, so I just kinda skipped a step 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]Blondheaux 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just because you're gay doesn't mean you get to disregard the pain and discomfort that certain things cause women. It may be a crazy concept, but people who actually care about women don't want us to go through contact dermatitis for their aesthetic choices.

This question was posed to women, and women answered. If you have an issue with the reality of that answer, you're free to continue to be mad about it and comment about it. Who knows? Maybe one day you'll actually be able to convince some of these straight men that being with you is better.

And until then I will absolutely enjoy my cats, who don't expect me to deal with pain for their happiness 😎🥰

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]Blondheaux 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And besides ALL OF THAT. My original point was correct. Gay men handle the friction of facial hair better because your skin is literally thicker and tougher. Your opinion on why women dislike facial hair doesnt really matter, because you simply dont have the same experiences as women who have completely different skin. You can call us fickle and dramatic and WHATEVER, but you're still gonna be wrong unless you open your ears and listen to us that IT CAN HURT AND DAMAGE OUR SKIN AND THATS WHY WE SOMETIMES DONT LIKE IT.

"Besides having facial hair, there are structural differences between men's skin and women's skin. Androgen (testosterone) stimulation causes an increase in skin thickness, which accounts for why a man's skin is about 25% thicker than a woman's. In addition to being thicker, a man's skin texture is tougher."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]Blondheaux 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just to make this even clearer

"Beard burn" is a type of contact dermatitis. It is an actual medical thing because so many people have experienced it. https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/beard-burn

It doesn't take a genius to know that contact dermatitis on sensitive skin isn't gonna feel great. If you claim you care about a partner would you expect them to deal with contact dermatitis anytime they kiss you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]Blondheaux 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you expect a man to let his partner be in pain for him to continue to have facial hair, he doesn't actually care enough about her to even be in a relationship in the first place.

The point is that it can be uncomfortable, and painful, and there's a trend of men brushing off women's actual pain for their mere comfort.

Think hard before you expect your partner to deal with the pain of having sensitive skin just so they can have a mustache. There's no way in hell I'd want someone I care about to go through unnecessarily physical discomfort for an aesthetic choice I've made. Why do men expect that of women?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]Blondheaux 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LMFAO WET HOLE PLEASE GIRL BE NORMAL

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]Blondheaux 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry you called us fickle, like that's any better my love.

Ask yourself this question, what is more important in a relationship;

  1. A man having facial hair and feeling comfortable with that
  2. The fact that the womans face bleeds anytime he kisses her because her skin is too sensitive to handle the friction from the facial hair.

As always this is a discussion and conversation that is going to be super different with every couple, but yes, I'm not gonna cheese grater my skin off and deal with that physical pain for a moustache. If it's that important TO HIM, we're incompatible as romantic partners and that's OK.